Thinking about setting up my white wife to be approached.

Wife4Black77 said:
I think many people on here just don’t get it. A number of us have sexually repressed wives who have had it beat into their brains since they were little girls that exploring or even embracing their sexual needs and desires is not what good girls/women/wives and certainly not mothers, DO. That indoctrination comes from society at large, Madison ave., parents and especially religious teachings.

Many will go their entire lives not taking agency over their true sexual selves and it’s sad. Some break that mold but only after some compelling event (divorce, cheating spouse, slip up “under the influence,” another man flirting/hitting on her rekindling desires and needs she may have buried or forgotten about).

What I and others know is that if we approach our wives about non-vanilla wants/needs and they are asked or expected to take agency over the decision to accept or reject that activity, their indoctrination/training kicks in and the answer will be 100% “no way!”

But I know for my wife, especially because one of her big hang ups is she has poor body image (she shouldn’t, trust me) and she doesn’t think other men find her attractive, if we were away from home for a weekend, she had a couple adult beverages on board, and a good looking black guy flirted/hit on her, the odds of her taking the leap would go way up. This is the case because:

  1. When we are away from home she is freer, less stressed, much more adventurous and far hornier.
  2. She has known about my fantasy and how insanely it turns me on since well before we got married.
  3. Again, she doesn’t believe she is attractive and other men find her sexy (doesn’t help that she wears her wedding ring, doesn’t dress slutty, doesn’t go to bars and clubs, and she’s shy)
  4. A guy coming on to her is FAR different than her being asked to own and take proactive agency over a non vanilla sexual choice. It allows her to have cognitive “wiggle room” to say to herself or others if the situation came to light, “well this was an unusual situation, I had a few drinks, this younger good looking guy was coming on to me, we were on vacation, I let my guard down….. stuff happened. Normally I would NEVER do this but….”

My belief, which I think it supported by numerous anecdotal accounts on here regarding how wives got started in the lifestyle, they try something like this (fucking a well hung black guy with their husband’s approval and usually prompting), they get a lot of pleasure, excitement, satisfaction, etc. nothing bad happens in their relationship with their husband (quite the opposite many times), they aren’t struck by lightening, their ki-ds and other family members are totally unaware what went down, they feel sexy, desired, confident, self assured….. and they say, let’s keep it going.

At the end of the day, this would be about me creating opportunities for my wife to make a decision. No pressure, no telling the guy, “oh she’s a sure thing, totally will go for it.” Truth is I just don’t know. Assuming the guy is cool and polite, worst case scenario is she politely declines his overtures if they are unmistakable (if it was just sexy flirting there wouldn’t be anything to decline) and she would fuck me senseless later. That’s worst case.

If it were to come out that I arranged it, there would be bitching from her at me for a week plus, and she would never, ever believe a man coming on to her in the future was real and not a set up. If I were to find the right guy I think it’s worth the effort.
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Fantastic thought process....I want to follow up, send me an email so I don't forget. I can help, been here, done this, still do.
 
mw29 said:
Has anyone staged something with a black man to hit on your white wife, her unknowing you were doing it to her and if so how did it go? I'm really trying to look into doing it to try and see my wife reaction and openess to a black man flirting and hitting on her in front of me. Ladies would you be upset if you found out later down the line your husband did this? Any aggressive Black Men open to the idea of hitting on my white wife in front of me in a bar or club in the NJ area. We are not swingers and never ventured outside of our vanilla marriage (12 years) before but trying to lead her down the path to open her mind and legs for a dominant Black Man. Please any real input or advise. I do have a few other bedroom pics .View attachment 6578506
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That’s not really safe honestly
 
Agreed, please stay sane, keep safety always first. Now, with the right husband/wife, you might be able to "roll play" heavier ideas, but keep it there, play, role play. There's a million other hot things you CAN do.
 
mw29 said:
Has anyone staged something with a black man to hit on your white wife, her unknowing you were doing it to her and if so how did it go? I'm really trying to look into doing it to try and see my wife reaction and openess to a black man flirting and hitting on her in front of me. Ladies would you be upset if you found out later down the line your husband did this? Any aggressive Black Men open to the idea of hitting on my white wife in front of me in a bar or club in the NJ area. We are not swingers and never ventured outside of our vanilla marriage (12 years) before but trying to lead her down the path to open her mind and legs for a dominant Black Man. Please any real input or advise. I do have a few other bedroom pics .View attachment 6578506
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Find out which drinks make her hot and excited. Usually vodka, tequila and wine leave women like this. Mix these drinks with sweet drinks so your wife drinks more than she realizes.
Once she is like this, she will be more open and permissive. If she really likes black people, she will allow anything like that. I've dated several shy wives exactly like this.
Before that, find engaging porn with women who look like her being driven crazy by black men, with lots of kissing but also deep penetration. Then alternate other days with bad porn with ehite guys. Mais this mix, its works
 
DAlex said:
Find out which drinks make her hot and excited. Usually vodka, tequila and wine leave women like this. Mix these drinks with sweet drinks so your wife drinks more than she realizes.
Once she is like this, she will be more open and permissive. If she really likes black people, she will allow anything like that. I've dated several shy wives exactly like this.
Before that, find engaging porn with women who look like her being driven crazy by black men, with lots of kissing but also deep penetration. Then alternate other days with bad porn with ehite guys. Mais this mix, its works
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Great thoughts and anazing advise
 
In my opinion, setting up your wife is the most reasonable way to test the water if your queen is and in what level open to such arrangements. Why so? Well openly pushing your wife into accepting some arrangement that you thought of can backfire and light up her defence mechanisms and cause a big argument. When you set her up for a BBC, you position yourself as an outside player. Its like you have nothing to do with it and even if she rejects BBC, he can give you a summary of how he read her signals. If she is categorically against it, mildly against it, just shy about it, mildly accepting etc. When I think about myself in such position I would always set her up for a BBC as my first option, before pushing her into watching BBC porn or make suck some black cock against her will. To be honest I don't understand how guys don't have a problem with pushing her but have with casually organizing the meeting between her and potential BBC?
 
I've been trying like crazy to get my hot ex wife to try something like this with me.. just more teasing. I'm not a cuck but a big fan of men drooling over her. I had the hottest chic. Just wouldn't get in the lifestyle with me. Damn
 
Been watching this thread for awhile. I am trying tonight. Not sure how she will react. She is buzzing and in a good mood. Guy I talked to just sat by her a slot machine. She has no idea of the set up but he does. I'm not gonna lie i'm a little bit nervous. Mixed feelings right now.
 
TerryandLynn said:
Been watching this thread for awhile. I am trying tonight. Not sure how she will react. She is buzzing and in a good mood. Guy I talked to just sat by her a slot machine. She has no idea of the set up but he does. I'm not gonna lie i'm a little bit nervous. Mixed feelings right now.
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Really hoped things went well
 
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