The Screening Process to Meet From B2W (Couple & Bull Perspective)

[gw 7120]

thats because being a woman isn't a great mystery.
I think men need to stop "over complicating things"
There are so many couples that I talk to - that I Never End Up Meeting - Because the husband made things Too Complicated.
There is nothing wrong with pre-screening people. In fact, I say it should be a requirement.
But there is screening people and then there is just being annoying and having no purpose to what you are doing.

I have husbands who ask me the most random questions and I ask them point blank "what are you going to do with that information?"
And then they get "upset"? And then they start claiming that "I have an attitude?"
Oh? Ok. Meanwhile, their wife is lonely, horny and thinks that ALL men cant follow directions and disrespected their husband.
The facts are that women should be talking to men they want to sleep with - Not their Husbands.
And for the Bulls on this site - if you are talking to a guy who says he has a woman that he wants you to sleep with - Until he lets you speak with her - Consider him 10% real.
Bottom Line - Boyfriends and Husbands - Who cares if you have a woman that wants to fuck BBC? Or get BDE?
I guess thats great news and thank you for sharing. But until she is involved - none of us really are interested.

I agree!

 

[Lzzybby4u]

Be verified. If you aren’t I’m not interested

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

Not everyone is on B2W to meet, but if you are - I hope that you will read this post, add your comments about your own experiences trying to screen potential people, either couples or bulls? And I think as a community we can create some "accepted" protocols. One of the biggest sources of frustration for a lot of people in the LS is that newbies ruin it for everyone because they dont have experience and thus don't know "how to" navigate the LS.

Couples Perspective:
If you are open to meeting people from B2W, I highly recommend you post on your profile in the ABOUT YOU section "Open to Meeting"
If you dont want to fill out other info, thats fine, but just by making this known, hopefully profiles that DO NOT have this will be left alone. Its more a safety protocol online for the people that just want to keep things virtual.

But here's what you need to know from the Bulls/Men of B2W
1. Who are you?
2. How much experience do you have?
3. What are your safety protocols?
4. What are your limits and boundaries?
5. How will you guide us through this encounter with you?
6. What is your STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do you have a short term or long term relationship?

From the Bulls Perspective (I get a lot of younger, new bulls asking for advice)
You need to know from the couples
1. Who they are? (Both of them)
2. How long they been together?
3. Do they have any experience?
4. Whose fantasy is this?
5. What are there limits and boundaries?
6. What is their STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do they want a short term or long term relationship?

That's it for the online screening questions and process. If you like each other, then you should schedule a Virtual Date.
YES VIRTUAL DATES ARE no longer Optional. With CV19, I highly recommend them, they really help in the meeting process.
A Virtual Date is 30-45 Minutes. (I have had some go way longer, but I don't recommend that)

In the Virtual Date This is what you should discuss
1. Make an "On the Table List" - that means, everything that is open to play. Yes, you must discuss and get verbal consent to do anal, to do rough sex, to do bareback, to do anything. If you dont discuss it, then its AUTOMATICALLY off limits during your first session. [This is a HARD RULE and cannot be broken]
If you meet for a 1st session and either the couple or the Bull tries to discuss or do anything not "on the list" then end the session immediately and ask the person to leave. People that cannot respect consent and negotiation should not be rewarded.
2. Go over safety protocols. What this means for newbies.
Its having a Safe Word. The easiest and simplest word is "RED" that means if anyone says "RED" during play - everything stops ASAP and you take a breather.

In my experience, women have used the Safe Word with me because they needed to catch their breath. In the heat of the moment, I can get very intense and it can get overwhelming, especially for someone brand new. If I am in one position, flip her over into a new position and then start doing dirty talk, and change intensity and rhythm, its real easy for a woman to lose her breath. Thats why there is a safe word. She isn't telling me she wants to stop completely, but she needs a break. She says "RED" I stop, catch my breath, ask her if she is ok, she catches her breath, calms down a bit, and then typically she will say, "ok, im ready to go."

No one gets hurt, it builds trust and comfort. There is nothing worse for a woman to feel uncomfortable during sex. Fellas, trust me, If a woman knows she can stop at any time, she will let you push her limits because she knows that she can pull it back if she feels its too much.

