Changes in a woman's sexual needs as she gets older

Hi folks

I have wanted to write this article for a long time. Finally I psyched myself into writing it.

I am hoping to stimulate some discussion. I have no objection to the moderators moving this article to any thread where they deem more appropriate.


OK I’ll get to the point. It’s a point I hate dwelling on and will understandably often skirt, but it is really important to me and affects me more than I normally confess to.

I’m getting older.

Apart from other changes in my life and body, I also notice that my sexual fantasies are changing. In fact, not just changing, but changing a lot.

I’m not the same girl I was. My sexual identity is changing in ways that I don’t understand. This definitely affects how I react to the porn that I like to watch so much.

Maybe I am nearing menopause and my hormones are changing. But I am very far from being hot tempered or emotionally volatile yet. I don’t think my hormone levels have gone out of control. It’s just a vague sense that I seem to be turning more masculine in my sexual urges.

One of the things that I’ve become mildly obsessed with, is inspecting my face for facial hair because I’m convinced that as my sexual desires become more ‘male’ due to increased levels of testesterone, I should get more facial hair. Actually none of that has happened yet.

So what’s going on?

I find myself increasingly being turned on by things that I would have been turned off by when younger. Usually it is the kind of thing that teenage males like. (At least, that's what I believe teenage males like - I might have subscribed to some inaccurate stereotypes but I am pretty convinced that men are very juvenile.)

As a teen and then woman in her twenties, I cannot imagine myself ever enjoying bukkake.

When I was young, I did glance over the odd Japanese bukkake video out of curiosity, but I didn’t enjoy a second of it. One actress I remembered had a really pained, nauseated and humiliated expression throughout, and I firmly identified with that. I know in theory it doesn’t hurt to get my face cummed on by many men, but I would have been so humiliated by having so many men treat me as a cumdump. And I mean humiliated in a non-enjoyable way.

But in my thirties, I started getting just that little bit turned on by such degrading treatment. I put it down to me becoming more in tune with my feminine identity. I’m a woman, so I deserve lots of sperm, so give me all you’ve got. That’s how I thought.

Now in my forties, I find myself craving this kind of sex. I want men to be absolutely powerful, totally virile, with big sexual organs, crazy-long staying power, and an infinitely huge sperm production capability. And I want guys to cum and cum and cum. I want your sperm all over my face, all over my food, everywhere! I find myself having the fantasies that young men almost certainly have. When I was a teen I would have screamed and fled from a big penis. At my age, I would be quite happy to grab it, kneel, slap my face with the penis, lick it all over. It’s a total change.

One video I glanced over in the past, featured a young woman being soaked in a bathtub of semen. She didn’t look that happy, and I felt it was extremely humiliating and ‘abusive’.

But at my age, I’m wondering. What’s so humiliating? What’s so abusive? It doesn’t hurt to be soaked in a sperm bath. It’s fun!

I await others’ responses before adding more to this post.
Approaching menopause and going through it is a whole different set of hormonal balances trying to find their equilibrium. So don't get impatient with yourself if you find on one day you want "X" and on the next week you want "Y". It's just part of life. whatever you choose to do and seek out, make sure your partner is there to be there and walk through the changes, they're the person who will be there after the sex.

Be honest with each other, and let one another know what really pleasures you and gets you horny and sexually aroused. Sometimes, a steamy novel with lurid paragraphs stimulates the most important sex organ of all - your brain.
 
This milf ******* my cum from a glass not too long ago.
I've done this quite a few times. I love drinking Black seed from a margarita glass. I do it with multiple guys though. I've done quite a few blow bangs with Black Daddies. I love milking them into a glass and then when it's full I ******* it. I don't just swallow it ... I savor it before I swallow. I can tell the guys love watching me ******* all that warm Black seed. mmmmm They can tell I get a real HIGH from it. I'm a cum junkie. [g]
 
I've done this quite a few times. I love drinking Black seed from a margarita glass. I do it with multiple guys though. I've done quite a few blow bangs with Black Daddies. I love milking them into a glass and then when it's full I ******* it. I don't just swallow it ... I savor it before I swallow. I can tell the guys love watching me ******* all that warm Black seed. mmmmm They can tell I get a real HIGH from it. I'm a cum junkie. [g]
Yesss... Love watching sluts swallow cum
 
.....Angelyn, you write so well and descriptively; I rarely ever have a problem understanding where you're coming from with your posts. This topic really is interesting, and it hits an age group that has the same general questions as you do; myself included, as I'm now 43.

