We had discussed swinging / swapping / bringing a 3rd into our sex life for quite some time but it never progressed to actually happening. Then one time we met a guy, who was black, at a bar. He was definitely not the one for her and nothing happened, but it seemingly opened her eyes to the fact that I was ok with her fucking another man. And, given her history with black guys in the past, and her close working relationships with a lot of black guys, well things went sideways from there. Instead of us swinging together, she just decided it was easier and probably more exciting for her to just go out on the sly and get fucked by these guys. It was happening for quite a while before I found out. When I did eventually find out I was totally hurt by her break of our trust and we separated. She acted like she was hurt too and maybe sorry, but she continued her relationships with these guys after that for quite a while. Soon she realized that I was the one that was actually there for her and support her, and not just fuck the daylights out of her, so we reconciled. And from my side, I really missed her and loved her, and also realized that I was the one that kind of initiated the idea to her to begin with. We kind of re-set after that and figured out a way to make it work. It's funny though, these days we don't do much swinging, and I actually long for it, crave it in a way. She seems to have not much interest in it anymore, but I think actually she just prefers having these sexual relationships with other men without me being around, and probably misses the cheating part.
