Your husband also cums while his cock is limp?
The only way my husband can cum is to the thought of me being blacked
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No, just saying its possible
There are no perfect answers to your questions. You need to ask him directly what he feels and what he knows. If you're still happy with not getting direct replies from him you'll need to find out yourself by trial and error. I can only speak from my own exp. I think men who need a 3rd person - a black guy, a second woman, etc- to satisfy their lust they do it for a reason. Find out if he's bisexual or just voyeur or enjoys you being humiliated - if he's racist, or maybe it's a temporary thing. But don't blame yourself for the situation. From what you tell he's trapped in porn fantasies. Perhaps you both can explore other avenues ...So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!
Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea!
Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.
Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:
I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :
1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?
2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?
3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?
I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?
Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated
My husband is exactly the same the only time he can cum is when he’s wanking his little in significant white cock as he’s watching my bbc sliding is beautiful black cock deep in my pussy making me scream and cum. It is also the only way his cock can get hard ; I tried to measure it yesterday but could only measure it flaccid which is just 3 inches, as much as I tried he could not get it erected even by sucking him ,teasing his balls with me being naked telling him to look at my pussy where Del sinks his cock .so was unable to see just how small it is erect.
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I can cum limp. But dont produce cum after prostate cancer.
But get all same feelings
I know Exactly how he feels and I am Consumed with the idea of getting my 62 year old wife to whom I have Been married 40 years blackened and stretched outSo, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!
Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea!
Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.
Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:
I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :
1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?
2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?
3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?
I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?
Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated
So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!
Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea!
Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.
Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:
I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :
1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?
2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?
3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?
I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?
Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated
Sorry, I have no answers to your final questions, except to give my opinion that in man-woman sex the word "normal" is descriptive of absolutely nothing to be preferred or striven for.
Further to that, in both the preliminaries to and the actual throes of fucking my wife I have experienced and been intensely aroused by every single one of the aphrodizzying thoughts and torturing visions of your lover fucking you that assail and perfectly normally sexually drive your husband when he in turn fucks you.
Which might well be because I am as "perverted" as your husband is. But do I desire to be cured of that? Most emphatically NO!!!!
Finally, may I recommend that you cease from striving to understand the erotic proclivities of your husband both before and during sex with him. Like everything else in life, people, including spouses and what rocks their boats from time to time, can never be truly or fully understood and it is vain and a waste of time and attention to try to understand them. Indeed, our pleasures and ecstasies, including those we get from one another in physical sex and its preliminaries, are at root dependent on and more surely attainable on myriad delicious mysteries of emotions that themselves can never be "understood"--- whatever that pompously over-used figure of speech actually means.
To put it another way, it is precisely the deliberate giving up of our provably vain struggles to "understand" the conscious let alone the subconscious motivations and emotional nuancings of our spouses and lovers in any and every dimension that enables us to get real pleasure from sex with them even, perhaps especially, when they insist upon us "understanding" them.
Better by far to get off our high horses and simply and thankfully trust in our Maker. He knows best, including the way to Sex Heaven, which path we will surely depart from if we insist o attempting the impossible; namely, to understand our spouses and lovers in their miraculous fulness and beautiful entireties.
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It all boils down to curiosity. Nothing more nothing less. With both partners having one thing in common being sexual addiction. A hot wife is a hot wife. Me personally I've never dreamed of being a cuck or anything close to it. Stag of course. One of my favorite movies is Ali. I've watched it a million times. Just because i like it. If you've told your wife she would be your favorite porn star, stands to reason you weren't lying when you said it. Issa fantasy they come and they go. Choosing not to enjoy such great people and vibes is one thing. Not being cool enough for the coolest ******* is another or given the wrong directions to the party or NO directions at all sucks. Just my two cents. No dog in the fight. Hard to fit a square peg into a round hole just to try and finish the puzzle. I'm soon to be divorced anyway. Sometimes we just have to accept missing what could've been the best part of life. No harm no foul You guys are wonderful wonderful people, you guys COOL AF IN MY BOOK.. 
