Why is it too Hard to really meet some one here!!

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Mootje, Dec 16, 2015.

  1. Mootje

    Mootje Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    I was just wondering, why is it really so hard to meet any one of here, after more than a year here, i have made some friends, which most of them are real, and as i understand they living the life style that we all are here for, BUT always when it comes to arrange a solid real date, it never works out, I don't know, where does it go wrong! is it me ? can you all share your comments..
    And i would appreciate if it comes from real verified people at least they had the courage to verify themselves on the forum..
     
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  2. chino772

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    I've had the same problem, but I guess since I'm not verified it won't happen. but rest assured I'm real as they get
     
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  3. Mootje

    Mootje Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Thanks for the comment
     
  4. falcondfw69

    falcondfw69 Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I am not verified for custody reasons and I am sure I am not the only one. But I have been on here long enough that most should know I am real.
    As for your question, I think there are 3 main reasons.
    #1) There ARE a lot of fakes, fantasizers, and flakes on here.
    #2) Even if they are real, we all have lives to lead - some busier than others. If you are some distance from these friends, that can make schedules difficult to synch up. If you live close by these friends, there should be a way to arrange schedules for a meet.
    #3) If they have kids, then you are not just dealing with the schedules of the adults, you are also dealing with the schedules of the kids. That can make things truly crazy to synch up. My kids are home-schooled, so they are constantly going to museums, botanical gardens, aquariums, appointments, and the library, not to mention meeting up with other home-schooled friends and church events.
     
  5. Katiana4black

    Katiana4black Well-Known Member

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    We are real and have met a few on here. Contact us if interested
     
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  6. BBC ONLY CPL

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    I'm going to copy / paste something I had posted on another thread..

    This is mostly a fantasy site with a fraction of a fraction of real couples / females that would really meet up real time for sex. But we do exist. If you are looking to meet other real people that hook up for sex there are swinger sites like LifestyleLounge or SwingLifestyle, that are way more successful for meeting other like minded people in your area.
    Requiring paid memberships also weeds out a lot of the looky-loos (not sure of that spelling) as real and serious people will pay money to have a better chance at meeting other real and serious people.. and then you generally find more people in your immediate area. B2W is way too broad and not very 'area specific' as the swinger sites get. Even though you can search this site for more immediate areas you then run into the issue you have mentioned above about fakes, flakes, etc..

    Singe guys still have a harder time meeting couples, as swinging is mostly a couples w/ couples lifestyle (or couples looking for single females), but some couples, like ourselves and @Elelator_Cpl , do meet up with single males, like yourself. *We mention Elelator_Cpl because we know them personally and know they too are the real deal.

    And just to throw it out there, we always had great success with Craigslist.. we know all the issues with that but there are always a diamond in the rough. We have meet numerous great guys on there and although some were a one-time NSA encounter some did become "friends" and fucked my wife many many many times over the years.

    So don't be discouraged using this site as the be-all-end-all to finding great couples in the BBC lifestyle.
    It is the WWW after all ... the Wonderful World of Weirdos..

    Have fun, be safe and take pictures!
     
  7. Dpad

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    My problem has been location.
     
  8. Idowives0763

    Idowives0763 Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    I couldn't agree more. B2W falls into the category of a fetish site.....most of the people here are looking to play out fantasies. It's all about your expectations. If you are truly serious about finding real people in this lifestyle who really do want to meet up then this cannot be the only site you belong to. Swinger sites will yield much better results. I've been hosting parties in the NYC area for 3 years and the majority of those who attend my parties come from swinger sites. I routinely get about 15-20 women/couples and about 25-30 black men at my parties and we have a blast. Every once in a while I'll come across someone on this site who is really 'about that life' but they are few and far between. I will say one thing and maybe some of those who are really involved in the lifestyle will agree with me.....through my parties I have met many, many couples who actually participate. Dealing with so many real people has given me a very low tolerance for those who just talk and talk and talk. I find that I tune them out rather quickly. I am drawn to those who walk the walk..not those who talk the talk. Just my 2 cents. Good luck and happy hunting.
     
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  9. Italianbbcvirgin

    Italianbbcvirgin Active Member Real Person Gold Member

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    I have two issues, one is location and two is availability. And this really isn't a dating site. This is a porn site with ability to chat with like-minded individuals. That being said, I have met with one individual. Our schedules do not sync up currently, but we remain in contact. IMHO real women will take many precautions, especially if they are not part of a couple, because safety in meeting someone, who in reality, is a stranger, is a real concern.
     
  10. k@A

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    we have met black bulls on other sites but none on here yet ....... IMG-20141220-00397.jpg most of the bulls we would like to make are to far away but we are still looking
     
  11. Askoldia

    Askoldia Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    even throwing reasons - places, distances, nicety and fastidious
    we got here , for example, rigth now: Total: 531 (members: 197, guests: 231, robots: 103)
    190 members now where .. max 20 are real..
    if it is to grow, the chances are increased :sex::threesome:
     
  12. darktravel8

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    As others have stated most profiles are fake or are just people talking fantasy.