Great post and great thread! The only two critiques I'd offer are:

1. For us "virtual dates" aren't mandatory at all, as it's difficult for us to find privacy in our home with kiddos who sometimes get out of bed at unexpected times, and extended family members living with us. That being said, ALL of the things you talked about happening in the virtual date are definitely mandatory. Getting a feel for everyone's wants, interests, comfort and experience levels, and eventually negotiation of consent, need to happen. But we've found they can all happen as effectively in a coffee shop, a bar, a public park, or in a three-way chat between the couple and the prospective bull, using Kik or WhatsApp or something similar. The latter is usually how we start. If someone is interesting and shows promise, we might start chatting with him. If he shows he's intelligent and interesting and arouses my wife in chat, we'll shoot for an initial meetup in a safe public spot. If that goes well, THEN taking it to a bedroom can be discussed. And I will absolutely cosign on the notion that ONLY what's been discussed and agreed upon is what will happen on that first playdate. If additional things occur to you that you want to try, discuss them and see if you get consent before the next meeting. If you've already talked about what everyone's into, you should have no shortage of hot and enjoyable things to do during that first session. There's nothing wrong with leaving things to be explored on future dates and keeping things exciting.

2. In the BDSM world, in my experience, "red" as a safe word does NOT mean everyone catches their breath and then play can resume. "Green" means "yes, please keep doing what you're doing," "yellow" means, "pump the breaks, I need something to change or be adjusted if we're going to continue," and "red" means "stop, we're done for the night." I realize not everyone has this experience and expectation. Hell, your safe word might be "Santa Claus," not everyone plays the same way. But a safe word needs to talked about well in advance of any play. And people who are used to the "stoplight colors" used in BDSM dungeons will consider that night-ending power of the word "red" to be sacrosanct. The reason for this important distinction is that when someone is in a vulnerable position, such as tied to a St. Andrew's cross with someone they've just met being tasked with safely and sanely beating the hell out of them, they need BOTH a way to signal that they need to slow down and reassess what's going on, and ALSO a way to signal to everyone including dungeon masters or caretakers that they need to be taken out of the situation. I've also seen tops or dominants be the ones to safe word, putting a hand on a sub's shoulder and saying whispering something like, "red, we're done here," when they realize the sub is so far into subspace that they aren't able to protect their own previously-discussed desires and limits.

Obviously, that last nitpick is coming from a pretty extreme and specific place. I just think it's important to bring up, because if you say "red is your safe word," to a new partner, it might give the impression that you're used to the same rules that many others, especially those with just a little bit of experience in the kink community, have come to understand as standard. This is perhaps a good illustration of why negotiation of consent is such an important step. There should be as few assumptions and as little guess work or interpretation as possible during the first few meetings with a new playmate, especially if power play of any kind is on the table.

Otherwise, great thoughts all around. I agree, it gets easier to separate the fantasy talkers from the real people once you've been through a vetting process a few times and refined your approach, and having a general starting point that anyone can use will benefit the entire community. I'll admit that even at our experience level, we haven't always remembered to have the safe word talk (though my wife and I do have signals she can use to let me know she needs help), but knowing how it works for groups of people before us, who've laid out some pretty thoughtful ground rules, has absolutely been beneficial to us. Thanks for getting a great conversation started!

 

[AnnieS]

I hear you on this issue.
Its good that you and your hubby have such a strong bond and relationship.
I like your name by the way, I used to play with a wife who was also named Nidhi.

Recommendation from the “other side” your media is full of partners but very very little if you. Add more so we can see who you are and what to expect

 

[hungteacher]

Recommendation from the “other side” your media is full of partners but very very little if you. Add more so we can see who you are and what to expect

Hi Annie
I want to thank you for commenting and also making your recommendation. I do hear what you are saying, but the reason my profile looks the way it does and the reason it does not have a lot of "ME" is because I dont use this site anymore for dating or meeting women and couples. Now that I am no longer in NYC, there aren't any couples or women in my area on this site. So, I will just be popping in to say hi to old friends and people that ive met over the years or connected with on here.

I must say that im flattered that you want to see more of ME. But if any woman or couple is interested in ME in a more reality way, or is in my area and wants to meet up. They can message me privately and we can have a real conversation. I'm actually uncomfortable with random attention from people I dont know.

Also, there are a lot of really good looking men on this site, I admit that posting photos of me makes me way too self-conscious.

I hope that helped answer why my profile looks the way it does.

 

[KatyMisbehavin]

Great thread for us newbs! Thank you!

 

[AtraNox7]

So simple and to the point, I love it.

 

[hungteacher]

Great thread for us newbs! Thank you!

ty.
I truly appreciate the comment and the compliment.

 

[Neilson]

Another great thread.
Thanks.

