....I can appreciate the OPs sensitivity to this topic ... so it certainly should be given an honest, sincere responses. So here's THIS male's response ...
Anything, like this, deviating from the norm is often a distraction, particularly IF it is a surprise that's revealed at the time of sex. Guys tend to develop a visual image of their ladies, just as women visualize an image of their black man's cocks ... so when there's a deviation/surprise, such as a small black cock, or scar tissue where once was a beautiful breast, this could easily become a distraction or mood changer. It may not be all that important to females, but to MEN, its critical, because it COULD impact our erection ... now THAT's critical, right?
....So, its vital that things like this be discussed upfront before expected intimacy begins. If its going to be a 'game changer' its best to know upfront, right? For some, it will be ... most it won't be IF its not a SURPRISE to begin with.
Its no difference than a woman finding an awesomely sexy man, taking him home, then
suddenly finding out that he's got a skinny 4 inch cock, which changes her mood and desire to fulfill her night's expectations.
....I think I speak for most guys, here. If we know UP front the situation, things will move forward quite well, but our cocks are very sensitive to mental changes ... I wouldn't toy with that weakness of ours. So, don't spring surprises on us as we start to crawl beneath the sheets.
Mac