I was talking to a friend's husband the other day, and he said that the reason he is so afraid to ask for sex, or to even want sex, is because his ex wife scared him so much with the threat of charging him with marital *******. He said that if the woman initiates, then that is consent. So, he doesn't ask for sex. And his wife, my friend, says that's why they don't have sex. She hates initiating, and she would never charge him with ******* her. She loves him.
The more we talked, the more I realized that there must be a lot of men out there that are so afraid of going to jail, for wanting sex, that they either don't ask for sex, or they bring up to their wife that they should have sex with other men. This not only relieves the husband from having to perform, it also relieves his fear of going to jail for wanting sex, because another man is having sex with his wife. And she wants that sex. Thinking of it that way, it kind of makes sense.