We only go around ONCE ... don't miss the opportunities when they pop up. And by all means, experience love & passion with someone. Find your soulmate .... that person is out there, somewhere, probably looking for you.
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OMG, no need to sound so formal and serious.

But your words have hit upon a theme in my life that I want to talk about in an anonymous forum.

When I was younger, like all women I thought the way to get good sex from men was good looks and availability.

At my age I realize that the way to get good sex is social skills and social interest.
 
Hi folks

I have wanted to write this article for a long time. Finally I psyched myself into writing it.

I am hoping to stimulate some discussion. I have no objection to the moderators moving this article to any thread where they deem more appropriate.


OK I’ll get to the point. It’s a point I hate dwelling on and will understandably often skirt, but it is really important to me and affects me more than I normally confess to.

I’m getting older.

Apart from other changes in my life and body, I also notice that my sexual fantasies are changing. In fact, not just changing, but changing a lot.

I’m not the same girl I was. My sexual identity is changing in ways that I don’t understand. This definitely affects how I react to the porn that I like to watch so much.

Maybe I am nearing menopause and my hormones are changing. But I am very far from being hot tempered or emotionally volatile yet. I don’t think my hormone levels have gone out of control. It’s just a vague sense that I seem to be turning more masculine in my sexual urges.

One of the things that I’ve become mildly obsessed with, is inspecting my face for facial hair because I’m convinced that as my sexual desires become more ‘male’ due to increased levels of testesterone, I should get more facial hair. Actually none of that has happened yet.

So what’s going on?

I find myself increasingly being turned on by things that I would have been turned off by when younger. Usually it is the kind of thing that teenage males like. (At least, that's what I believe teenage males like - I might have subscribed to some inaccurate stereotypes but I am pretty convinced that men are very juvenile.)

As a teen and then woman in her twenties, I cannot imagine myself ever enjoying bukkake.

When I was young, I did glance over the odd Japanese bukkake video out of curiosity, but I didn’t enjoy a second of it. One actress I remembered had a really pained, nauseated and humiliated expression throughout, and I firmly identified with that. I know in theory it doesn’t hurt to get my face cummed on by many men, but I would have been so humiliated by having so many men treat me as a cumdump. And I mean humiliated in a non-enjoyable way.

But in my thirties, I started getting just that little bit turned on by such degrading treatment. I put it down to me becoming more in tune with my feminine identity. I’m a woman, so I deserve lots of sperm, so give me all you’ve got. That’s how I thought.

Now in my forties, I find myself craving this kind of sex. I want men to be absolutely powerful, totally virile, with big sexual organs, crazy-long staying power, and an infinitely huge sperm production capability. And I want guys to cum and cum and cum. I want your sperm all over my face, all over my food, everywhere! I find myself having the fantasies that young men almost certainly have. When I was a teen I would have screamed and fled from a big penis. At my age, I would be quite happy to grab it, kneel, slap my face with the penis, lick it all over. It’s a total change.

One video I glanced over in the past, featured a young woman being soaked in a bathtub of semen. She didn’t look that happy, and I felt it was extremely humiliating and ‘abusive’.

But at my age, I’m wondering. What’s so humiliating? What’s so abusive? It doesn’t hurt to be soaked in a sperm bath. It’s fun!

I await others’ responses before adding more to this post.
I heard sperm is good for the skin so maybe an sperm bath isn’t such an bad idea lol.
Fantasies are fantasies some are meant to be lived out and some aren’t. I’ve also read that most women don’t peak in sexuality till their 30’s and 40’s while most guys peak out in their 20’s or 30’s!
I remember watching bukkake videos all the time when I was an teenager and then got in to group sex and orgies which I’ve lived out in my perverted life lol. Which is what led me to interracial. I’m still perverted but living the Vanilla life now with my wife!
On an side note semen does smell different from every guy so I can’t imagine the smell of an tub full of cum, so try some Vaseline or scent cream under your nose if you ever live this fantasy out lol!
 
