Exactly! It's beautiful. And sure, maybe there's kinky times involved, but polyamory itself is not a kink. It's love.I think you have to be of a certain maturity and experience level to understand this, and also have a mix of natural-born-open-relationship DNA in you, but if/when Brandi falls in love with one of her bulls, she and I already discussed and agreed that it wouldn't be that she stops loving me. In fact, I WANT her (and him) to have DEEP and REPEATED and UNIQUE intimacy, so if feelings of love are born from that, then this is an achievement and NOT some weird masturbatory material.
Parents with more than one chil.d love ALL of their children, don't they? They don't pick one to give their love to, or divide their love up between their kid.s. People don't have a finite amount of love they have to conserve and ration out to the people they decide to give it to. In fact, love begets love. The more of it you feel, the more you have to give. It's been my experience that as my wife discovered her love for the man who became her boyfriend, she became happier. She's very appreciative that she has us both in her life, and grateful to me for allowing her this kind of freedom, and she shows that love to both of us. She loves and admires me for being strong enough to let her do this, and I love seeing her this way.