Hiya [you have a long name]
!- anyone reading, please immediately skip to TL;DR in at the bottom of this. Do not read anything in between, it's boring.
Thanks so much for your input!
Since this topic is the same ilk as a subsequent one by @Wboi, I'll add that to this reply...
Thanks so much for caring about his health and the health of our marriage - really, it's rather rare to have virtual strangers care enough about you or your potential issues they take time and energy to help you and pass along encouraging sentiments. I'll just pop into direct mode for a second - read the next paragraphs with love; the curt tone is merely a function of my academic and Euro upbringing;
The issue of the ED, it seems, has become somewhat of a red herring - understandably so, because it seems to outsiders like an issue that - if remedied - would fix everything.
It won't.
Man OK... really didn't find it necessary to go into detail about this since it's not extremely pertinent... but here goes: To list off, just to set the record straight; he's not overweight, in fact his metabolism is somewhat of a wonder - he probably doesn't do enough cardio and that's because if he does, it interferes with muscles gains (re see above metabolism). He does not have diabetes (of any kind). He takes no *******, prescription or other, rarely drinks, and vapes (weed) but nothing that would interfere with this - he has no addictions. He's sadly subject to a curated and predominantly whole foods diet because his wife is in the fit biz (and definitely does too much cardio which also interferes with her muscle gains - but such is life when it's work). He doesn't miss a doctor check-up - doctor deems him healthy. It's not a sudden or semi-sudden onset of issues. He's into women and women only - he likes me. He's had issues before me. He might just be... unlucky in this area. Does daily, professional stress and fatigue interfere with such workings?; probably - adulting sucks.
I mentioned ED in the OG post because it's an explanation to the situation where the reason could also be ... "likes men more than women", "has been cheating", "is just super worried about his fantasy football lineup" - I don't know... insert other reasons mutually pleasurable sex isn't happening.
Right... so... ED is a red herring because; could it "get fixed"... which it can't... even then, here I am. Just a girl standing in front of a bunch of sexy people asking for their input and experiences on potentially introducing this - which is a major turn on for me - into a partnership.
On a side note, it is interesting to me that the thought is that it's counterproductive to try to find a solution through my surefire cravings whereas "fixing" him would constitute a shoe-in. I reckon that might just be a consequence of the lack of information given - so that's obviously also my bad. And let me just add here that there's a general misunderstanding that there's no communication or strong foundation - which I've attempted at outlining in other replies, but obviously, all that gets lost in the sea of words - also understandably so.
I uhmmm am trying to make it work... for him as well as me.
Now, is one of the trajectories here that we just... don't introduce anything extra into the equation? - sure. Then I'll have no (pleasurable) sex life - again. Absolutely, that could be the outcome if he's just not ultimately into any of it. Tried that for some years; can endure. Wouldn't mind getting fully pleasured though - perhaps that's just a particularly selfish wish.
My current quest, if you will, is sampling ideas from experiential and anecdotal narratives as well as from general thoughts by these wise people on here who have enjoyed the lifestyle for a while - so that I might ascertain whether my partner happens to also find that lifestyle exciting (read previous comments if you right now think ED means not cumming.) There. That's the unsexiest sentence ever written.
Oy, that's it. Appreciate you, truly, for showing interest and for showing care for me and my life
Those who asked for updates on this through PM; shall do! TL: DR; carry on being hot and awesome, nothing to see here.
If I was looking for a strict clinical psych run-down of these issues, I'd go to a forum for that (or start cracking books and ingest articles.) 
