Tips to convince husband

Olive Oil said:
My man is faking it..? or you're saying I'm a male ... faking it as it were? Just trying to understand! :)

I guess I'm also slightly surprised that it's that rare women seek to supplement in a relationship (or maybe you mean rare on this site)!
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OK . So you joined the site last Friday . Glad to see since my comment you verified and posted pictures . Now I believe you about 65% / It doen't matter what I think it is just that My Lady and I have been trying to speak to similar couples for quite a while and we only get the male ... or a female up to the time it is time to voice verify . So my rare comment holds true
 
NYNJcuckcouple said:
OK . So you joined the site last Friday . Glad to see since my comment you verified and posted pictures . Now I believe you about 65% / It doen't matter what I think it is just that My Lady and I have been trying to speak to similar couples for quite a while and we only get the male ... or a female up to the time it is time to voice verify . So my rare comment holds true
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I get the frustration! 🤗❤️
 
SNIPER1001 said:
No, I am engaged and we are new swingers. It has worked well for us to this point. I have lived a life full of life and death situations @AnnieS. What I CAN tell you that tomorrow is not a promise and today's happiness is better than a fortune cookie. That said, I am prepared for any vitriolic response.
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No vitriol but you also at 55 should be well versed in communication with your partner. Reading some of these responses here even for you, it’s ludicrous. They could care less about the couples issues it’s all about them getting off to thier fetishized illusion.
 
vance43 said:
Usually its the husband that has to do all the heavy lifting lol in your case you might have to. Just do it step by step. Good honest communication. He will agree if you don't rush it and make him comfortable. That's how I got my GF to swing with me. She was very opposed to I did it step by step.
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Fantastic, thank you for sharing - so happy for you that you figured it out together! 🥰
 
AnnieS said:
No vitriol but you also at 55 should be well versed in communication with your partner. Reading some of these responses here even for you, it’s ludicrous. They could care less about the couples issues it’s all about them getting off to thier fetishized illusion.
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💯
 
AnnieS said:
After reading 5 pages of this and the replies from very well said by QOS to absolutely absurd in the usual sense its painfully clear here that the bulk of the replies come from men who have little knowledge about sex or communication skills. That’s why I venture the vast majority are single in a wife beater in their room with a sock or listed as couple but single anyway or divorced still wanting the relationship that cost them thier marriage. Not one person suggested anything close to seeking professional help with his issue or you both seeking some professional guidance. Asking for help here is like dribbling gasoline on yourself while smoking. If he has issues find out why and seek solutions- together. If he wants to dabble with you OK no problem but you’ve got to start some serious dialogue here and drop the sneaking around and the slowly festering animosity that will build up. Start with communication and work on the issues as a team or you wont be one for long. I watch IR porn and black men turn me on. My husband knows it its no secret. But we also communicate exceptionally well and there is no behind the back stuff going on. Its not tolerated on eithers part.
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Hi AnnieS!

Thanks for your valuable input 🥰

I'm not actually sneaking around about it with him - dialogue is open, always has been with us. I told him about a day after joining this forum that I'm on it - he sees every piece of content I put up and is just happy I am doing something for myself. I watch IR porn and that turns me on. My husband knows this and is supportive.

I actually love each and every one of the comments and suggestions on here; I came here looking for some input from all minds, and that's what I'm seeing. I enjoy the diversity of input. Love it ☺️ If I was looking for a strict clinical psych run-down of these issues, I'd go to a forum for that (or start cracking books and ingest articles.) 🥰

I have also been privileged enough that a lot of commenters (and people who didn't comment on this thread) have additionally reached out to via PM - pro health help for him has been a common suggestion there.

I love hearing your personal experience with the lifestyle - thank you for sharing! I genuinely appreciate that you (and everyone else) took the time to read through my post and give me input.

Your profile pic is 🔥🔥🔥, by the way!
 
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Well if you’ve ruled out physical health as the culprit for his ED then perhaps it’s time for him to see a doctor about mental problems attributing to his ED? I would strongly advise against replacing a broken sex life with this lifestyle. When I’ve seen others do this in similar situations it has always ended miserably. If you both love each other then you owe it to each other to try and fix your sex life before trying to supplement it with a lifestyle that requires a very stable foundation to work.
Is he on any medications or have any chemical dependencies? How often is he masturbating? Perhaps he has an addiction of some kind that is interfering with his equipment.
 
QOShotwifeDFW said:
Well if you’ve ruled out physical health as the culprit for his ED then perhaps it’s time for him to see a doctor about mental problems attributing to his ED? I would strongly advise against replacing a broken sex life with this lifestyle. When I’ve seen others do this in similar situations it has always ended miserably. If you both love each other then you owe it to each other to try and fix your sex life before trying to supplement it with a lifestyle that requires a very stable foundation to work.
Is he on any medications or have any chemical dependencies? How often is he masturbating? Perhaps he has an addiction of some kind that is interfering with his equipment.
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Listen to this one. Shes smart.
 
QOShotwifeDFW said:
Well if you’ve ruled out physical health as the culprit for his ED then perhaps it’s time for him to see a doctor about mental problems attributing to his ED? I would strongly advise against replacing a broken sex life with this lifestyle. When I’ve seen others do this in similar situations it has always ended miserably. If you both love each other then you owe it to each other to try and fix your sex life before trying to supplement it with a lifestyle that requires a very stable foundation to work.
Is he on any medications or have any chemical dependencies? How often is he masturbating? Perhaps he has an addiction of some kind that is interfering with his equipment.
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Or possibly he is way overweight, needs to workout, better diet, has diabetes, but yes he needs to see a doctor. This lifestyle is not for everyone, only those that can understand the situation, and can have uninhibited sex with others. Not worth wrecking a marriage over. Think before you leap, just saying
 
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