Changes in a woman's sexual needs as she gets older

[Dblinsey]

That's pretty common for women; I have friends who exhibit both tells.

The funny thing about me is, the crossing and uncrossing legs part doesn't work, and it is probably because of some life decisions I made many years ago.

I wear pants nearly all the time. This has allowed me to sit in a more relaxed or casual manner. I have a tendency not to sit with knees close together. Since I'm comfortable already, I don't attempt to attract attention to myself by crossing and uncrossing legs.

You got me there - I'm a dress/skirt kind of girl - so that's what I wear about 75 percent of the time. Living in Florida has a lot to do with it I suppose.

 

[Chetansha]

You got me there - I'm a dress/skirt kind of girl - so that's what I wear about 75 percent of the time. Living in Florida has a lot to do with it I suppose.

Florida is hot and humid...and dress, often without any undergarments is smart
And sensible...no breeding ground for bacterial cultures, except those openly invited
and welcome. Have you ever witnessed a freshly fucked women standing or, wslking
With a pussy dripping with semen. Once in line at a grocery store this stunning
Women next me grabbed my hand suddenly and moaned as a river of seed slid down
Her tsnned legs. She whispered in my ear...can we go somewhere, you can give me yours, too.

 

[Shogun5]

There are many gifts, being a reputable painter, sniper and a cameur. it's something that goes into the *******. few people will understand.

 

[allinone]

For once I decided to write myself and not delegate writing to my husband. Because it's my body and my needs. I am 55 now and from this position understand what changes I went through. I had great sex throughout my life, but from young age to shortly after 40 this was emotional sex. But after 40-45 I realised sex was becoming less emotional and more physical. My body was craving for intense sexual experience, while my husband was feeling the opposite. For the first time I got the meaning of the word "insatiable". And of course, I was no longer in fear of unwanted pregnancy - and this is a liberating feeling. What;s more, sex helps me staying fit. I have friends who have long stopped looking after themselves, and their sex life dwindled to nothing. They are old, and I am dashing, promiscuous and young. I am so happy that my husband supports me all the way!

Just wanted to jump in here. Wife is 55 years old and in peri-menopause. Sex life and thinking about sex has dwindled to almost nothing. She is just not interested. Is this common? Can she get her sexual mojo back? Help!

 

[Anthony0542]

Any man who does not put your orgasmic ******* first is not worthy of you , or more especially ....worth spending time inside your delicious womb. You need
And deserve a man who will cherish you snd , then willingly surrender you to other men to utterly enjoy snd thoroughly ravage you. Ummmm

Love everything until ......” then willingly surrender you to other men to utterly enjoy snd thoroughly ravage you. Ummmm”

But love that every woman should be looking for a man that treats her that way. And women you are allowed to help in creating that orgasmic *******

 

[Anthony0542]

Just wanted to jump in here. Wife is 55 years old and in peri-menopause. Sex life and thinking about sex has dwindled to almost nothing. She is just not interested. Is this common? Can she get her sexual mojo back? Help!

On this site, I think you know what that answer will be.

 

[Chetansha]

Well excuse me, please...i easily get carried away

 

[Anthony0542]

Well excuse me, please...i easily get carried away

Chetansha, to each their own, right.....

 

[Chetansha]

Chetansha, to each their own, right.....

Naturally...still there are times and places...and, some things are best unsaid...actually

 

[allinone]

On this site, I think you know what that answer will be.

No I don't. So what is your answer?

 

[Rimking679]

Funny we both have changed, I. Can’t last as long where she can last longer and she loves to pick up pace and loves to be pounded. She’s got quite open trying new things too so she’s very open trying new stuff but I just cant keep up

 

[dancuck]

I am not sure about sexual desire as she gets older, Sarah is 33, but it has gone up since she has had her fist bbc.

 

[JohnEE]

Hi folks

I have wanted to write this article for a long time. Finally I psyched myself into writing it.

I am hoping to stimulate some discussion. I have no objection to the moderators moving this article to any thread where they deem more appropriate.


OK I’ll get to the point. It’s a point I hate dwelling on and will understandably often skirt, but it is really important to me and affects me more than I normally confess to.

I’m getting older.

