Ok here we go
Since you make such a big fuzz about me not reading you properly let me indulge with your own quotes.
"There are many different levels of trust If you can't share what you do interracially with a "best" friend and expect discretion I would have to ask how good a friend she really is."
As I have written before, with a best friend it
might be different. It does not
have to be, important distinction and as you might have read in my original post I went on to explain why. (see the coming out analogy)
Then you go on the say that if your peers do not accept you for who you are they can not be your peers. You also say society will never change if people are not the first to jump.
"Moreover, nothing can change if we all just accept the current dogma regarding race and status. Someone always has to be the brave one and be the first to jump. Strength of character is always recognized and those who are in position to be hurt by violating socially accepted but dogmatic principles of what is acceptable and what is not, are likely to be accepted and followed provided they articulate their reasoning to their associates and followers. Their credibility will outweigh and eventually change public opinion. This is true only if they have enough strength of character is follow their ideals and a deep need not to be hypocritical. While this could cause pain in the short term, the wisdom of racial equality is undeniable once thought out and if my peers can't think it out, they can't be my peers regardless of their social status."
This is exactly why I talked about coming out. You are talking about racial equality. (!?) This implies there is a morality in this all for the good of society. That is why I made an analogy with coming out as you can read in my original post. This is a subject I think society is actually being helped.
I do not see how this kink can help equality between races accept for creating a single race rendering this kink obsolete.
At some point it comes down to how well I live with myself. Pretending to be what I am not for social or economic advantage is self destructive even if I know I am doing it, if it violates my true principles. Ultimately, those who "respect" me must be those who respect who I really am. Only in this way can I truly have a 'best" friend.
Then I simply followed your reasoning; Pretending to be what I am not for social or economic advantage is self destructive even if I know I am doing it, if it violates my true principles. Well as you might have noticed it does not violate my principle and values and you can read EXACTLY why in my original post, if you had read it