Encouraging My Wife to Open Up About Her Fantasies: Tips?

[Mr W]

hm, I think this does not really solve the issue.

Getting her comfortable with the idea and talking to someone outside normal conversation with experience helps so she can see if that’s really what’s she wants

 

[TOfuck]

Getting her comfortable with the idea and talking to someone outside normal conversation with experience helps so she can see if that’s really what’s she wants

Talking to someone could be an idea, but maybe not in the very short term. Or maybe will be easier if talking with another wife or a couple...

 

[Wifeandmelooki]

thank you for the suggestion, but I don't think it really address the problem. I would like her to tell me what she want and explicitly ask me for, not push her into this or that. Just bringing one guy and say: "hey beauty, we have a friend here: why don't you fuck him?" is not a solution, in my opinion.

Well wife doesn't tell me much about what she wants and that. Know she likes sex, but telling what or that about it is hard to do

 

[TOfuck]

Well wife doesn't tell me much about what she wants and that. Know she likes sex, but telling what or that about it is hard to do

That's the point. Make her "coming out". It seems sometime she would like to say something, but she keep it.

 

[Wifeandmelooki]

That's the point. Make her "coming out". It seems sometime she would like to say something, but she keep it.

We had talked about swinging for over 2 years before trying it

 

[TOfuck]

We had talked about swinging for over 2 years before trying it

And she asked for, or you "pushed"?

 

[Wifeandmelooki]

And she asked for, or you "pushed"?

Was a mutual decision, I arranged for her to meet with a guy she liked from school

 

[TOfuck]

We had talked about swinging for over 2 years before trying it

when you started talking about, what was her idea?

 

[Wifeandmelooki]

when you started talking about, what was her idea?

She worked for an insurance company and told about the stories they had about other workers who had fucked when went on trips. She was interested in doing that

 

[TOfuck]

She worked for an insurance company and told about the stories they had about other workers who had fucked when went on trips. She was interested in doing that

Interesting. And was she generically interested in business trip sex or something specifical? Had she just told about these stories and you asked if she'd like to do the same or she expressed the desire to fuck on trips unsolicited?

 

[Wifeandmelooki]

Interesting. And was she generically interested in business trip sex or something specifical? Had she just told about these stories and you asked if she'd like to do the same or she expressed the desire to fuck on trips unsolicited?

Nope, she only mentioned it cause was going on trip and stories about what some did on trips

 

[TOfuck]

Nope, she only mentioned it cause was going on trip and stories about what some did on trips

And from that stories how you have moved on?

 

[Wifeandmelooki]

And from that stories how you have moved on?

We have been swinging for over 15 years

 

[TOfuck]

We have been swinging for over 15 years

wow. so it was just discussing about others having sex during business trips that lighted the fire?

 

[Wifeandmelooki]

wow. so it was just discussing about others having sex during business trips that lighted the fire?

We talked about swinging for over 2 years before we tried it

 

[TOfuck]

but you talked 2 years after that event of before?

 

[Wifeandmelooki]

but you talked 2 years after that event of before?

We talked about swinging for over 2 years after she mentioned about what others had done on their trips

 

[TOfuck]

We talked about swinging for over 2 years after she mentioned about what others had done on their trips

And you proposed her to do the same. How?

 

[Wifeandmelooki]

And you proposed her to do the same. How?

Well I arranged for her to meet with a guy she liked from school and wanted to fuck

 

[TOfuck]

Well I arranged for her to meet with a guy she liked from school and wanted to fuck

yes, ok, but I think that from starting discussing about what happen during business trips to arrange the meeting, in these 2 years, there was lot of talking. How you made it? what was her reaction at first?