I heard sperm is good for the skin so maybe an sperm bath isn’t such an bad idea lol.
Fantasies are fantasies some are meant to be lived out and some aren’t. I’ve also read that most women don’t peak in sexuality till their 30’s and 40’s while most guys peak out in their 20’s or 30’s!
I remember watching bukkake videos all the time when I was an teenager and then got in to group sex and orgies which I’ve lived out in my perverted life lol. Which is what led me to interracial. I’m still perverted but living the Vanilla life now with my wife!
On an side note semen does smell different from every guy so I can’t imagine the smell of an tub full of cum, so try some Vaseline or scent cream under your nose if you ever live this fantasy out lol!
Baby, some of us LOVE the scent of Black seed. purrr
 
Hi folks

I have wanted to write this article for a long time. Finally I psyched myself into writing it.

I am hoping to stimulate some discussion. I have no objection to the moderators moving this article to any thread where they deem more appropriate.


OK I’ll get to the point. It’s a point I hate dwelling on and will understandably often skirt, but it is really important to me and affects me more than I normally confess to.

I’m getting older.

Apart from other changes in my life and body, I also notice that my sexual fantasies are changing. In fact, not just changing, but changing a lot.

I’m not the same girl I was. My sexual identity is changing in ways that I don’t understand. This definitely affects how I react to the porn that I like to watch so much.

Maybe I am nearing menopause and my hormones are changing. But I am very far from being hot tempered or emotionally volatile yet. I don’t think my hormone levels have gone out of control. It’s just a vague sense that I seem to be turning more masculine in my sexual urges.

One of the things that I’ve become mildly obsessed with, is inspecting my face for facial hair because I’m convinced that as my sexual desires become more ‘male’ due to increased levels of testesterone, I should get more facial hair. Actually none of that has happened yet.

So what’s going on?

I find myself increasingly being turned on by things that I would have been turned off by when younger. Usually it is the kind of thing that teenage males like. (At least, that's what I believe teenage males like - I might have subscribed to some inaccurate stereotypes but I am pretty convinced that men are very juvenile.)

As a teen and then woman in her twenties, I cannot imagine myself ever enjoying bukkake.

When I was young, I did glance over the odd Japanese bukkake video out of curiosity, but I didn’t enjoy a second of it. One actress I remembered had a really pained, nauseated and humiliated expression throughout, and I firmly understood that. I know in theory it doesn’t hurt to get my face cummed on by many men, but I would have been so humiliated by having so many men treat me as a cumdump. And I mean humiliated in a non-enjoyable way.

But in my thirties, I started getting just that little bit turned on by such degrading treatment. I put it down to me becoming more in tune with my feminine identity. I’m a woman, so I deserve lots of sperm, so give me all you’ve got. That’s how I thought.

Now in my forties, I find myself craving this kind of sex. I want men to be absolutely powerful, totally virile, with big sexual organs, crazy-long staying power, and an infinitely huge sperm production capability. And I want guys to cum and cum and cum. I want your sperm all over my face, all over my food, everywhere! I find myself having the fantasies that young men almost certainly have. When I was a teen I would have screamed and fled from a big penis. At my age, I would be quite happy to grab it, kneel, slap my face with the penis, lick it all over. It’s a total change.

One video I glanced over in the past, featured a young woman being soaked in a bathtub of semen. She didn’t look that happy, and I felt it was extremely humiliating and ‘abusive’.

But at my age, I’m wondering. What’s so humiliating? What’s so abusive? It doesn’t hurt to be soaked in a sperm bath. It’s fun!

I await others’ responses before adding more to this post.
Your fantasy of course is hot.
As an 18 year old or thereabouts my fantasy was the generic, and Hot, pretty blonde-BBC fantasy originally, and that is an ember that has ever since and always will smolder, but since I learned Japanese the BBC/Asian thing progressed in my mind, this when I was around my late forties.
Maybe the 40s is a big turning point for women and for beta-males like myself.

I do sense an even greater level of objectification and subjugation of women in JAV porn than sometimes exits in the West.

But encouragingly the demand for Interracial seems to be gaining more popularity in Asian, and I know it is in Japan.

Plenty of bukkake there, and you Angelyn would perhaps make a wonderful performer, judging your turn-on for getting face-Nutted.

