I think sex with my husband is important but not specifically intercourse or the physical act.
See, there is a mental aspect to this that typically gets ignored because everybody is so hyper-focused on the physical aspect. When I do have a lover, if I keep everything from hubby (sex and any stories) he feels left out and that causes issues. If I tell him a story and jack him off (even if I ruin it or milk him) then he still feels connected.
I know it sounds weird but that is how it works for us. Hubby can go long periods without physically having sex with me as long as he knows I am being taken care of and he gets to hear, watch or whatever. We're found this works best for us and has prevented any issues with hubby abstaining.
See, there is a mental aspect to this that typically gets ignored because everybody is so hyper-focused on the physical aspect. When I do have a lover, if I keep everything from hubby (sex and any stories) he feels left out and that causes issues. If I tell him a story and jack him off (even if I ruin it or milk him) then he still feels connected.
I know it sounds weird but that is how it works for us. Hubby can go long periods without physically having sex with me as long as he knows I am being taken care of and he gets to hear, watch or whatever. We're found this works best for us and has prevented any issues with hubby abstaining.