It's hard to fathom a relationship of marriage without intimate contact. I kinda realize that for some taking a fetish or passion and going to the extreme has its appeal and may full what may be missing in their life. Being married puts the relationship on a different plain that is unlike friendship with benefits or having a lover. My wife has tried to explain to me that cuckolding is like having two different cars. One is a dependable, comfortable, trustworthy, grocery-getter that she absolutely loves to drive. The other is a muscle car that is great to look at and fun to drive, but it requires a lot of maintenance and upkeep. At times the muscle car is worth the effort to maintain to get your rocks off but if given a choice which she would choose the grocery-getter every time. If I was denied intimate contact with my wife because she decided to be exclusive to a lover then I would end our relationship. This lifestyle is a way of enhancing the connection between a husband and wife. Yes, it's not for everyone and I think that a majority of couples or people who fantasize about cuckolding their relationship would not survive the experience. I will admit that the most intense lovemaking my wife and I have has been shortly after she was with a lover.