Apart from other changes in my life and body, I also notice that my sexual fantasies are changing. In fact, not just changing, but changing a lot.

I’m not the same girl I was. My sexual identity is changing in ways that I don’t understand. This definitely affects how I react to the porn that I like to watch so much.

Maybe I am nearing menopause and my hormones are changing. But I am very far from being hot tempered or emotionally volatile yet. I don’t think my hormone levels have gone out of control. It’s just a vague sense that I seem to be turning more masculine in my sexual urges.

One of the things that I’ve become mildly obsessed with, is inspecting my face for facial hair because I’m convinced that as my sexual desires become more ‘male’ due to increased levels of testesterone, I should get more facial hair. Actually none of that has happened yet.

So what’s going on?

I find myself increasingly being turned on by things that I would have been turned off by when younger. Usually it is the kind of thing that teenage males like. (At least, that's what I believe teenage males like - I might have subscribed to some inaccurate stereotypes but I am pretty convinced that men are very juvenile.)

As a teen and then woman in her twenties, I cannot imagine myself ever enjoying bukkake.

When I was young, I did glance over the odd Japanese bukkake video out of curiosity, but I didn’t enjoy a second of it. One actress I remembered had a really pained, nauseated and humiliated expression throughout, and I firmly identified with that. I know in theory it doesn’t hurt to get my face cummed on by many men, but I would have been so humiliated by having so many men treat me as a cumdump. And I mean humiliated in a non-enjoyable way.

But in my thirties, I started getting just that little bit turned on by such degrading treatment. I put it down to me becoming more in tune with my feminine identity. I’m a woman, so I deserve lots of sperm, so give me all you’ve got. That’s how I thought.

Now in my forties, I find myself craving this kind of sex. I want men to be absolutely powerful, totally virile, with big sexual organs, crazy-long staying power, and an infinitely huge sperm production capability. And I want guys to cum and cum and cum. I want your sperm all over my face, all over my food, everywhere! I find myself having the fantasies that young men almost certainly have. When I was a teen I would have screamed and fled from a big penis. At my age, I would be quite happy to grab it, kneel, slap my face with the penis, lick it all over. It’s a total change.

One video I glanced over in the past, featured a young woman being soaked in a bathtub of semen. She didn’t look that happy, and I felt it was extremely humiliating and ‘abusive’.

But at my age, I’m wondering. What’s so humiliating? What’s so abusive? It doesn’t hurt to be soaked in a sperm bath. It’s fun!

I await others’ responses before adding more to this post.

We are noticing the same thing with my wife.. her body is starting to run hotter …. which is perfectly normal as you age !! … enjoy it, without shame!!… Fortunately, we have enjoyed inviting others into our bedroom for a while, and so we are both emotionaly prpeared for what is happening to her body......

 

[HITGIRLY]

It hit me at about 40...like a switch. Wanting sex more, wanting different ways, different places, bigger...always bigger.

 

[Kellidog]

I like the "sex becomes a lot more intense and frequent" part!

Beth, you are so right, especially about the intensity.

 

[Sightseeing]

I would attribute your changes to Over exposure to sex and Constant viewing of pornography over the years.

Seems like porn viewer puts too much emphasis on sexuality into their life when in actuality, it's just a small part of life. But it happens when people incorrectly set their priorities in life.

 

[BcupBethany]

I am a thirty something soccer mom. My husband is 8 years older than me. He insisted on having a V-Job after our 2nd ******* was born. I know it's probably a psychological issue, but I have a need to feel a man shoot warm thick semen with live sperm into me. Just the thought of being full of live sperm that will live in my warm wetness for up to 4 days makes me so hot!

Wow! I love the frankness of this post and so many others. Thank you, ladies, for being so upfront. As a younger woman (21), I appreciate all of the insights.

 

[angelina1264]

For once I decided to write myself and not delegate writing to my husband. Because it's my body and my needs. I am 55 now and from this position understand what changes I went through. I had great sex throughout my life, but from young age to shortly after 40 this was emotional sex. But after 40-45 I realised sex was becoming less emotional and more physical. My body was craving for intense sexual experience, while my husband was feeling the opposite. For the first time I got the meaning of the word "insatiable". And of course, I was no longer in fear of unwanted pregnancy - and this is a liberating feeling. What;s more, sex helps me staying fit. I have friends who have long stopped looking after themselves, and their sex life dwindled to nothing. They are old, and I am dashing, promiscuous and young. I am so happy that my husband supports me all the way!

