How important is sex with your spouse

I think sex with my husband is important but not specifically intercourse or the physical act.

See, there is a mental aspect to this that typically gets ignored because everybody is so hyper-focused on the physical aspect. When I do have a lover, if I keep everything from hubby (sex and any stories) he feels left out and that causes issues. If I tell him a story and jack him off (even if I ruin it or milk him) then he still feels connected.

I know it sounds weird but that is how it works for us. Hubby can go long periods without physically having sex with me as long as he knows I am being taken care of and he gets to hear, watch or whatever. We're found this works best for us and has prevented any issues with hubby abstaining.
 
slinky1 said:
Not a big part of our relationship, he has never given me a penetrative vaginal orgasm since we met 13 years ago, plus he has had quite extreme PE issues all his life. Cuckolding isn't a deal breaker for me, it only itches a scratch I have once a month or so, but I'm not too sure we'd still be together had I not been able to seek satisfaction elsewhere when I want it. Its a bit like going on a holiday and getting upgraded to first class, its nice, its fun, but i'm used to flying economy so penetrative sex for us isn't a major part of sex for us, as long as I get an upgrade every now and then, i'm fine with all of it. :)
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Mrs Slink, great to hear from you. Well said.
 
sbcplseeking1 said:
I think sex with my husband is important but not specifically intercourse or the physical act.

See, there is a mental aspect to this that typically gets ignored because everybody is so hyper-focused on the physical aspect. When I do have a lover, if I keep everything from hubby (sex and any stories) he feels left out and that causes issues. If I tell him a story and jack him off (even if I ruin it or milk him) then he still feels connected.

I know it sounds weird but that is how it works for us. Hubby can go long periods without physically having sex with me as long as he knows I am being taken care of and he gets to hear, watch or whatever. We're found this works best for us and has prevented any issues with hubby abstaining.
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Sbcpl, quick question - do you and hubby have a lot of sex without a bull or without the fantasy of the lifestyle? Or is the mental stimulation and connection you are talking about coming from what you guys are doing in the lifestyle
 
Rovag66 said:
I think it’s important for us women to tell our partner how to make us feel good and the way to make us cum. I’m sure you know how to cum when you mastrubate
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Rovag, so important for women by themselves and with their man to investigate their bodies and what brings most amount of pleasure - how much, what kinda of pressure. I think we need to appreciate the process toward the orgasm and not just the orgasm itself. The process can be very fun and orgasm even more powerful after trying to get it with the man you love.

I think we are used to watching porn and how thry show orgasms and we miss the whole sensuality portion which can be so good.
 
Anthony0542 said:
Sbcpl, quick question - do you and hubby have a lot of sex without a bull or without the fantasy of the lifestyle? Or is the mental stimulation and connection you are talking about coming from what you guys are doing in the lifestyle
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It depends on our moods really. If he is feeling submissive and wants to be in his cuckold mind, we'll use toys on me, he will perform oral or I will masturbate. I will, in turn, milk him, ruin his orgasm or lock him up. We really do not have one thing we consistently do because we're fairly open-minded and just want to please one another.

Still mentally goes for both with a lover, using toys or masturbating. The mental stimulation just kicks my sexual interaction up so unbelievable levels.
 
sbcplseeking1 said:
I think sex with my husband is important but not specifically intercourse or the physical act.

See, there is a mental aspect to this that typically gets ignored because everybody is so hyper-focused on the physical aspect. When I do have a lover, if I keep everything from hubby (sex and any stories) he feels left out and that causes issues. If I tell him a story and jack him off (even if I ruin it or milk him) then he still feels connected.

I know it sounds weird but that is how it works for us. Hubby can go long periods without physically having sex with me as long as he knows I am being taken care of and he gets to hear, watch or whatever. We're found this works best for us and has prevented any issues with hubby abstaining.
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Very interesting. Thanks for sharing!

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We have stopped having penetrative sex for about 18 months, and in fact my husband has just been caged after much trepidation and hesitation. However, it is still important for us to connect physically and make love in other ways. He uses his hands, mouth, and tongue on me, and penetrates me with BBC dildos, anal beads, etc. I used to give him handjobs or have him masturbate on his own. Now that he is caged, we are planning to let him out once a week for masturbation, cleaning, and shaving.
 
ErikaPeter said:
We have stopped having penetrative sex for about 18 months, and in fact my husband has just been caged after much trepidation and hesitation. However, it is still important for us to connect physically and make love in other ways. He uses his hands, mouth, and tongue on me, and penetrates me with BBC dildos, anal beads, etc. I used to give him handjobs or have him masturbate on his own. Now that he is caged, we are planning to let him out once a week for masturbation, cleaning, and shaving.
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Why don’t you have penetrative sex with your husband? I would never stop having that with my husband.
 
Mandy and Brian said:
I probably have more sex now than I did in early years of marriage when Mandy wasn’t cucking me. She calls it MacDonalds sex as apposed to gourmate sex she has with BBC.
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Mandy and Brian, in what way are you describing McDonalds sex and in what way are you describing gourmet sex?

Seems like sex with husband would be gourmet, much longer to prepare, love making, kissing and caressing and McDonalds would be sex with bull -highly pleasurable
 
Rovag66 said:
Why don’t you have penetrative sex with your husband? I would never stop having that with my husband.
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It’s a kink that we have developed over time. He likes the idea of being denied penetration that other men are allowed. After enjoying better endowed men, penetration by his average (at best) dick is pleasurable but not mind blowing for me. I much prefer his penetrating me with BBC dildos, which still give me an emotional connection with him, but better physical pleasure than his dick could.
 
ErikaPeter said:
It’s a kink that we have developed over time. He likes the idea of being denied penetration that other men are allowed. After enjoying better endowed men, penetration by his average (at best) dick is pleasurable but not mind blowing for me. I much prefer his penetrating me with BBC dildos, which still give me an emotional connection with him, but better physical pleasure than his dick could.
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My wife and I are nearing a similar point.
 
We love each other deeply, he's a wonderful provider, extremely supportive and a perfect partner to cuddle with. That's where it ends. We haven't had a physical, sexual relationship in years. Life can be cruel and take away a mans ability through no fault of his own. That's when a mans understanding of what another needs can be priceless.
 
Forcucksake said:
If my girlfriend wasn’t fucking other guys then sex is important, purely because even though I’m not the biggest or have the most stamina I still think it’s important to have that sexual connection.

I don’t think I could ever go 100% pussy free, I have nothing against those who do, but if she had a regular bull I’d be happy with sex every few months, preferably after she’s been gaped and filled with bbc. Other than that I’m happy to eat her ass and pussy whenever I can!
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You sound like a good cuckie boy.
 
margaritaeasy said:
We love each other deeply, he's a wonderful provider, extremely supportive and a perfect partner to cuddle with. That's where it ends. We haven't had a physical, sexual relationship in years. Life can be cruel and take away a mans ability through no fault of his own. That's when a mans understanding of what another needs can be priceless.
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Margarita, very thoughtful post...........
 
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