When my wife and I first started talking about Hotwifing 4 years ago, I mentioned that I thought it would be especially hot to see her with black men. This sort of took her aback and she thought it was a little weird. She insisted that she had no racial or other physical criteria, she just wanted to be with guys she had a n emotional "click" with and who were attractive.
Our first year in was pretty bumpy as we learned the ropes. As luck would have it, the first guy she had sex with was in fact a black guy. But he was pretty terrible, no focus on her pleasure - almost no fore play, just straight to pounding away at her. She didn't have a great time and it was a few months before we tried again. The next 3 guys were white and real duds. Kinda dull in bed and no real spark - they could barely keep up a conversation with her and were "one and done" guys.
About 6 months in we met a great guy from Kenya, living in the US. He ROCKED her world! This guy took his time to warm her up, made her orgasm many times before he even put his cock near her. He was pretty big and at first hurt my wife a little. But he was gentle and soon she was having a great time! He became a "regular" but lives 2 hours away so we can't see him very often.
My wife tried finding more local guys but wasn't having much luck. She tried a few other white men and kept seeing the guy from Kenya. But then over time she was swiping on fewer and fewer white guys. We met a few more black men and had great experiences with them. Eventually she wasn't even looking at white guys any more.
Now 4 years after beginning, she's been with at least 20 guys and in the last 2 years all have been black. She would never refer to them as "BBC" - she hates that term. She never mentions the fact they are all black, and still insists that size doesn't matter. But it's pretty obvious the guys who get 2nd and 3rd dates are all larger.
I'm not going to push her on talking about it - she prefers to do more than talk. She's happy, I'm happy - Why rock the boat?
She says overall she loves the freedom of the lifestyle and the security of our love and home-life. She has said she could NEVER go back to life without some extra lovers to spice things up. She's hooked on THAT part. I'm totally cool with that.
Here is my question for members here. How many women here knew they preferred black men right away and how many realized it later? Is it unusual to push back against having a preference? I see so many women on here saying proudly they are "Black Only" and am curious about how that evolved.
Thanks!
