Encouraging My Wife to Open Up About Her Fantasies: Tips?

King Blue said:
Why not start with erotic stories of interracial mfm on most porn sites or erotic stories sites. Appeal to her mental first. If that works try some soft porn with mfm and see where that goes.. If all is well from those steps try to find a gentleman black man who is patient and not smothering to her.. Once you get to that point maybe the flow will go with it and all of you can be happy. Good luck.
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Well said- an communicate. Try some erotic images in her head by verbalizing them to her during foeplay. My husband does this to me and when he hits on a button I always get very horny.
 
King Blue said:
Why not start with erotic stories of interracial mfm on most porn sites or erotic stories sites. Appeal to her mental first. If that works try some soft porn with mfm and see where that goes.. If all is well from those steps try to find a gentleman black man who is patient and not smothering to her.. Once you get to that point maybe the flow will go with it and all of you can be happy. Good luck.
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good ideas..............
 
TOfuck said:
Is it much an horror? because will be very hard to convince her watching an horror movie...

Is there not a movie or series on Netflix or Prime that really go into couples exploring the boundaries of sex?
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Not5 a good idea- this is the little head thinking for the big head reply.
 
winterfalcon said:
When your in bed with her and engaged in foreplay, start running some of your fantasy scenarios by her. Give it some thought, you know what turns her on. "Strangers in a Las Vegas casino," "Young sailors on liberty in San Diego," "Thug gangsters who moved into the apartment next door," "one of your friends who has the hots for her and one night when the three of you had too much to ******* he ends up in bed with you guys," "blackmailed by a lover who has threatened to share nude pictures he has of you unless you service him and his crime partner." Guaranteed, she'll throw some great fucks on you and start giving it some real serious thought.
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These are "male" fasntatsies. How about you appeal to her feminine side and don’t take it to such "raw" scenarios. Perhaps a gentelman in a bar sits next to you both and you enjpy a few drinks toegther and he compliments your wife and she finds him very attractive... somethng like that. Gang bang sailors and thugs down the street in quasi ******* scenarios dont really fire up most womens libido... just sayin. Maybe some but most no.
 
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AnnieS said:
These are "male" fasntatsies. How about you appeal to her feminine side and take it to such "raw" scenarios. Perhaps a gentelman in a bar sits next to you both and you enjpy a few drinks toegther and he compliments your wife and she finds him very attractive... somethng like that. Gang bang sailors and thugs down the street in quasi ******* scenarios dont really fire up most womens libido... just sayin. Maybe some but most no.
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This lady is correct:)))))))))))))))))))
 
AnnieS said:
These are "male" fasntatsies. How about you appeal to her feminine side and take it to such "raw" scenarios. Perhaps a gentelman in a bar sits next to you both and you enjpy a few drinks toegther and he compliments your wife and she finds him very attractive... somethng like that. Gang bang sailors and thugs down the street in quasi ******* scenarios dont really fire up most womens libido... just sayin. Maybe some but most no.
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You are right
 
The hardest part for us/her was getting her to admit that she wasn’t sexually satisfied with me. That actually didn’t legitimately happen though until she cheated on me, but since then & since we talked through that she’s blossomed quite well.
Before all of that, the best method I found for exploring her desires was by writing erotic scenarios, judging her reactions to them & then slowly adjusting them to her developing desires to get the best reactions.
 
CuckQueen77 said:
The hardest part for us/her was getting her to admit that she wasn’t sexually satisfied with me. That actually didn’t legitimately happen though until she cheated on me, but since then & since we talked through that she’s blossomed quite well.
Before all of that, the best method I found for exploring her desires was by writing erotic scenarios, judging her reactions to them & then slowly adjusting them to her developing desires to get the best reactions.
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This completely puzzled me. Instead of you pushing her to another man why didn’t you communicate your issues with her to up your game in bed so she is satisfied? You sound like you wanted to fail and want her elsewhere. That makes absolutely no sense. You’re supposed to be the best you can for your partner, not the worst.
 
AnnieS said:
This completely puzzled me. Instead of you pushing her to another man why didn’t you communicate your issues with her to up your game in bed so she is satisfied? You sound like you wanted to fail and want her elsewhere. That makes absolutely no sense. You’re supposed to be the best you can for your partner, not the worst.
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Then you totally don’t understand cuckold desires…..
I do all that I can fit my wife - if not we wouldn’t have the wonderful relationship we have & have had for more than 30 years.
Just because you don’t understand something, or someone, doesn’t mean that they are wrong.
 
AnnieS said:
This completely puzzled me. Instead of you pushing her to another man why didn’t you communicate your issues with her to up your game in bed so she is satisfied? You sound like you wanted to fail and want her elsewhere. That makes absolutely no sense. You’re supposed to be the best you can for your partner, not the worst.
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I completely agree on this comment.
That's the reason why I want her to talk 100% freely about her desires regardless how much "strong" they are, and why I opened this thread. I want to give her the best.
 
AnnieS said:
This completely puzzled me. Instead of you pushing her to another man why didn’t you communicate your issues with her to up your game in bed so she is satisfied? You sound like you wanted to fail and want her elsewhere. That makes absolutely no sense. You’re supposed to be the best you can for your partner, not the worst.
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Your advice is always good, can you tell me more about what your husband does to keep you happy?
 
AnnieS said:
These are "male" fasntatsies. How about you appeal to her feminine side and don’t take it to such "raw" scenarios. Perhaps a gentelman in a bar sits next to you both and you enjpy a few drinks toegther and he compliments your wife and she finds him very attractive... somethng like that. Gang bang sailors and thugs down the street in quasi ******* scenarios dont really fire up most womens libido... just sayin. Maybe some but most no.
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You are right, and obviously I would defer to the husband. He knows what she likes, and if they have a solid relationship, she'll open up to him about what that is. I was just spitballing.
 
Jdingo619 said:
.Get her *******.
.Put on some BBC porn (preferably with women that look as similar to her as possible!)
.As she watches them take BBC ask her what she thinks about the woman woman taking that BBC and if she thinks she could take it?
.Tell her that your fantasy is to watch her take a BBC like the woman in the video.
.Ask her if she would take a BBC while you watched?
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Nailed it
 
@AnnieS : going back to the original question of this thread, what is you suggestion? How can I make her "coming out", not specifically on one or another desire, but all?
 
TOfuck said:
hi all!

I've got a bit of a situation here that I'd love some input on. I fell that my wife is open to trying new things in the bedroom, such as mfm, but there's a noticeable hesitation in expressing this desire. I believe it's because she's afraid of hurting my feelings or going against societal norms that promote monogamy.

When we talked about mfm, some days ago, she finally admitted she can be interested, but only after asking a lot about my feelings about ("but I know you won't allow me", "but you'll react badly", "but what you in front of another male", etc...). In that occasion, I've not openly said "yes, it's totally ok for me, don't worry", but I've tried to let her focalize on her instead of me.

I've always told her she can tell me anything, and, for example, I've been open about my own desire of a fmf (about which she stated clearly that she doesn't know if she can resist looking someone else on me, or "competing" for my body). She's comfortable talking about sex in general, but I want her to feel completely at ease sharing her deepest desires with me.

How can I make her open up about her fantasies and desires?
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Bring another guy in to fuck her.
 
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