Encouraging My Wife to Open Up About Her Fantasies: Tips?

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TOfuck

Couple
From
Italy
hi all!

I've got a bit of a situation here that I'd love some input on. I fell that my wife is open to trying new things in the bedroom, such as mfm, but there's a noticeable hesitation in expressing this desire. I believe it's because she's afraid of hurting my feelings or going against societal norms that promote monogamy.

When we talked about mfm, some days ago, she finally admitted she can be interested, but only after asking a lot about my feelings about ("but I know you won't allow me", "but you'll react badly", "but what you in front of another male", etc...). In that occasion, I've not openly said "yes, it's totally ok for me, don't worry", but I've tried to let her focalize on her instead of me.

I've always told her she can tell me anything, and, for example, I've been open about my own desire of a fmf (about which she stated clearly that she doesn't know if she can resist looking someone else on me, or "competing" for my body). She's comfortable talking about sex in general, but I want her to feel completely at ease sharing her deepest desires with me.

How can I make her open up about her fantasies and desires?
 
Why not start with erotic stories of interracial mfm on most porn sites or erotic stories sites. Appeal to her mental first. If that works try some soft porn with mfm and see where that goes.. If all is well from those steps try to find a gentleman black man who is patient and not smothering to her.. Once you get to that point maybe the flow will go with it and all of you can be happy. Good luck.
 
TOfuck said:
hm, I think this does not really solve the issue.
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u should take a move with somemone not only expert but must to know how to treat women not a jst dicked one , by experience i did it for moroccan cucky , i think u know traditions nd societal norms in arabic countries + his wife was sooo shy and veeeery vereeeery afraid , but i've changed both of thier minds after a few meetings ..etc , i'm her lover till the moment.
good luck
 
Thank you all for the suggestions.

I think that is not about introducing someone else to solve this, but more about unlock this within me and my wife.
Erotic stories and porn can be a good idea, even if she never expressed much interest in the latter. I'll try again.
Maybe some good soft film on mainstream streaming platforms we can watch without the "stigma" of porn site?

We've also some sex toys (remote control vibrator, dildo), maybe we can use them in different ways. Suggestions?

By the way, the hectic lifes we live don't help much in finding a good and calm moment to work on this.

Also, I don't want just to focalize only on mfm I'd like her to open up completely about her desires.
 
TOfuck said:
correct.
I think going straight on porn site is not the way to solve this.
Do you know any content on Netflix/Prime/Disney?
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Not right away, but I'm not sure many movies support multiple people relationships.. That isn't porn related.. Kind of why I suggested reading be more of a focal point that a visual.. Just speaking from experience with women's mental.
 
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