I could not have said it better myself. I too am 55 and have the means to get gangbanged every weekend except during this latest Covid thing. I burn the equivalent calories of a marathoner through sex and stay fit and trim. I take steps to protect my identity but I am also an exhibitionist and in the right places make it clear in certain public areas that I am a certified Queen of Spades black cock slut. I walk the beaches in my tiny thong bikinis proudly bearing my QOS tattoo sometimes with my bull beside me showing his ownership of me. The excitement of shock and envy of other men and women watching me releases endorfins and just continues the emotional pleasure. I have never had a negative experience in public and have been stopped and asked by women and couples about getting into the lifestyle and have taken on the conversion of over a dozen women in the last two years. I have gotten into Bdsm and the submission and craving of the pain that gives pleasure has increased my lust to almost an insatiable level.

I am bisexual and many times I am with other women into this level which adds another level of excitement. When we exhaust and drain our Bulls we clean each other up and consume those pleasurable bodily fluids. I have done sex shows in private clubs and performed live on an Internet sex channel as a guest performer. Best of all I have the full support of my husband and he gives me the emotional love to make me complete. I am very fortunate to have experienced all this and fantasize about getting briefly into porn and have the admiration of Janet Mason and Deauxma, but have to be prepared for that exposure. Still dwelling on that.

Be prepared for the level of pleasure your body can provide you and others. It's totally awesome.

 

[MacNfries]

I have wanted to write this article for a long time. Finally I psyched myself into writing it.
I am hoping to stimulate some discussion. I have no objection to the moderators moving this article to any thread where they deem more appropriate.

.....Angelyn, you write so well and descriptively; I rarely ever have a problem understanding where you're coming from with your posts. This topic really is interesting, and it hits an age group that has the same general questions as you do; myself included, as I'm now 43.
What I might encourage you to do, even as you get more comments from the members, is to seek out a professional for a general analysis of your thoughts and concerns. And, I'd further encourage you to use a copy of THIS thread, with your many personal & members comments to do this, rather than go sit in front of a psychiatrist/psychologist or other professional, as we tend to hold back or forget important aspects when verbally communicating directly ... something always gets lost in transmittance. Also, you might tend to want to hold BACK some parts of this discussion, and you really shouldn't ... its important that the doctor get your true reflections of your concerns. I'd seek out a highly qualified/highly recommended professional to do just that. I honestly think you'll gain a ton of benefit from it.
.....That said, I don't think you have anything unusual going on; our brains/thoughts take all kinds of dips & turns as we get older. What your experiencing now will simply intensify with age. My grandmother (91 now) suddenly started bringing up my musical background by asking me to come play my guitar for her, which I can't since she's in a nursing home now. But still, she has only seen me play my guitar twice in her entire life, and never has she complimented it or ask that I play for her until just recently. Out of nowhere she asks me on the phone if I'd come play my guitar for her as she loved hearing me play. Strange!
.....Things that you've mentioned in your comments that I think are relavent to your concerns ... I honestly think you're desiring a male relationship of lust & passion, and to find your soul mate. You need to let this happen NOW ... there's nothing emotionally comparable to experiencing true passion and love ... it can be most awarding, and most painful, but it IS something that the human needs to experience. You have an unfilled NEED and your mind and body is yelling at you to let go and experience it. At some point in all our lives, we need to "take that road less traveled" if for no other reason than to see where it takes you. Your mind & body wants that change to happen, I'm fairly sure. Oh, and YES, we men are visual creatures BUT we go through the changes you're mentioning, except it seems we go through them in reverse, if that makes sense. I do know my porn preferences have intensified over the years ... takes a lot more graphic visuals to turn me on as it did 10-20 years ago for sure. Some things that I'd be almost ashamed to let my wife (of 22 years) see.
.....You mentioned the videos; I had a few of those bukkake videos, etc and the "cougar" in older women. Men have the same types of thoughts & desires, but we're referred to as pedophiles when a man in his 40's desires a much younger lady. Female grade-school teachers often get away with nothing but a handslap when they have a little fling with a high school student, etc ... not the men, we go TO JAIL ... lol
Anyways, I hope you'll continue providing your own thoughts to this thread, AND I hope you'll consider taking what you've posted and handing it to an experienced professional who can provide you the comfort of knowing you're not as warped as you think you are.
We only go around ONCE ... don't miss the opportunities when they pop up. And by all means, experience love & passion with someone. Find your soulmate .... that person is out there, somewhere, probably looking for you.

