I was very much like Lisa in my 20's. I'm almost 32 and it wasn't until 25 that I shed the religious guilt and it wasn't until 28 that I really allowed myself to be a sexual being and indulge my desires. For me, it was very much about a patient partner that would propose things but let me call the shots when I was ready. Since I was able to be in control and act on my own timeline, I gave the green light when I was ready. It sounds cliche but a lot of this is a journey, not a destination. I'm still exploring.