Thank you. It was a natural transition but like you said the support in the bedroom was not there. I am attracted to my wife, I love her, but I am the passive type and over time I really started hating "imposing" on her in any way and it became a habit. I would "ask" about sex and we still had it but it was so uninspired on my part. I could tell by the way she responded to me that this was all becoming obligatory on both our parts, me to try keep her "satisfied" and her not to reject me.
She never complained but I saw it in her eyes that she was going through the motions in a lot of ways. There was no lust in her veins, no passion like the times in the past and that is when I became really concerned. Thankfully I admitted to myself I was not the one for her in the bedroom for that sex that is mind-blowingly great and recognized there was a solution but really did not know if she would receive it well, like I might be saying it was "her" when in fact I knew it was all me.
I had seen enough of interracial cuckold to know that a well endowed black man could inspire her so I finally brought it up and her response was positive and within several hours we made "the decision." She would take a black man as a lover and I could be there because I want to witness that lust and passion I spoke of. She never criticized me but she admitted having a black man in the bedroom is something she really wants to happen, understands why "we" need him and is glad I came to her about it.
And yes it all feels very natural to us, we can discuss her making love to a black man as though it has been a part of our life our entire marriage. It's not awkward for either of us and the anticipation of it all has helped us a lot.