 

[Ciaran]

Hi folks

I have wanted to write this article for a long time. Finally I psyched myself into writing it.

I am hoping to stimulate some discussion. I have no objection to the moderators moving this article to any thread where they deem more appropriate.


OK I’ll get to the point. It’s a point I hate dwelling on and will understandably often skirt, but it is really important to me and affects me more than I normally confess to.

I’m getting older.

Apart from other changes in my life and body, I also notice that my sexual fantasies are changing. In fact, not just changing, but changing a lot.

I’m not the same girl I was. My sexual identity is changing in ways that I don’t understand. This definitely affects how I react to the porn that I like to watch so much.

Maybe I am nearing menopause and my hormones are changing. But I am very far from being hot tempered or emotionally volatile yet. I don’t think my hormone levels have gone out of control. It’s just a vague sense that I seem to be turning more masculine in my sexual urges.

One of the things that I’ve become mildly obsessed with, is inspecting my face for facial hair because I’m convinced that as my sexual desires become more ‘male’ due to increased levels of testesterone, I should get more facial hair. Actually none of that has happened yet.

So what’s going on?

I find myself increasingly being turned on by things that I would have been turned off by when younger. Usually it is the kind of thing that teenage males like. (At least, that's what I believe teenage males like - I might have subscribed to some inaccurate stereotypes but I am pretty convinced that men are very juvenile.)

As a teen and then woman in her twenties, I cannot imagine myself ever enjoying bukkake.

When I was young, I did glance over the odd Japanese bukkake video out of curiosity, but I didn’t enjoy a second of it. One actress I remembered had a really pained, nauseated and humiliated expression throughout, and I firmly identified with that. I know in theory it doesn’t hurt to get my face cummed on by many men, but I would have been so humiliated by having so many men treat me as a cumdump. And I mean humiliated in a non-enjoyable way.

But in my thirties, I started getting just that little bit turned on by such degrading treatment. I put it down to me becoming more in tune with my feminine identity. I’m a woman, so I deserve lots of sperm, so give me all you’ve got. That’s how I thought.

Now in my forties, I find myself craving this kind of sex. I want men to be absolutely powerful, totally virile, with big sexual organs, crazy-long staying power, and an infinitely huge sperm production capability. And I want guys to cum and cum and cum. I want your sperm all over my face, all over my food, everywhere! I find myself having the fantasies that young men almost certainly have. When I was a teen I would have screamed and fled from a big penis. At my age, I would be quite happy to grab it, kneel, slap my face with the penis, lick it all over. It’s a total change.

One video I glanced over in the past, featured a young woman being soaked in a bathtub of semen. She didn’t look that happy, and I felt it was extremely humiliating and ‘abusive’.

But at my age, I’m wondering. What’s so humiliating? What’s so abusive? It doesn’t hurt to be soaked in a sperm bath. It’s fun!

I await others’ responses before adding more to this post.

Great thread,when I met my girlfriend now wife,she wouldn’t let me go down on her let alone she on me,just wouldn’t,slowly as I could I introduced her to more stuff,she never had an orgasm by herself or anybody else because she wouldn’t relax,by introducing soft porn and then a little bit harder,now she is a free spirit,i will walk in on her bouncing on a dildo,cumming with her wand,loves sucking cock,cumming in her mouth is still a bit of a treat now and again,we have talked about other men and she wants to give every part of her body except her mouth that’s for me,of course it’s not all down to me,I tell her it’s because she is comfortable with her body and wow what a body,we are having contact with over fairly local bull,I will let everybody know how we get on on this journey,can’t wait to meet u licht