Why all the humiliation?

[CarolinasCouple]

Either way, it seems like there is a degree of objectification that some people enjoy - either for the cuck or the other guy. Maybe they can get into that state but it seems distracting from what is supposed to be happening - a lot of fun for everyone!

Be it two or three (or more) in the bedroom, we'd rather everyone just be real, relax and have a good time that involves no acting or faking, just fucking.

 

[whtcpl4fun]

Sorry if I sound embittered. Lately I have seen far too much racism in a short period of time. Definitely it would be about the fun, but black guys have needs too outside of sex and I find that is not expressed too on these threads. It's about the wife/woman, the couple, maybe the cuckold, but rarely anything said about the black guy, if ever.

we make it a point to let the guy know that friendship out of the bedroom is always an option nobody should be made to feel less than important whatever the relationship.

 

[STIFFBBC]

we make it a point to let the guy know that friendship out of the bedroom is always an option nobody should be made to feel less than important whatever the relationship.

Nice wish you lived here.

 

[whtcpl4fun]

Nice wish you lived here.

I wish you luck and hopefully you will find someone that treats you kind

 

[STIFFBBC]

I wish you luck and hopefully you will find someone that treats you kind

I hope so too and thanks. Until then this site is very therapeutic.

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

I hope so too and thanks. Until then this site is very therapeutic.

Therapeutic? Really??

Either way, it seems like there is a degree of objectification that some people enjoy - either for the cuck or the other guy. (...)

...or the woman. There are some husbands, wives or lovers who seem to be turned-on by "slutification" of the wife. If she agrees to it, fine. But in some cases it`s the guys putting pressure on her.

My GF and me are both not into that, she likes to be treated with respect, as a human being, and, yes, the "sexually sophisticated" woman she is!

Be it two or three (or more) in the bedroom, we'd rather everyone just be real, relax and have a good time that involves no acting or faking, just fucking.

Sounds sound.

I believe some husbands are turned on by someone, particularly a black man, making love to their wives. Fucking a married woman is one thing, but for her to lust for a black man is another.

How come?

My question was not directed at you, @Djcoak, but at @Chungcheng21. Anyway...

Because I want my wife to lust me, the other guy is just a prop. (...)

ImO this sounds disrespectful to the other guy and maybe even to the wife. YOU want your wife to lust for YOU. Okay, that`s rather obvious. But what about HER needs and desires?

(...)Why would you want your soul mate to lush some other man. (...)

Because it is natural for a heterosexual woman to lust for men? Because i do not want to restrict her, sexually and otherwise? Because i want her to be satisfied in the best possible way, including a variety of men (and women, btw)?
Because "soul mates" have far more than just a physical bond!

(...)She can enjoy fucking him, but to the level that she knows it gets me hot

HER serving YOUR sexual needs seems more important for you than having hers fulfilled. Depending on the level of intensity this could be seen as either selfish or abusive behavior.

It turns me on watching a submissive hubby get hard watching me seed his wife.

Well good for you, but in my relationship we could give a rats ass what you enjoy, it's all about us.

@Djcoak: Selfish again, plus now i wonder... ^this^ post in your own thread called "Why all the humiliation?" Isn`t it humiliation to objectify a person as a "living dildo"?

ImO best experiences can be achieved when there is fun and joy for ALL the involved! Wife, hubby and her/their lover(s). jm2ct`s.

@alstep: WHY is it that it turns you on "watching a submissive hubby get hard watching" you "seed his wife"? And would it be different if the husband wasn`t submissive? Please, explain your POV. Thx.

 

[Elelator_Cpl]

Didn't read all three pages of posts, so apologies if this has already been well discussed.... but as long as no one is being hurt, emotionally or mentally abused, are having fun, and all are consenting adults...... to each their own

That being said, we are not into the humiliation or dominance aspect that some may be. As our introduction post says, we're not looking for "alpha males" to dominate us or attempt to make anyone feel "conquered". We like to play with BBC, other non AA big cock (and sometimes not so big, that's OK ) guys, couples and groups all as equals just having fun

However, again some may find that aspect sexually arousing, and that's fine

This is a site focused on interacial swinging, and one of the "kinks" associated with that are cuckoldry and that often includes domination and humiliation. So it is logical one is bound to find the subject discussed and expressed. If one doesn't find that attractive, just move along and find what is. And if a particular guy starts to take the conversation that way, just let them know what one is and isn't interested in. If the guy accommodates, then great. If not, then there are other fish in the sea

 

[Djcoak]

Therapeutic? Really??
...or the woman. There are some husbands, wives or lovers who seem to be turned-on by "slutification" of the wife. If she agrees to it, fine. But in some cases it`s the guys putting pressure on her.

My GF and me are both not into that, she likes to be treated with respect, as a human being, and, yes, the "sexually sophisticated" woman she is!

Sounds sound.
My question was not directed at you, @Djcoak, but at @Chungcheng21. Anyway...
ImO this sounds disrespectful to the other guy and maybe even to the wife. YOU want your wife to lust for YOU. Okay, that`s rather obvious. But what about HER needs and desires?
Because it is natural for a heterosexual woman to lust for men? Because i do not want to restrict her, sexually and otherwise? Because i want her to be satisfied in the best possible way, including a variety of men (and women, btw)?
Because "soul mates" have far more than just a physical bond!
HER serving YOUR sexual needs seems more important for you than having hers fulfilled. Depending on the level of intensity this could be seen as either selfish or abusive behavior.
@Djcoak: Selfish again, plus now i wonder... ^this^ post in your own thread called "Why all the humiliation?" Isn`t it humiliation to objectify a person as a "living dildo"?