 

[Velvetminxx]

True that. Ive had to stop sessions mid way in the past because the bull has been super abusive to my husband. Definitely need to talk about what's on and off. Also, when we are not in "cuck" mode, I have to ensure the bull gets his own work done. My husband isn't a personal secretary.

Amen to this!!

 

[AlbanianQueen]

Not everyone is on B2W to meet, but if you are - I hope that you will read this post, add your comments about your own experiences trying to screen potential people, either couples or bulls? And I think as a community we can create some "accepted" protocols. One of the biggest sources of frustration for a lot of people in the LS is that newbies ruin it for everyone because they dont have experience and thus don't know "how to" navigate the LS.

Couples Perspective:
If you are open to meeting people from B2W, I highly recommend you post on your profile in the ABOUT YOU section "Open to Meeting"
If you dont want to fill out other info, thats fine, but just by making this known, hopefully profiles that DO NOT have this will be left alone. Its more a safety protocol online for the people that just want to keep things virtual.

But here's what you need to know from the Bulls/Men of B2W
1. Who are you?
2. How much experience do you have?
3. What are your safety protocols?
4. What are your limits and boundaries?
5. How will you guide us through this encounter with you?
6. What is your STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do you have a short term or long term relationship?

From the Bulls Perspective (I get a lot of younger, new bulls asking for advice)
You need to know from the couples
1. Who they are? (Both of them)
2. How long they been together?
3. Do they have any experience?
4. Whose fantasy is this?
5. What are there limits and boundaries?
6. What is their STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do they want a short term or long term relationship?

That's it for the online screening questions and process. If you like each other, then you should schedule a Virtual Date.
YES VIRTUAL DATES ARE no longer Optional. With CV19, I highly recommend them, they really help in the meeting process.
A Virtual Date is 30-45 Minutes. (I have had some go way longer, but I don't recommend that)

In the Virtual Date This is what you should discuss
1. Make an "On the Table List" - that means, everything that is open to play. Yes, you must discuss and get verbal consent to do anal, to do rough sex, to do bareback, to do anything. If you dont discuss it, then its AUTOMATICALLY off limits during your first session. [This is a HARD RULE and cannot be broken]
If you meet for a 1st session and either the couple or the Bull tries to discuss or do anything not "on the list" then end the session immediately and ask the person to leave. People that cannot respect consent and negotiation should not be rewarded.
2. Go over safety protocols. What this means for newbies.
Its having a Safe Word. The easiest and simplest word is "RED" that means if anyone says "RED" during play - everything stops ASAP and you take a breather.

In my experience, women have used the Safe Word with me because they needed to catch their breath. In the heat of the moment, I can get very intense and it can get overwhelming, especially for someone brand new. If I am in one position, flip her over into a new position and then start doing dirty talk, and change intensity and rhythm, its real easy for a woman to lose her breath. Thats why there is a safe word. She isn't telling me she wants to stop completely, but she needs a break. She says "RED" I stop, catch my breath, ask her if she is ok, she catches her breath, calms down a bit, and then typically she will say, "ok, im ready to go."

No one gets hurt, it builds trust and comfort. There is nothing worse for a woman to feel uncomfortable during sex. Fellas, trust me, If a woman knows she can stop at any time, she will let you push her limits because she knows that she can pull it back if she feels its too much.

Thank you for the advice

 

[jayson40]

Not everyone is on B2W to meet, but if you are - I hope that you will read this post, add your comments about your own experiences trying to screen potential people, either couples or bulls? And I think as a community we can create some "accepted" protocols. One of the biggest sources of frustration for a lot of people in the LS is that newbies ruin it for everyone because they dont have experience and thus don't know "how to" navigate the LS.

Couples Perspective:
If you are open to meeting people from B2W, I highly recommend you post on your profile in the ABOUT YOU section "Open to Meeting"
If you dont want to fill out other info, thats fine, but just by making this known, hopefully profiles that DO NOT have this will be left alone. Its more a safety protocol online for the people that just want to keep things virtual.

But here's what you need to know from the Bulls/Men of B2W
1. Who are you?
2. How much experience do you have?
3. What are your safety protocols?
4. What are your limits and boundaries?
5. How will you guide us through this encounter with you?
6. What is your STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do you have a short term or long term relationship?

From the Bulls Perspective (I get a lot of younger, new bulls asking for advice)
You need to know from the couples
1. Who they are? (Both of them)
2. How long they been together?
3. Do they have any experience?
4. Whose fantasy is this?
5. What are there limits and boundaries?
6. What is their STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do they want a short term or long term relationship?