But just before i go.. Geezus I'll end this this way. No directions sucks... This the only site I've seen with the majority being the hottest bi**hes I've ever seen. GEEZUS Lord have mercy
My unwanted two cents.. Be E-Z
But just before i go.. Geezus I'll end this this way. No directions sucks... This the only site I've seen with the majority being the hottest bi**hes I've ever seen. GEEZUS Lord have mercy
My unwanted two cents.. Be E-Z
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Jellycapone
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So that's not you in the videos ?So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!
Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea!
Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.
Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:
I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :
1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?
2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?
3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?
I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?
Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated
To answer your questions
1. whether you follow through with his fantasy or not. It’s in his head and once a cuckold gets those thoughts in his head, forget about it. It will always be in his head. That’s how he gets turned on.
2. He is turned on with you. He wants to see you pleasured to the max. He wants you completely sexually satisfied and he thinks a bbc would do it for you.
3. If you go through with this fantasy. It will change you more than it will change him. You will have the greatest orgasms of your life and come to crave bbc all the time. If you do follow through he will be happy and so will you. You both will have the greatest orgasms ever. You have to learn to compartmentalize sex and love. My wife and I will passionately kiss, hug and fondle each other while her bull bangs her from behind. She gets the best of both worlds- him for her pussy and me for the emotional stuff. I’m happy she’s getting what she needs sexually and I’m there to hold and kiss her as she cums over and over again. I in turn will get off, either she helps me by giving me a handjob, or will give me sloppy seconds afterward. Let me say, you will never see your man cum harder than if you let him in after bbc has stretched you out. He will drop the biggest loads and have the most intense orgasms ever. That will be a win win for both of you
My best piece of advice is take this slow and communicate. If you do it right, you get to both have and eat cake. It’s can be a win win for both of you. I wish you all the luck with this, I think you won’t be disappointed if you go bbc for hubby
1. whether you follow through with his fantasy or not. It’s in his head and once a cuckold gets those thoughts in his head, forget about it. It will always be in his head. That’s how he gets turned on.
2. He is turned on with you. He wants to see you pleasured to the max. He wants you completely sexually satisfied and he thinks a bbc would do it for you.
3. If you go through with this fantasy. It will change you more than it will change him. You will have the greatest orgasms of your life and come to crave bbc all the time. If you do follow through he will be happy and so will you. You both will have the greatest orgasms ever. You have to learn to compartmentalize sex and love. My wife and I will passionately kiss, hug and fondle each other while her bull bangs her from behind. She gets the best of both worlds- him for her pussy and me for the emotional stuff. I’m happy she’s getting what she needs sexually and I’m there to hold and kiss her as she cums over and over again. I in turn will get off, either she helps me by giving me a handjob, or will give me sloppy seconds afterward. Let me say, you will never see your man cum harder than if you let him in after bbc has stretched you out. He will drop the biggest loads and have the most intense orgasms ever. That will be a win win for both of you
My best piece of advice is take this slow and communicate. If you do it right, you get to both have and eat cake. It’s can be a win win for both of you. I wish you all the luck with this, I think you won’t be disappointed if you go bbc for hubby
shywife4bbc
Couple
All small dicked white men who cant satisfy the women who they married deserve a bit of sexual humiliation
True. By the wife and as many female friends as she wants to tell
First of all let me tell you what a fantastic wife you are!! Your mindset is just Beautiful and wonderful to say the least. The loving, Caring and honesty you show is extraordinary and a treasure in its own.So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!
Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea!
Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.
Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:
I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :
1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?
2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?
3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?
I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?
Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated
You say you want him to want you for you sometimes and be able to cum with only the thought of you, and if its possible.
I think it could be possible with changing the scenario. The quickie, the passionate kisses and touches here and there, handjobs, pussy rubbing and reading. I dont know If you often initiate sex but just the shift in the woman taking Charge can be a powerful turn-on.