ImO best experiences can be achieved when there is fun and joy for ALL the involved! Wife, hubby and her/their lover(s). jm2ct`s.

@alstep: WHY is it that it turns you on "watching a submissive hubby get hard watching" you "seed his wife"? And would it be different if the husband wasn`t submissive? Please, explain your POV. Thx.

So reading through all your BS quotes and rants. If my wife doesn't lust black dick and we don't want to dominated them I am selfish. Your theory is that my wife, whom you don't know, wants only black cock or somehow that satisfies her more than me. Or maybe she enjoyed banging him but SHE did it to please me, and got pleasure in doing so. Why is it wrong for a wife to enjoy fucking a bbc but while doing so, getting hot for her husband, knowing she is giving him pleasure.

It's not selfish at all on an individual level. It's selfish on a couples level doing something together getting hot together and both getting pleasure in the process to please one another.

As far as the other man, what because I don't let him dominate me or humiliate me I am disrespecting him? He is getting pleasure and he's getting to fuck my wife, I would say he is doing just fine. But it's just sex, and when it's done we go our separate ways. I laugh at this "oh the poor guy, you're treating him like an object". Shut up, he just got a great no strings attached fuck.

 

[Djcoak]

As my post states, I am more ranting about the over objectification of the "superior black cock" or the "white boi" bs. Don't come here and try to convince me that humiliation is the only way

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Just in order to clarify my statements...

(...) If my wife doesn't lust black dick and we don't want to dominated them I am selfish. Your theory is that my wife, whom you don't know, wants only black cock or somehow that satisfies her more than me. (...)

Not my theory at all! You are right, i don`t know your wife, and BTW, i have never said that.^ Seems you read too much into my posting?!

(...) Or maybe she enjoyed banging him but SHE did it to please me, and got pleasure in doing so. Why is it wrong for a wife to enjoy fucking a bbc but while doing so, getting hot for her husband, knowing she is giving him pleasure. (...)

i was not talking about right or wrong. It is good when you both enjoy it!

But i added that ImO the experience is best when ALL the involved enjoy it (including the "third party"). ImO, when there is mutual sympathy and respect the dynamic is more positive because each one respects the other`s limits, likes and dislikes. <- That was and is my point.

(...)

It's not selfish at all on an individual level. It's selfish on a couples level (...)

True.^

(...)As far as the other man, what because I don't let him dominate me or humiliate me I am disrespecting him? (...)

Again, i never said that.

(...) He is getting pleasure and he's getting to fuck my wife, I would say he is doing just fine. But it's just sex, and when it's done we go our separate ways. I laugh at this "oh the poor guy, you're treating him like an object". Shut up, he just got a great no strings attached fuck.

Okay. But it`s not that he`s dependent on you or your wife. It`s always a give-and-take.

 

[Djcoak]

Never said we disrespect the other guy, he just needs to know that he is there to begin with for really one reason only and maybe that sounds bad but if the other guy gets too close or involved then deep emotions get in the way and someone gets hurt.

There ar guys out there that want their women to fall in love with the oth guy, and honestly I really just don't get that. If that's their thing then fine but as I have mentioned before, I think most of this humiliation and deep cuckoldry, is mostly BS and the guys wives don't even know they are posting......

Just my two cents

 

[Hansjensen]

Husband here.

Because for some, the humiliation is what the cuck gets off on. Its not for everyone, but for some, it hits an insecurity and turns it into a pain that is pleasurable.

Most cuckold are turned on by humiliation.

 

[Monidee]

Husband here.

Because for some, the humiliation is what the cuck gets off on. Its not for everyone, but for some, it hits an insecurity and turns it into a pain that is pleasurable.

Husband here as well. This exactly. It his tbe insecurity that Im not a real man capable of satisfying my wife. Im sure tbere are deep psychological reasons for these feelings. I dont know where tbe come from but the idea of other men takimg my wife in front of me and even havimg to help is exciting. My wife unfortunately does not share these ideas.

 

[Thom & Lou]

It's not all about humiliation, no interest in that here from my perspective. I'm a white male Dom, and it's my wish to introduce black men to fuck my wife with me, and within a specifically set out scenario.

However it seems a little difficult to find guys that don't get this and I get lots of "I'm gonna fuck your wife and take over" etc.

To which the answer is, no you're not, and with that attitude you'll never get the chance to try.

 

[Thom & Lou]

As my post states, I am more ranting about the over objectification of the "superior black cock" or the "white boi" bs. Don't come here and try to convince me that humiliation is the only way

You seem very angry about something, and don't seem to grasp the concept of free choice and people who enjoy things that you don't.

 

[Monidee]

It's not all about humiliation, no interest in that here from my perspective. I'm a white male Dom, and it's my wish to introduce black men to fuck my wife with me, and within a specifically set out scenario.

However it seems a little difficult to find guys that don't get this and I get lots of "I'm gonna fuck your wife and take over" etc.

To which the answer is, no you're not, and with that attitude you'll never get the chance to try.

No, it should not all be about humiliation. It should be about whatever is acceptable and desired by all those involved. I think the proliferation of some genres of IR porn stress the humiliation of the white man or couple. Im sure ypu will eventually fimd the tupe of men for which you are lookimg. If you dont mind my askimg, what is your motivation to get your wife fucked by blacks?