That's it for the online screening questions and process. If you like each other, then you should schedule a Virtual Date.
YES VIRTUAL DATES ARE no longer Optional. With CV19, I highly recommend them, they really help in the meeting process.
A Virtual Date is 30-45 Minutes. (I have had some go way longer, but I don't recommend that)

In the Virtual Date This is what you should discuss
1. Make an "On the Table List" - that means, everything that is open to play. Yes, you must discuss and get verbal consent to do anal, to do rough sex, to do bareback, to do anything. If you dont discuss it, then its AUTOMATICALLY off limits during your first session. [This is a HARD RULE and cannot be broken]
If you meet for a 1st session and either the couple or the Bull tries to discuss or do anything not "on the list" then end the session immediately and ask the person to leave. People that cannot respect consent and negotiation should not be rewarded.
2. Go over safety protocols. What this means for newbies.
Its having a Safe Word. The easiest and simplest word is "RED" that means if anyone says "RED" during play - everything stops ASAP and you take a breather.

In my experience, women have used the Safe Word with me because they needed to catch their breath. In the heat of the moment, I can get very intense and it can get overwhelming, especially for someone brand new. If I am in one position, flip her over into a new position and then start doing dirty talk, and change intensity and rhythm, its real easy for a woman to lose her breath. Thats why there is a safe word. She isn't telling me she wants to stop completely, but she needs a break. She says "RED" I stop, catch my breath, ask her if she is ok, she catches her breath, calms down a bit, and then typically she will say, "ok, im ready to go."

No one gets hurt, it builds trust and comfort. There is nothing worse for a woman to feel uncomfortable during sex. Fellas, trust me, If a woman knows she can stop at any time, she will let you push her limits because she knows that she can pull it back if she feels its too much.

Well said man. I totally agree with you bro. Guidelines are key.

 

[hungteacher]

Well said man. I totally agree with you bro. Guidelines are key.

Thank you for the comment. Hopefully more and more people can take pre-cautions and have SAFE FUN!!

 

[nuno_eros]

Not everyone is on B2W to meet, but if you are - I hope that you will read this post, add your comments about your own experiences trying to screen potential people, either couples or bulls? And I think as a community we can create some "accepted" protocols. One of the biggest sources of frustration for a lot of people in the LS is that newbies ruin it for everyone because they dont have experience and thus don't know "how to" navigate the LS.

Couples Perspective:
If you are open to meeting people from B2W, I highly recommend you post on your profile in the ABOUT YOU section "Open to Meeting"
If you dont want to fill out other info, thats fine, but just by making this known, hopefully profiles that DO NOT have this will be left alone. Its more a safety protocol online for the people that just want to keep things virtual.

But here's what you need to know from the Bulls/Men of B2W
1. Who are you?
2. How much experience do you have?
3. What are your safety protocols?
4. What are your limits and boundaries?
5. How will you guide us through this encounter with you?
6. What is your STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do you have a short term or long term relationship?

From the Bulls Perspective (I get a lot of younger, new bulls asking for advice)
You need to know from the couples
1. Who they are? (Both of them)
2. How long they been together?
3. Do they have any experience?
4. Whose fantasy is this?
5. What are there limits and boundaries?
6. What is their STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do they want a short term or long term relationship?

That's it for the online screening questions and process. If you like each other, then you should schedule a Virtual Date.
YES VIRTUAL DATES ARE no longer Optional. With CV19, I highly recommend them, they really help in the meeting process.
A Virtual Date is 30-45 Minutes. (I have had some go way longer, but I don't recommend that)

In the Virtual Date This is what you should discuss
1. Make an "On the Table List" - that means, everything that is open to play. Yes, you must discuss and get verbal consent to do anal, to do rough sex, to do bareback, to do anything. If you dont discuss it, then its AUTOMATICALLY off limits during your first session. [This is a HARD RULE and cannot be broken]
If you meet for a 1st session and either the couple or the Bull tries to discuss or do anything not "on the list" then end the session immediately and ask the person to leave. People that cannot respect consent and negotiation should not be rewarded.
2. Go over safety protocols. What this means for newbies.
Its having a Safe Word. The easiest and simplest word is "RED" that means if anyone says "RED" during play - everything stops ASAP and you take a breather.

In my experience, women have used the Safe Word with me because they needed to catch their breath. In the heat of the moment, I can get very intense and it can get overwhelming, especially for someone brand new. If I am in one position, flip her over into a new position and then start doing dirty talk, and change intensity and rhythm, its real easy for a woman to lose her breath. Thats why there is a safe word. She isn't telling me she wants to stop completely, but she needs a break. She says "RED" I stop, catch my breath, ask her if she is ok, she catches her breath, calms down a bit, and then typically she will say, "ok, im ready to go."

