When it's right, you'll want not only the sex, but to be with that person, too. The conversation will come easily as you get to know the woman/couple. You'll care more about getting together than just getting your nut and leaving. With a one nighter you can't visit every "port of call" in one night. Long term, you build the relationship, gain trust and feel more open about discussing the most intimate parts of the relationship and even trying new things that you've never done before. No, it's not easy finding the right woman/couple. But once you do find that the vibes are right and the trust is there, you'll feel an added sense of enjoyment from not having to "start from scratch" each time you meet.Its not easy finding long term though is it and if you do how do you know the person is right?
When it's right, you'll want not only the sex, but to be with that person, too. The conversation will come easily as you get to know the woman/couple. You'll care more about getting together than just getting your nut and leaving. With a one nighter you can't visit every "port of call" in one night. Long term, you build the relationship, gain trust and feel more open about discussing the most intimate parts of the relationship and even trying new things that you've never done before. No, it's not easy finding the right woman/couple. But once you do find that the vibes are right and the trust is there, you'll feel an added sense of enjoyment from not having to "start from scratch" each time you meet.
"Deep" intimate relationships.Serious question....Do most women/couples prefer quick, one or two time relationships, or do you prefer a relationship that may take time to cultivate, but lasts for months or years? No right or wrong answers, but since I lean heavily towards growing a relationship, just want to see if I'm out of the mainstream.
I've had two good FWB's. Both lasted a good 3-4 years. The first was a couple I met through a swinger magazine (remember magazines?) It was like a fantasy story that you read and say, "nah, didn't really happen." I'll PM you. Point being, it's part luck, part having an open mind, and the most important part is patience! Doesn't happen that often, and you'll need the patience.That really is a nice explanation, thanks for taking the time to write this. Does it take time to get to that point? How do you or others do this with friends and family?
Not trying to be a smart ___, but so is vanilla and chocolate cake. Most people prefer one over the other. But I do get your point.....sometimes, you'll take a slice of either.both are good
yes both are fun and why not have more than one slice a night especially cream filled cake lolNot trying to be a smart ___, but so is vanilla and chocolate cake. Most people prefer one over the other. But I do get your point.....sometimes, you'll take a slice of either.
I've had two good FWB's. Both lasted a good 3-4 years. The first was a couple I met through a swinger magazine (remember magazines?) It was like a fantasy story that you read and say, "nah, didn't really happen." I'll PM you. Point being, it's part luck, part having an open mind, and the most important part is patience! Doesn't happen that often, and you'll need the patience.
We have enjoyed the company of a set of twin brothers over the years.Not to rule out one night stands, but we really enjoyed our relationship with twin brothers we entertained for about three years.
If it's a trusting long term relationship, it certainly helps to remove a lot of the doubts (diseases, cleanliness, compatibility, etc.), and helps to reduce the "no shows" and the "last minute surprises" when a person is not who he/she led you to believe they are.
I hear you, but unless you've had a long face chat with them first, my experience has been that over 50% of the people I meet are not who or what I was expecting. No shows, heavy drinking, couples that you can feel the tension between them (lots of guys want their wives/girlfriend's to do things just to satisfy them), not knowing their status, cases of nervousness, etc., et. You must be doing a lot right---Go for it!To have a few fwbs is probably ideal. One night's are fun and they will probably just happen anyway, but it's good to have some guys you know. Our ideal isn't a guy who is more like a casual friend. We like variety so a singular bf wouldn't be an ideal situation.
I just wrote many of the exact same things you stated!
I hear you, but unless you've had a long face chat with them first, my experience has been that over 50% of the people I meet are not who or what I was expecting. No shows, heavy drinking, couples that you can feel the tension between them (lots of guys want their wives/girlfriend's to do things just to satisfy them), not knowing their status, cases of nervousness, etc., et. You must be doing a lot right---Go for it!