I have only seen on a regular bases all but a handful in the stable of BBC actors in JAV porn, so IR mass-cum bath types of bukkake is hard to find in JAV, unfortunately.
 
Now in my forties, I find myself craving this kind of sex. I want men to be absolutely powerful, totally virile, with big sexual organs, crazy-long staying power, and an infinitely huge sperm production capability. And I want guys to cum and cum and cum. I want your sperm all over my face, all over my food, everywhere! I find myself having the fantasies that young men almost certainly have. When I was a teen I would have screamed and fled from a big penis. At my age, I would be quite happy to grab it, kneel, slap my face with the penis, lick it all over. It’s a total change.

One video I glanced over in the past, featured a young woman being soaked in a bathtub of semen. She didn’t look that happy, and I felt it was extremely humiliating and ‘abusive’.

But at my age, I’m wondering. What’s so humiliating? What’s so abusive? It doesn’t hurt to be soaked in a sperm bath. It’s fun!

I await others’ responses before adding more to this post.

I identify with this so hard. When I was younger I was really turned off by BDSM; now I love being dominated by big strong men with big dicks. I have one primary partner these days and I love it when he shoves me to my knees to blow him. He likes to humiliate me by taping me getting fucked or sucking him off(a thing I'd have never let happen when I was younger), he's made me dress up like a slut when we're going out(another hard no), he likes to say degrading things to me(a favorite is making me promise that I'll bring my friends to him so they can love his dick like I do). I've let him pass me around at small parties with his buddies. Even thinking about these things just turns me on, and none of them were things I would have considered in what I'd have thought were my "wild" days in my twenties.
 
Hi folks

I have wanted to write this article for a long time. Finally I psyched myself into writing it.

I am hoping to stimulate some discussion. I have no objection to the moderators moving this article to any thread where they deem more appropriate.


OK I’ll get to the point. It’s a point I hate dwelling on and will understandably often skirt, but it is really important to me and affects me more than I normally confess to.

I’m getting older.

Apart from other changes in my life and body, I also notice that my sexual fantasies are changing. In fact, not just changing, but changing a lot.

I’m not the same girl I was. My sexual identity is changing in ways that I don’t understand. This definitely affects how I react to the porn that I like to watch so much.

Maybe I am nearing menopause and my hormones are changing. But I am very far from being hot tempered or emotionally volatile yet. I don’t think my hormone levels have gone out of control. It’s just a vague sense that I seem to be turning more masculine in my sexual urges.

One of the things that I’ve become mildly obsessed with, is inspecting my face for facial hair because I’m convinced that as my sexual desires become more ‘male’ due to increased levels of testesterone, I should get more facial hair. Actually none of that has happened yet.

So what’s going on?

I find myself increasingly being turned on by things that I would have been turned off by when younger. Usually it is the kind of thing that teenage males like. (At least, that's what I believe teenage males like - I might have subscribed to some inaccurate stereotypes but I am pretty convinced that men are very juvenile.)

As a teen and then woman in her twenties, I cannot imagine myself ever enjoying bukkake.

When I was young, I did glance over the odd Japanese bukkake video out of curiosity, but I didn’t enjoy a second of it. One actress I remembered had a really pained, nauseated and humiliated expression throughout, and I firmly identified with that. I know in theory it doesn’t hurt to get my face cummed on by many men, but I would have been so humiliated by having so many men treat me as a cumdump. And I mean humiliated in a non-enjoyable way.

But in my thirties, I started getting just that little bit turned on by such degrading treatment. I put it down to me becoming more in tune with my feminine identity. I’m a woman, so I deserve lots of sperm, so give me all you’ve got. That’s how I thought.

Now in my forties, I find myself craving this kind of sex. I want men to be absolutely powerful, totally virile, with big sexual organs, crazy-long staying power, and an infinitely huge sperm production capability. And I want guys to cum and cum and cum. I want your sperm all over my face, all over my food, everywhere! I find myself having the fantasies that young men almost certainly have. When I was a teen I would have screamed and fled from a big penis. At my age, I would be quite happy to grab it, kneel, slap my face with the penis, lick it all over. It’s a total change.

One video I glanced over in the past, featured a young woman being soaked in a bathtub of semen. She didn’t look that happy, and I felt it was extremely humiliating and ‘abusive’.

