We are definitely real, and have had some interesting private interactions on the site. If we have fully vetted and established trust its easy to do a skype call.
Its my feeling that people who can't understand the paranoia don't have much to lose. We have family and job concerns as well as my wife having a very public profile being involved in politics at a national level.
My wife is very much a work in progress, but she definitely checks her messages here from time to time. I've previously managed to get 2 previous girlfriends blacked, but that was in Europe. The dynamics here are a bit different, but its only a matter of time before my wife takes the plunge.