At first we were very careful, only playing with bulls in meetings we set up, always over 100 miles from the house. That eventually became a pain in the ass as she wanted to play more and more, and then she got caught in public by someone we knew. Finally, it just wasn't worth the trouble of trying to maintain the secret. We don't advertise it and she always plays away from the house, but we have told a few close friends, and over time it kind of just got out that she plays on the side. I find that most people are not that judgmental about it, with a few exceptions who are no longer part of our circle of friends.
The most annoying thing that has happened is a few men who we know that found out getting a little pushy with my wife because they think that because she is a slut that means she will fuck them. We had to clear some things up with them, occasionally involving their wives, and it has not happened in a while.
