Husband doesn't seem interested in sex

BBW1977 said:
Lately, my 44 year old husband seems to have no interest in sex. He had surgery on his shoulder almost a year ago. He claims pain is the reason but it's been 11 months since the surgery. He does work kind of long hours but even after a 2-3 hour "nap" he is not energized for sex. We have had many kid free weekends and all we do is sit around. He used to say to me "find us someone to fuck." Not anymore. I am horny, all the time lately. There are some days all I can think about is a fat cock in my wet pussy and I even tell him straight up I am horny, yet he comes home, has dinner and promptly falls asleep on the couch. I thought maybe he was cheating but his routine has not changed, and his nephew now works with him so cheating would not be an option as they carpool together. I am frustrated and don't know what to do. I feel guilty asking to have a playdate instead of trying to entice him to fuck me but I am getting tired of always initiating things just to be turned down. I am too young to give sex up. I almost feel like cheating but I do not want the guilt. He is a good man. I just don't know how much more patience I can have for this situation.
Also, yes, I have talked to him about this, and he uses pain as his excuse or "You don't come to bed with me." He goes to bed very early and while that is true, there are many nights I go to bed with him, and nothing happens.
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You need to be pleased in more ways than one
 
Darkjumper said:
Yes it's easy to use this as a reason to cheat and I won't tell you what to do. But I will say, don't let your moral compass steer you off course. You got married for better or for worse, so if this a test of that vow, don't fail it. Give it your best shot and support him. I know he seems stubborn, but don't pressure him because it will only make him rebel. Don't offer ultimatums either, you are a woman, outsmart him. Figure a way to get him to get a check up, by getting him to suggest it on his own so he thinks it's his idea. I wish you all the best.
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Great advice from obviously a very good man
 
BBW1977 said:
Do you get any on the side at least?
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I had a similar experience as my wife has medical,issues. We discussed it openly years ago and agreed that I can have very discreet weekends etc away. Works for both of us and only issue I had was when one of my play mates fell in love with me. i would discuss your needs with him and try to negotiate a mutually agreeable approach it is not an option for you to never have fun nor is it one for you to leave I assume.
 
Harduk said:
I had a similar experience as my wife has medical,issues. We discussed it openly years ago and agreed that I can have very discreet weekends etc away. Works for both of us and only issue I had was when one of my play mates fell in love with me. i would discuss your needs with him and try to negotiate a mutually agreeable approach it is not an option for you to never have fun nor is it one for you to leave I assume.
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I’d never leave him for lack of sex. There are ways around it.
 
Darkjumper said:
Something just came to mind, and while there could be a drastic drop in his testosterone, it's also possible he could be suffering from ED and not telling you. If it's the latter, him not telling you could just be due to shame and disappointment at feeling inadequate. You really need to be delicate with him, so please, approach with as much empathy as possible. You may have to be a bit creative. Wait till he is in the shower and just step in unless he locks the door. All I'm saying is fine ways to tease and tempt him when he is least expecting it. Again, good luck.
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Great advice!
 
BBW1977 said:
Lately, my 44 year old husband seems to have no interest in sex. He had surgery on his shoulder almost a year ago. He claims pain is the reason but it's been 11 months since the surgery. He does work kind of long hours but even after a 2-3 hour "nap" he is not energized for sex. We have had many kid free weekends and all we do is sit around. He used to say to me "find us someone to fuck." Not anymore. I am horny, all the time lately. There are some days all I can think about is a fat cock in my wet pussy and I even tell him straight up I am horny, yet he comes home, has dinner and promptly falls asleep on the couch. I thought maybe he was cheating but his routine has not changed, and his nephew now works with him so cheating would not be an option as they carpool together. I am frustrated and don't know what to do. I feel guilty asking to have a playdate instead of trying to entice him to fuck me but I am getting tired of always initiating things just to be turned down. I am too young to give sex up. I almost feel like cheating but I do not want the guilt. He is a good man. I just don't know how much more patience I can have for this situation.
Also, yes, I have talked to him about this, and he uses pain as his excuse or "You don't come to bed with me." He goes to bed very early and while that is true, there are many nights I go to bed with him, and nothing happens.
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That's a shame id spank my lil cock 2 u every night
 
BBW1977 said:
Lately, my 44 year old husband seems to have no interest in sex. He had surgery on his shoulder almost a year ago. He claims pain is the reason but it's been 11 months since the surgery. He does work kind of long hours but even after a 2-3 hour "nap" he is not energized for sex. We have had many kid free weekends and all we do is sit around. He used to say to me "find us someone to fuck." Not anymore. I am horny, all the time lately. There are some days all I can think about is a fat cock in my wet pussy and I even tell him straight up I am horny, yet he comes home, has dinner and promptly falls asleep on the couch. I thought maybe he was cheating but his routine has not changed, and his nephew now works with him so cheating would not be an option as they carpool together. I am frustrated and don't know what to do. I feel guilty asking to have a playdate instead of trying to entice him to fuck me but I am getting tired of always initiating things just to be turned down. I am too young to give sex up. I almost feel like cheating but I do not want the guilt. He is a good man. I just don't know how much more patience I can have for this situation.
Also, yes, I have talked to him about this, and he uses pain as his excuse or "You don't come to bed with me." He goes to bed very early and while that is true, there are many nights I go to bed with him, and nothing happens.
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Time to get some BBC on the side. You do you sexy. YOLO
 
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