Is all this something you find cliche or is it just me? I'm not saying I'm disappointed. I'm crazy for him. But I don't know what to do?
....So,
Hannelore, are you wishing to compete for his attention with this other woman? Look, most of us guys have the attention span of a knat, ok? If he's currently
trophy hunting, and many guys do this ... he's just wanting to hang some "conquests" on his wall; once you're there, he moves on to another hunt.
....I think, before getting your panties all ruffled up, you need to decide exactly
what is it you want from a relationship with him? He really has no reason to be monogamous with you ... unless you offer him something exceptional. He's already suggested handing you off to one of his friends ... that's a HINT! He'll still want to be with you on occasions, but he doesn't want routine, and that's what it becomes when a guy finally decides on just one woman. It happens all the time with women, but, you just don't notice it ... you have guys interested in you, but you're just "sampling" ... you'll know when you find the right one, and if its right for him as well ... bingo, lightening bolts appear, the waters divide, and the birds sing beautiful music.
....I'd treat him as a casual date and find more guys or activities that will allow you to cease wondering about him. One thing guys can't tolerate, is a woman making the decision to move on. Maybe its a control issue, or ego thing, but if he calls you for a hookup, and you're nonchalantly busy, his interest in you may just increase ... he'll wonder what & who is competing for his time with you. The less you tell him (and it'll probably ******* you to not say anything), the better it'll be. Once a guy has spent some 'sheet time' with a girl, he kind of likes to feel he can do it again and again WHENEVER he wants ... just don't give him that.
ps ... if you've never read this paperback book, you should ... my wife loves it and got me to read it as well ....
"Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" ... you'll understand men a lot better afterwards, I promise.