My wife and I joined this site a while ago when our efforts to have a cuckold relationship looked promising. Things stagnated and look less promising now, and I wonder if I should conclude that she just doesn't have the right personality traits. We're both grad students in our early 30s. She's working on her PhD and she's very independent. She is trying to establish a postdoc at NASA, and she spent two months last fall in Antarctica, in a tent on the ice, doing research. She hates being told what to do, and she holds others to a very high standard. If she has a submissive side, it's deeply hidden. She has been on dozens of dates in the last four years, and her experience has been almost exactly the same in every case. She asks the guy about himself and he spends an hour talking about his job at a shoe store. He asks about her and she mentions her research and says that she recently returned from Antarctica. He stares at her vacantly for a moment, like he doesn't understand her language, and he does not ask any questions. He starts talking about this guy he knows, who owns a big dog. She leaves early and comes home disgusted. A lot of women on this site seem to have a submissive side and really enjoy sex with a dominant, well-endowed bull. My wife doesn't. She enjoys sex but she needs an intellectual connection and she doesn't want to be submissive. Are certain personality traits necessary? Can a woman with my wife's personality ever enjoy the cuckold lifestyle? Has anyone had a similar experience?