I think you bring up a good point.
So I want to clarify it. Women want 2 things
1) Love
2) Sex
The problem is that most Alphas cannot LOVE women the way they want to be loved. And its very frustrating for women in the 21st century because they think that Alphas can "change" or something. We cannot change. We are hard-wired to think a certain way and behave a certain way. It's in our DNA and psychological makeup.
Women that get into hotwifing and Cuckolding UNDERSTAND the dichotomy between Alpha and Beta Males
Beta males know how to LOVE women the right way
Alpha males know how to FUCK women the right way.
It's that simple.