Damn, this site is really underrated.. A Great Question has been posed..I totally understand the issue being raised, I have been married (First-Was and Is completely hateful and resentful of BM, 2nd threw away her marriage for a very worthless Negro). After much thought and consideration, and a bit of cynicism, completely understand why BM are feeling this way.
I do feel BW suffer from group think to a large degree in evaluating BM who are not in the media or fantasy mold, being exhibited. They will use the reality shows, comments from girlfriends, family, and others in their response to a BM. He could be a total worthless individual, but they will feel that he will be acceptable to their network, and regardless of the crap he dishes out they will think it's ok, because her crew likes his BS or his look. The Non HoodRat or BabyDrama BW has a number of hurdles, she's not really competitive, she's holding onto belief systems from so-called friends and family, and has great resistance to new experiences or BM who are different in values, education or status. If I hear or see another BW say she's looking for a Christian Man, I will get a hitman after her. That is an indicator she is full of the BS, I am talking about. So yes BW have a lot of hurdles before I get involved with them again on a personal relationship basis.
The opportunities to meet someone who is a Non-Black Female are more available and a great number of the women exhibit completely different and more open attitudes, and not just in the sexual areas. Their views (and this is only a small segment I know and I hate to generalize), tend to take the risk of accepting the person first, and reminds her network to mind their own business, unless she is Indian and that cultural gap is huge.
We are on this site not because of the excitement of IR sex, but the opportunity to view women who are not only attractive for the most part but also allows us a window on a part of society not readily available on a daily basis.
The women here for the most part are anonymous, however, we at least have a frame of reference for others we meet and possibly use it to build into an encounter both parties will enjoy.