But at my age, I’m wondering. What’s so humiliating? What’s so abusive? It doesn’t hurt to be soaked in a sperm bath. It’s fun!

I await others’ responses before adding more to this post.
Well,you're in the minority. I believe that about 40% of women lose their libido after menopause. Mine did. It wasnt like she wasnt putting on a good show, but I could tell it wasnt the desire it used to be for her. I describe it like losing your ability to speak or understand a language. And after a while, I just couldnt blame her for not having feelings she didn't. So consider yourself lucky...your sexual desire is still there...even if a bit more varied.
 
(continued) The camera rarely showed us what Rebecca was up to when Vanessa was on the ground getting fucked. But I just loved Rebecca. That’s me, that’s me, that’s me, my brain is telling myself!


Earlier on we (or the male viewers) were already treated to the sight of Rebecca spreading her legs. I loved these panty flashes. That was a nice detail. Because if I’m ever going to be with another girl, both of us casually flashing our panties in a public area, that would mean we were getting ready to be picked up for group sex. It helps prep me.


As much as I want women power and better treatment for women and an end to double standards, there are so many cases when a woman complains of unwanted sexual attention, that I feel she brought that attention on herself.


Men are visual creatures. And women are fully aware of how they look. I hardly wear any makeup and I dress down routinely (and often in men’s clothes), but I am still aware of how I look to others. Women always have a sense of how men react to their dress style.


When Rebecca chose to visit a construction site in a backless summer dress, no bra and lacy panties, she was already offering implied consent to sexual attention. Nobody is forsing her to go to the construction site.


In a way, Rebecca was fulfilling a certain inner need for many women. We want to be taken by strong, dominant men. So we create circumstances where strong, dominant men would react to us. Do you think Rebecca and Vanessa would have gotten sexual attention, if they had shown up at the construction site dressed like Hillary Clinton or in policewomen’s uniforms?


But the fact that Rebecca shook off male hands, retreated and backed herself against a pillar was also so real for me. I could see myself at that age, wanting sex but also feeling so intimidated. I would have not resisted the initial touches. But when the men started crowding, I would have fled to a safer place.


I just loved the expressions on Rebecca’s face and how she brushed off Dick Nasty’s advances. Things were moving too fast for Rebecca.


But at some point, Rebecca’s inhibitions snap. Suddenly she can’t take it anymore. Vanessa had been fucked many times by then, and guys had cummed several times on her face and her ass. The fact that Vanessa had survived letting multiple guys ream her until they came, would have told me that it’s really quite ok. I won’t get hurt doing this.


This feels so real for me. I didn’t hear any directions being given, but I would have spontaneously reacted the same way.


Rebecca came forward and licked the sperm off Vanessa’s ass. This is both disgusting, and so sexual. Rebecca was essentially telling the guys that she wants their semen. Her inhibitions had just broken down like a dam bursting.


You guys just gotta accept it; real women use nonverbal cues to signal what they want. Licking semen off another woman's butt is a very explicit and forceful way of saying they want sex. A less explicit way might just be to lick her lips. Most women aren't going to talk like pornstars: "I wanna get fucked, fuck me!" The pornstar way of talking is so bizarre and unnatural to me.


Earlier in the scene, it took quite a bit of foreplay before Vanessa got on her knees, and her clothes were progressively and gently removed. But when Rebecca starts, she drops to her knees and pulls off her dress in a hurry. I can’t tell you how natural that looked. I doubt if the men directing this flick would have known about acting nuances. It was just Rebecca finding that she can’t take it anymore; she wanted sex too!


This is so... me. I identify so much with Rebecca in this scene.
This is the greatest review/analysis of a porn scene I have ever read:) love this thread and your thoughts and I look forward to reading the rest of it.
 
One observation is that after children women need to get fired up but want big cocks. Many don’t realised how much they’d enjoy having a black bull
Lover as well as hubby. We need to help
Them understand and achieve that
 
One of the things that I’ve become mildly obsessed with, is inspecting my face for facial hair because I’m convinced that as my sexual desires become more ‘male’ due to increased levels of testesterone, I should get more facial hair. Actually none of that has happened yet.
There is not only testosterone which increases sexual desire but also a female hormone whose name I don't remember. You find it and maybe more explications of what you experience in the book The Female Brain.
 