No one gets hurt, it builds trust and comfort. There is nothing worse for a woman to feel uncomfortable during sex. Fellas, trust me, If a woman knows she can stop at any time, she will let you push her limits because she knows that she can pull it back if she feels its too much.

Well described and useful...

 

[DCBULL]

Good topic, and very insightful brother

 

[BNJ4BBC]

But here's what you need to know from the Bulls/Men of B2W
1. Who are you?
2. How much experience do you have?
3. What are your safety protocols?
4. What are your limits and boundaries?
5. How will you guide us through this encounter with you?
6. What is your STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do you have a short term or long term relationship?

I'd potential meets would answer this right away and provide a clean test result, they'd be much more successful in setting up a meeting with us.

 

[hungteacher]

I'd potential meets would answer this right away and provide a clean test result, they'd be much more successful in setting up a meeting with us.

Yes, verifying shouldn't be a long process. The problem is that too many people play games.
I have a lot of couples that message me. On this site and other platforms as well. They start off very nice and cordial.
But I know something is "off" when they ask me for a dick pic off the bat. As soon as that happens, I know im talking to a guy.
Women do not give a crap about my penis photo. They will see it eventually and they can if they want chat with other women that can vouch for me and give them any tips.

Too many people go about the vetting process in the wrong way. And couples that complain to me that it takes forever to screen, havent figured out a system. Back east, I used to screen men and couples for the women I was training. I would make a post with "verified photos" and then go through the replies. I could send a list of questions to candidates in 1 min. That meant, I could answer 30 messages in one sitting. How many can you do?

If you know what you are looking for, its not that hard. 99% of men, will refuse to answer questions. Guess what? Move on. Dont waste your time.

For example, this post is longer than most email messages you will receive. If you're a couple and you get a Bull or Hung Stud sending you a lengthy message that makes sense. PUT that guy in the Yes, let's screen them real time. Find out what questions they have for you. Any experienced Stud will have his own set of questions. Ask him - do you take the lead or do we ?

 

[sexywife2022]

Not everyone is on B2W to meet, but if you are - I hope that you will read this post, add your comments about your own experiences trying to screen potential people, either couples or bulls? And I think as a community we can create some "accepted" protocols. One of the biggest sources of frustration for a lot of people in the LS is that newbies ruin it for everyone because they dont have experience and thus don't know "how to" navigate the LS.

Couples Perspective:
If you are open to meeting people from B2W, I highly recommend you post on your profile in the ABOUT YOU section "Open to Meeting"
If you dont want to fill out other info, thats fine, but just by making this known, hopefully profiles that DO NOT have this will be left alone. Its more a safety protocol online for the people that just want to keep things virtual.

But here's what you need to know from the Bulls/Men of B2W
1. Who are you?
2. How much experience do you have?
3. What are your safety protocols?
4. What are your limits and boundaries?
5. How will you guide us through this encounter with you?
6. What is your STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do you have a short term or long term relationship?

From the Bulls Perspective (I get a lot of younger, new bulls asking for advice)
You need to know from the couples
1. Who they are? (Both of them)
2. How long they been together?
3. Do they have any experience?
4. Whose fantasy is this?
5. What are there limits and boundaries?
6. What is their STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do they want a short term or long term relationship?

That's it for the online screening questions and process. If you like each other, then you should schedule a Virtual Date.
YES VIRTUAL DATES ARE no longer Optional. With CV19, I highly recommend them, they really help in the meeting process.
A Virtual Date is 30-45 Minutes. (I have had some go way longer, but I don't recommend that)

In the Virtual Date This is what you should discuss
1. Make an "On the Table List" - that means, everything that is open to play. Yes, you must discuss and get verbal consent to do anal, to do rough sex, to do bareback, to do anything. If you dont discuss it, then its AUTOMATICALLY off limits during your first session. [This is a HARD RULE and cannot be broken]
If you meet for a 1st session and either the couple or the Bull tries to discuss or do anything not "on the list" then end the session immediately and ask the person to leave. People that cannot respect consent and negotiation should not be rewarded.
2. Go over safety protocols. What this means for newbies.
Its having a Safe Word. The easiest and simplest word is "RED" that means if anyone says "RED" during play - everything stops ASAP and you take a breather.

