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Does your interest in black men go past sex?
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I read a lot of comments, opinions and experiences from everyone here but I'll just answer YOU directly from the black man perspective.
Totally understand why you or someone else would ONLY be with someone of same ethnicity, culture, background, etc.
Relationships... The key root word is 'Relate', so any kind of partnership has to based on the ability to relate to someone else on different levels.
I've dated women from all over the world, different countries, etc... And the common ground usually depends on How and Where you meet. Like minds, all that.
In terms of SEX? I've had great sexual relationships that lasted YEARS, and yet we didn't have much else in common other than we loved fucking each other Lol ... a LOT.
And then there are girls who started out as fuck buddies and later became actual friends.
An interesting phenomenon I've experienced in several occasions is when a 'One Time Thing' turned into a multi Year friendship. Why? Because the woman starts liking the Man behind the Big Dick and quaking orgasms.
We are retiring there. Negril is a great place, cheap and the sunsets are the best. We've been there about 15 times in 20 years.
YES!!
There are white men, Hispanic men etc described as Bulls. I haven't heard of one who ever complained since most of them had the term in their profile if we met the online.
stayjaymac
Male
They wouldn't. A lot of us don't either. But you have to understand the history and the intricacies of the dynamic is different
Lynne,
I think it's wonderful you were engaged to a Black Man. However, it's horrible his family broke you up. I'm so sorry to hear that . It was very hard to be involoved IR in the 80's and I'm glad you were open about it and followed your heart.
I think it's wonderful you were engaged to a Black Man. However, it's horrible his family broke you up. I'm so sorry to hear that . It was very hard to be involoved IR in the 80's and I'm glad you were open about it and followed your heart.
Very well said and spot on!
Please consider reaching out when youre in town.
Of course it dose. My future is black men
As a so called bull if a couple is scared to be seen with me in public or won't host because they are scared their neighbors might see a black man coming out of their house when it could be easily explained away buddy from work came over for drinks I won't see them I respect your wife as a person you need to respect me too someone on her made a remark about education level from what I've read most of the black men on here
have gone to college I actually have a masters.
have gone to college I actually have a masters.
Depending on health , we want to go back next spring
Yes. I generally get along with black men better out of the bedroom too. I find them to be less whiny, stuck-up, and difficult.
stayjaymac
Male
Your honesty is necessary and much appreciated.
stayjaymac
Male
Sometimes people try to extract a certain nutrient from the wrong source. While these issues are real and valid and should be discussed and litigated , such discourse and examination are misapplied to this lifestyle. You don't go to work EXPECTING emotional confirmation/validation first. I go to work to get what work provides. Pay. Likewise this lifestyle is not the place to go for validation as a person. If you get it, cool. Expecting it or being negatively affected by its absense is pure naïvete- something rampant in the black community. How can you exist within this realm of the swinger/cuckold world and expect to find relief from the racial tropes it is built on, such as the hypersexualization of the black man or his historically being relegated to a persona non grata, which, in turn, contributes to the taboo so many of us get off on? In other words- expect that the couple/woman wants you for sex plain and simple. Fight the effects of racism at the community center. Doesn't mean you have to play with everyone who calls you "the big, black cock", but its an occupational hazard and one you should be more than ready and able to deal with. Stop attempting to draw funds from the wrong accounts
So, to be honest, it is straight-up racist to exclude black romantic partners while welcoming black men into your fantasies. While I am fair-skinned, I’m actually mixed race, and I think interracial coupling is no longer as taboo as many in the fetish community believe it is. That may be because my parents were from different backgrounds, but I’m a mixed baby and my babies will also be mixed, of course.
Yes it does. As someone said above, "I'm a people person, not a penis person" so I react to guys based on personality, intelligence as well as appearance. any woman gets hit on by all sorts of guys, but most don't catch our attention.
The first black man I had sex with was a friend first. I wasn't looking for a lover or to step outside my marriage when we became friends. My husband and I were actually both friends with the guy and we had shared several dinners together. He was very adept at turning a friendship into something deeper and more intimate. Sex with him was very good, but his seduction of me was even better. We became lovers on top of friends. Eventually I had to break it off since we were co-workers and he would not/could not be discrete. Otherwise I would have liked it to go on a whole lot longer.
It was lovely to have a dark, sultry, seductive lover to go wild with and then come home to a great husband and be reclaimed. I felt sexy and hot (even though I'm not really) every day while it lasted. I learned a great deal about sex with different men. And of course it was fabulous for my sex life with my husband.
The first black man I had sex with was a friend first. I wasn't looking for a lover or to step outside my marriage when we became friends. My husband and I were actually both friends with the guy and we had shared several dinners together. He was very adept at turning a friendship into something deeper and more intimate. Sex with him was very good, but his seduction of me was even better. We became lovers on top of friends. Eventually I had to break it off since we were co-workers and he would not/could not be discrete. Otherwise I would have liked it to go on a whole lot longer.
It was lovely to have a dark, sultry, seductive lover to go wild with and then come home to a great husband and be reclaimed. I felt sexy and hot (even though I'm not really) every day while it lasted. I learned a great deal about sex with different men. And of course it was fabulous for my sex life with my husband.
I am so happy to read this. Dixonyalips and you, do get the essence of my home country.
It is your fantasy, enjoy!!!
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