I identify with this so hard. When I was younger I was really turned off by BDSM; now I love being dominated by big strong men with big dicks. I have one primary partner these days and I love it when he shoves me to my knees to blow him. He likes to humiliate me by taping me getting fucked or sucking him off(a thing I'd have never let happen when I was younger), he's made me dress up like a slut when we're going out(another hard no), he likes to say degrading things to me(a favorite is making me promise that I'll bring my friends to him so they can love his dick like I do). I've let him pass me around at small parties with his buddies. Even thinking about these things just turns me on, and none of them were things I would have considered in what I'd have thought were my "wild" days in my twenties.
Admit it you fucking slut, you need to be used, it makes you cum harder when they use you as a whore!!!
 
Hi folks

I have wanted to write this article for a long time. Finally I psyched myself into writing it.

I am hoping to stimulate some discussion. I have no objection to the moderators moving this article to any thread where they deem more appropriate.


OK I’ll get to the point. It’s a point I hate dwelling on and will understandably often skirt, but it is really important to me and affects me more than I normally confess to.

I’m getting older.

Apart from other changes in my life and body, I also notice that my sexual fantasies are changing. In fact, not just changing, but changing a lot.

I’m not the same girl I was. My sexual identity is changing in ways that I don’t understand. This definitely affects how I react to the porn that I like to watch so much.

Maybe I am nearing menopause and my hormones are changing. But I am very far from being hot tempered or emotionally volatile yet. I don’t think my hormone levels have gone out of control. It’s just a vague sense that I seem to be turning more masculine in my sexual urges.

One of the things that I’ve become mildly obsessed with, is inspecting my face for facial hair because I’m convinced that as my sexual desires become more ‘male’ due to increased levels of testesterone, I should get more facial hair. Actually none of that has happened yet.

So what’s going on?

I find myself increasingly being turned on by things that I would have been turned off by when younger. Usually it is the kind of thing that teenage males like. (At least, that's what I believe teenage males like - I might have subscribed to some inaccurate stereotypes but I am pretty convinced that men are very juvenile.)

As a teen and then woman in her twenties, I cannot imagine myself ever enjoying bukkake.

When I was young, I did glance over the odd Japanese bukkake video out of curiosity, but I didn’t enjoy a second of it. One actress I remembered had a really pained, nauseated and humiliated expression throughout, and I firmly identified with that. I know in theory it doesn’t hurt to get my face cummed on by many men, but I would have been so humiliated by having so many men treat me as a cumdump. And I mean humiliated in a non-enjoyable way.

But in my thirties, I started getting just that little bit turned on by such degrading treatment. I put it down to me becoming more in tune with my feminine identity. I’m a woman, so I deserve lots of sperm, so give me all you’ve got. That’s how I thought.

Now in my forties, I find myself craving this kind of sex. I want men to be absolutely powerful, totally virile, with big sexual organs, crazy-long staying power, and an infinitely huge sperm production capability. And I want guys to cum and cum and cum. I want your sperm all over my face, all over my food, everywhere! I find myself having the fantasies that young men almost certainly have. When I was a teen I would have screamed and fled from a big penis. At my age, I would be quite happy to grab it, kneel, slap my face with the penis, lick it all over. It’s a total change.

One video I glanced over in the past, featured a young woman being soaked in a bathtub of semen. She didn’t look that happy, and I felt it was extremely humiliating and ‘abusive’.

But at my age, I’m wondering. What’s so humiliating? What’s so abusive? It doesn’t hurt to be soaked in a sperm bath. It’s fun!

I await others’ responses before adding more to this post.
There are a hundred different reasons our sexual needs and desires change over time and almost all are psychological. However the most basic one for women is that when you are younger you just can’t get out of your own way sexually. Before puberty until puberty and into your early 20s you are taught and hear so many th8ngs that you just outthink everything. You are concerned about sex being attached to love and marriage and children and you are looking for security and social position and every other imaginable thing. Not many 22 year old women can just relax and let go. For women sex always seems to be attached to something else and women almost never have sex just for sex. This is why even though that thought process never really leaves it quiets down later in life and most women have their best sex after 50. Your 30s will be better than your 20s and 40s even better and between 50 and 60 you will have some great orgasms if you do it right.
 
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