In my experience, women have used the Safe Word with me because they needed to catch their breath. In the heat of the moment, I can get very intense and it can get overwhelming, especially for someone brand new. If I am in one position, flip her over into a new position and then start doing dirty talk, and change intensity and rhythm, its real easy for a woman to lose her breath. Thats why there is a safe word. She isn't telling me she wants to stop completely, but she needs a break. She says "RED" I stop, catch my breath, ask her if she is ok, she catches her breath, calms down a bit, and then typically she will say, "ok, im ready to go."

No one gets hurt, it builds trust and comfort. There is nothing worse for a woman to feel uncomfortable during sex. Fellas, trust me, If a woman knows she can stop at any time, she will let you push her limits because she knows that she can pull it back if she feels its too much.

Great advice. We’ll be putting it into practice during our upcoming encounters.

 

[hungteacher]

Great advice. We’ll be putting it into practice during our upcoming encounters.

Im really glad to hear that.
Good luck.
One of my former Hotwives lives in the PDX area. I just helped her find a new guy to play with.
I am currently training a hotwife in AZ.
And the hotwife I trained in Brooklyn NYC is doing well as well. Her hubby didnt like the distance anymore. I used to live in NYC, so I had to find a new bull for them that was more local.

 

[Zsazsa4mfm]

Not everyone is on B2W to meet, but if you are - I hope that you will read this post, add your comments about your own experiences trying to screen potential people, either couples or bulls? And I think as a community we can create some "accepted" protocols. One of the biggest sources of frustration for a lot of people in the LS is that newbies ruin it for everyone because they dont have experience and thus don't know "how to" navigate the LS.

Couples Perspective:
If you are open to meeting people from B2W, I highly recommend you post on your profile in the ABOUT YOU section "Open to Meeting"
If you dont want to fill out other info, thats fine, but just by making this known, hopefully profiles that DO NOT have this will be left alone. Its more a safety protocol online for the people that just want to keep things virtual.

But here's what you need to know from the Bulls/Men of B2W
1. Who are you?
2. How much experience do you have?
3. What are your safety protocols?
4. What are your limits and boundaries?
5. How will you guide us through this encounter with you?
6. What is your STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do you have a short term or long term relationship?

From the Bulls Perspective (I get a lot of younger, new bulls asking for advice)
You need to know from the couples
1. Who they are? (Both of them)
2. How long they been together?
3. Do they have any experience?
4. Whose fantasy is this?
5. What are there limits and boundaries?
6. What is their STI and CV19 Status?
7. Do they want a short term or long term relationship?

That's it for the online screening questions and process. If you like each other, then you should schedule a Virtual Date.
YES VIRTUAL DATES ARE no longer Optional. With CV19, I highly recommend them, they really help in the meeting process.
A Virtual Date is 30-45 Minutes. (I have had some go way longer, but I don't recommend that)

In the Virtual Date This is what you should discuss
1. Make an "On the Table List" - that means, everything that is open to play. Yes, you must discuss and get verbal consent to do anal, to do rough sex, to do bareback, to do anything. If you dont discuss it, then its AUTOMATICALLY off limits during your first session. [This is a HARD RULE and cannot be broken]
If you meet for a 1st session and either the couple or the Bull tries to discuss or do anything not "on the list" then end the session immediately and ask the person to leave. People that cannot respect consent and negotiation should not be rewarded.
2. Go over safety protocols. What this means for newbies.
Its having a Safe Word. The easiest and simplest word is "RED" that means if anyone says "RED" during play - everything stops ASAP and you take a breather.

In my experience, women have used the Safe Word with me because they needed to catch their breath. In the heat of the moment, I can get very intense and it can get overwhelming, especially for someone brand new. If I am in one position, flip her over into a new position and then start doing dirty talk, and change intensity and rhythm, its real easy for a woman to lose her breath. Thats why there is a safe word. She isn't telling me she wants to stop completely, but she needs a break. She says "RED" I stop, catch my breath, ask her if she is ok, she catches her breath, calms down a bit, and then typically she will say, "ok, im ready to go."

No one gets hurt, it builds trust and comfort. There is nothing worse for a woman to feel uncomfortable during sex. Fellas, trust me, If a woman knows she can stop at any time, she will let you push her limits because she knows that she can pull it back if she feels its too much.

Hungteacher...

Thank you so much for posting this. We have been here as verified members for a few days and have been bombarded. I took your advise and redid our profile section which was wise advise indeed. We are here to actually meet and perhaps find a couple long term friends and your post will likely help. Thanks again.