1. If u do fullfill his fantasies he still might need those thoughts to be turned-on aswell. If u do go through with it do it because U want to.
2. That question your hubby might be the only one to answer. Honesty and communication are key in this. Could it be exploring sex in different ways together with him. Find out what he likes, could it be facesitting, pinching nipples or wathever. But most importantly also find out what U really like and get it. An empowered woman is a turn-on on its own.
3. Again If U do fullfill the interracial fantasy do it because u want to do it, and u have internalized the thought of it. What will happen is Up to you att the end of the Day. I might be awed, and just luv it and have a totally changed expression on your face, that glow. Then u go about your everyday life like usual but with an experience richer.
Will things Always be this way? It could be, or it could be molded into THE way u want it to be. It could also be stopped If u feel uncomfortable, but I do hope u not. I hope it be an empowering and enrichening experience for you.
Will he Still have to en vision you with a black man to cum? Well, dont forget that is the two of you that share a life together as spouses, dont forget to show eachother the Love and affection you both need. Maybe you wont even think so much about what he needs to envision for him to cum but rather what u need in order to cum.
Finally. Of course the first time Will be nervous. Just dont forget that nothing is written in stone. It has, it is, and Will be what you make of it. Hoppfully youll meet Up with an understanding other man (Bull, Boyfriend, extra man) and have a great experience.
I Wish you THE best.
orhhans
Male
I think you should fulfill his wish, he wants to see the most powerful sex in the world, between a black man and a white woman, he wants to see a real man and woman fucking and masturbating .....So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!
Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea!
Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.
Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:
I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :
1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?
2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?
3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?
I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?
Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated
orhhans
Male
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It’s as if you stole all that right out of my head. I have felt that way for so long, and I am in search of a partner I can have all that withSo, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!
Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea!
Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.
Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:
I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :
1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?
2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?
3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?
I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?
Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated
I have a sincere question love: do you truly enjoy the fantasy or do you mostly go along with it to appease your hubby?So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!
Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea!
Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.
Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:
I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :
1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?
2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?
3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?
I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?
Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated
A sincere answer to the question might help either if you do or don't.
If you do, explain to your hubby that despite enjoying these fantasies, you want him to be
more into you for you. Tell him that it's disheartening for you to not feel your enough to arouse him. Depending on his level of reasoning with you, he might agree and address it quickly. He could be very into his fantasy as a means to cope with insecurities he felt while you weren't together. He might be okay now, or think he is, but the incessant need to be cucked might be something holding him back. He might believe he cannot please you sexually due to his insecurities and needs to be reminded that he can. There is so many variable, but in the end, laying out your concerns specifically might be best in your case.
If you don't enjoy it, then tell him directly and define what your sexuality is going to be. He may need to express himself sexually, but do you not have the same right? If these sexualities are too different, can there be a compromise? If none can be reached, at least the problem is out there and being considered and hopefully a loving compromise can be made.
I wish you luck, because I went through this. I like the "lifestyle," but I also wanted a man as a husband. In my eyes, what I did, didn't make me see my hubby as any less than others. He still did not know how to both be dominant/manly while enjoying seeing me with others. He slowly became too sissified. I was not into it.
I talked to him and explained what I wanted from him. He explained his dilemma and I comforted him with my truths about how I viewed him and how I knew he could be the man I wanted him to be. Today, he does not over fetishize and annoy me and he focuses on his sex life with me. Honestly, nobody has made me cum like he has. He is just awesome and he needed to know it and believe it like I did. We still play, but it's so much more natural and euphoric and not
overly labeled and fetishized.
Honey. In the end, be honest with yourself and let that take you where you need to go. Good luck! Reach out if ever you feel like having a mature and reasonable conversation.
DariusSlay9
Male
Yes definitely al possible I would love to chat.So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!
Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea!
Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.
Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:
I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :
1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?
2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?
3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?
I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?
Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated
