I know this may not be for everyone, but after 8 years in the lifestyle and the last six, exclusive to black men, my wife fell in love with one of her regulars. They've been dating for 4 years. Last summer they traveled to Mexico and had a commitment ceremony. They were married on the beach at sunset. The marriage is not legally binding, but they wanted to take their relationship to another level. They exchanged vows and rings. She still lives with me and sees him once a week with occasional sleepovers. They have traveled together and will celebrate their one-year anniversary in Paris this summer. It's been an exciting journey for all of us.