    About the real couples/women they already have their guys to play with and unless they are really obsessed with this thing with no concerns for personal safety (seems there's some exemples of these on the website) they won't spend much time or interest in looking for someone here.
    And unless they live somewhere where black people are rare (for exemple when I was younger in Italy I was one of the few black guys around, now there are many more) they could really find someone to play with in 5 minutes rather than look for it online.
    And finally even if there's a genuine interest and match up it happens often that 2 people are too far away from each other and it's not logistically possible.
    Personally I'm here mainly to share opinions and read around as I don't play with couples anymore and I already have girls to hang out with (and I prefer to approach new ones live, not on a website, I'm not much into the chatting thing).

    Good luck for you to find someone though :)
     
  13. Mootje

    Mootje Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Thank you all for what you have written and contributed.
     
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  14. BBCnATX

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    Location seems to be the #1 reason but even members within promity seem to shy away from a real meeting. There definitely plenty of bbc on here to meet the demand, IMO. I've reached out to quite a few Texas ppl and actively chat with a few but so far I've only met ONE. I'm assuming people who say they are actively looking? - i will contact them with the intent of making things happen.

    The one woman I met we had an awesome time and still remain in touch. She actually joined my kik BBC group. But for most women, even despite their fantasy excitement, real life meetings are WAY different! I think it comes down to nerves and anxiety.

    I've also ran across the usual suspects of fake women, closet gay guys, and just plain WEIRDOS lol... so I know a fake when they contact me.

    As far as verification goes? Well I personally have yet to hold up a sign but damn, I'm prob one of the most prolific photo/video posters on the site. Stop by my BBC kik group and meet a room full of real Texas BBC and the ladies who love us ;)
     
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  15. asian_fever

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    Some posters are emphasising the fakery - and they might be right.

    But there are other reasons. This is the www, so in fact we are all widely scattered, both geographically and in sexual tastes. I would meet up with someone from here if we were a good fit, but finding that would be very unlikely.

    For me - I am a divorced cuckold (and hence ex-cuckold), who these days mostly likes to date chicks (preferably Asian, but not exclusively) to get them picked up and laid (by hung blacks, but not exclusively). It's a very particular fetish - and I do way better feeling out candidates in the real world. It's just something that is difficult to communicate on here. I wrote my story, Japanese Wife Part 1, which was a true and honest account of the apex of my ex-wife's BBC phase, and it barely raised a ripple here.

    To the OP, I'd meet you if:
    1) You lived in my city!
    2) You would be interested in meeting me!

    I met another white guy on a different site about 8 years back, and we developed a strong email connection, spoke on the phone, and shared some materials. He is the only internet guy I ever sent a photo of my wife to - and that was after knowing him about 3 years!
     
  16. beenblackened

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    Cause your not by me sweetie :lips:
     
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  17. Idowives0763

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    A public service announcement for all of you who are here to actually meet people.......join a swinger site. This site is not set up to facilitate meetings. You can't even do the most basic search for members in your area. It's not just the ease of finding people in your area that makes swinger sites appealing. It's also the mindset of the people on swinger sites. For the most part, swingers are action oriented people. They joined the swinger site for a reason. Most swinger sites also have some type of certification feature which allows you to see not only which people are actually meeting other people in person but it also allows you to see what members are saying about those meetings. I have been on swinger sites for more than 10 years and swingers just have a different way of handling things. They value their free time and don't want to spend it with online chit chat. Swingers want to know where are we going to meet, what time, if it's a party - who is going to be there. If there is any type of mutual attraction it is very easy to set up a meeting for drinks or dinner and if things click you can take things further. And with so many couples being interested in playing with black men, it's actually pretty easy to meet couples as long as you know how to carry yourself with some decorum. So again, my advice for anyone who truly has the intention of meeting someone for real life play time....join a swinger site. It's a much better use of your time.
     
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  18. MyWifeKate

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    For us we get excited about the idea and this is the place we like to come to share pics with you guys and try to ease ourselves into it one fun night after another. You can say we are lame but that's fine, we are here to share some pics and meet some online friends and have fun. Hope thats ok
     
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  19. falcondfw69

    falcondfw69 Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I like honesty. That was a true post from the heart and I like it a lot. Lay your cards out on the table. Those who like the cards, great. Those who don't probably wouldn't be a good match for you guys anyway. Bravo and Kudos to you.
    And by the way, wifey is smokin' hot if that is her in your avatar.
     
  20. MyWifeKate

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    Yup thats her. It is a shitty pic quality wise because I accidentially deleted my photos and the recovery programs won't seem to find the whole pic so it is screen shot from the tiny display image. If anyone has any good ways to recover them I would be happy to share them if I can get them recovered