The only way my husband can cum is to the thought of me being blacked

but he is wanking?

i must say, i also stay soft often and get hard mostly only when thinking about another cock for my wife.
But i never came soft only
I very rarely cum with an erect penis. I was introduced to using a massage wand and holding it firm under the head of my penis to cum. And since this is the only way I have cum since…. My lil acorn penis just stays limp & shriveled up while it drips out the cum.
 
So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!



Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea! 😱



Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.



Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:



I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :



1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?



2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?



3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?



I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?



Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated ☺️❤️😘
If you are into cuckold, it sort of naturally is a bit of emasculating. You put yourself second - to her. But it's really up to you to determine, what you want and request it - with your dominance. That should do the trick.
 
I've ran into this problem. I luv the thought. Fuckin luv it. Especially drenching get in diamonds and pearls so her bull can fuck the ******* out her. With myself of course.
 
So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!



Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea! 😱



Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.



Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:



I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :



1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?



2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?



3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?



I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?



Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated ☺️❤️😘
As an older white guy that is now addicted to IR sex, if you are not totally turned off.....GO FOR IT! Tell him that you will only fuck black cocks if they are 8, 9 or 10"+ and see how he reacts. Tell him you will only fuck blacks WITHOUT a condom and he will have to live with the consequences. Young lady, you are married to a TRUE cuckold....embrace it.
 
I was having problems with erections till a brought this third person to our lives , it gives me full erection watching her fucked by this huge black boy with a unbelievable dick wich he lets me suck right out of my wife pussy , many times been blessed with his direct shot of cum
 
Lots of great answers...as a white man who has supported (and been turned on by) my loving wife’s sexual choices and adventures for decades, I do want to add this point.

These ideas, behaviors and choices should really be centered on what is the best and most liberating LONG TERM path to self fulfillment for you.

Sure, you are a couple, but it sounds like he is driving you a little nuts. And you can’t help him or your relationship if he continually tries to climb into your head and steer your brain towards his own house of fantasy. If you don’t resolve this soon, you’re going to begin to loathe being alone with him.

Set him back a bit on his heels and YOU determine the path YOU want to take...but assure him that you are doing this in order to improve and clarify things.

Fantasy is powerful and intoxicating; Fetish is drama and theater. But bullshit is just a waste of your youthful years.
Excellent counsel.

When we started in these explorations, I made it very clear that I would be making decisions and setting conditions/boundaries....both with my chosen lovers and within our relationship.
Almost a decade later, I'm still getting as much hard, hard, masculine attention as I want and need from black men, exclusively and he has found contentment and a natural grace in his place as a submissive. I have allowed and encouraged him to explore his bisexual nature (which he denied, even to himself, before we made these changes), and will often self-identify as a "service-submissive".

I just don't think this could work for us (or, more specifically, for ME), if our set-up wasn't exclusively controlled by me, the woman.
 
As an older white guy that is now addicted to IR sex, if you are not totally turned off.....GO FOR IT! Tell him that you will only fuck black cocks if they are 8, 9 or 10"+ and see how he reacts. Tell him you will only fuck blacks WITHOUT a condom and he will have to live with the consequences. Young lady, you are married to a TRUE cuckold....embrace it.
i like ur comment, i can relate as a older white hub thats extremely hooked on mature wifes that take the plunge for new bigger cocks, btw i love ur screen name, have a 69 coupe..
 
For me it is exactly like your husband say the way a white woman stands out with a black man there is no comparison to her being with a white guy its just not the same attraction for me I only wanted my wife to use a black dildo while I jacked off to her I always cum extremely fast but the orgasms she would have that I could never give her were strong enough that I could literally feel them that is power my wife still just wanted me from time to time and I couldn't even get hard for her but it was a mind thing and I made myself not get hard or wanna cum it had nothing to do with her now I just take what she gives me and no matter the circumstance I cum whether it's just me and her like she wants or me jacking off to her and her black dildo both have to have there needs met to make it work it just took me along time to put mine aside for the times she needed just me
 
So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!



Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea! 😱



Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.



Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:



I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :



1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?



2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?



3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?



I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?



Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated ☺️❤️😘
Baby its normal..The thought of bbc inside you is as sexy ass it gets and its hard to not fantasize of BBC and you getting your little white pussy beat up beyond any white guys capabilities
 
To answer your questions

1. whether you follow through with his fantasy or not. It’s in his head and once a cuckold gets those thoughts in his head, forget about it. It will always be in his head. That’s how he gets turned on.
2. He is turned on with you. He wants to see you pleasured to the max. He wants you completely sexually satisfied and he thinks a bbc would do it for you.
3. If you go through with this fantasy. It will change you more than it will change him. You will have the greatest orgasms of your life and come to crave bbc all the time. If you do follow through he will be happy and so will you. You both will have the greatest orgasms ever. You have to learn to compartmentalize sex and love. My wife and I will passionately kiss, hug and fondle each other while her bull bangs her from behind. She gets the best of both worlds- him for her pussy and me for the emotional stuff. I’m happy she’s getting what she needs sexually and I’m there to hold and kiss her as she cums over and over again. I in turn will get off, either she helps me by giving me a handjob, or will give me sloppy seconds afterward. Let me say, you will never see your man cum harder than if you let him in after bbc has stretched you out. He will drop the biggest loads and have the most intense orgasms ever. That will be a win win for both of you

My best piece of advice is take this slow and communicate. If you do it right, you get to both have and eat cake. It’s can be a win win for both of you. I wish you all the luck with this, I think you won’t be disappointed if you go bbc for hubby
I think that this is the best and most honest answer of them all. Me and my partner are also on the crossroads and needs a little encouragement to continue. My guess is that your husband will love you more but will get sometimes cuckold angst. just reassure your love for him at those times.
 
I think that this is the best and most honest answer of them all. Me and my partner are also on the crossroads and needs a little encouragement to continue. My guess is that your husband will love you more but will get sometimes cuckold angst. just reassure your love for him at those times.
Cuckold angst is a real thing. The surefire way to keep it in check is for the bull and wife to get theirs first while the cuck stays on edge and doesn’t cum until the end. When we first engaged in cuckolding, I made the mistake of jerking off a little overzealously while they were making love and I came before they did. Immediately afterwards I had all sorts of cuckold angst. I never did that again no matter how horny I get. After that night, I always cum after they finish. The amount of cum that you spill afterwards is immense as it’s your body trying to compete with the bull (the sperm competition theory) And dopamine that is released for a cuckold is extremely high. And it’s that dopamine that keeps that angst away while they are having sex.
 
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