Tips to convince husband

[Nephthys]

Any tips out there to convince husband of 10yrs to add a bull to the equation?

Husband is average but is prone to ED. I have a hard time getting turned on 4 him. We haven't had sex in about 2 years and last time we tried, not successful in any sense of the term. Before that time, maybe a year before that. I have told him he has a hallpass but he doesn't seem interested in that for himself.

I get off by myself by watching BBC porn.

 

[quiksilver]

I’d suggest asking him to watch porn together to spice things up. Watch a range of different porn scenes. Throw in a few ir, Hotwife, cuckold or anything that you’d like to try and see how feels about it. Get a gauge and go from there.

 

[Cuckcowboy]

Well one way would be to give him great oral and hand jobs focused around BBC.
Maybe even lightly flirt with black men In public around your hubby.
Then give hubby the best oral and or sexual attention you can.
You can start rewiring him slowly

 

[SindeeSilver]

I just added the Bull/s component for my own enjoyment/pleasure. I do not want hubby to even know what I am doing because that makes it even hotter and sluttier for me and is MY thing

 

[SNIPER1001]

Any tips out there to convince husband of 10yrs to add a bull to the equation?

Husband is average but is prone to ED. I have a hard time getting turned on 4 him. We haven't had sex in about 2 years and last time we tried, not successful in any sense of the term. Before that time, maybe a year before that. I have told him he has a hallpass but he doesn't seem interested in that for himself.

I get off by myself by watching BBC porn.

From 55 years in this world, you have one lifetime! No sex in 2 years, red flag! Go get what you desire! YOU KNOW WHAT IS!

 

[SNIPER1001]

I’d suggest asking him to watch porn together to spice things up. Watch a range of different porn scenes. Throw in a few ir, Hotwife, cuckold or anything that you’d like to try and see how feels about it. Get a gauge and go from there.

Great advice!

 

[Brasidas]

Any tips out there to convince husband of 10yrs to add a bull to the equation?

Husband is average but is prone to ED. I have a hard time getting turned on 4 him. We haven't had sex in about 2 years and last time we tried, not successful in any sense of the term. Before that time, maybe a year before that. I have told him he has a hallpass but he doesn't seem interested in that for himself.

I get off by myself by watching BBC porn.

My advice: Talk to him and be honest with how you feel unsatisfied in the context of your own relationship first. If he would be hostile in that discussion, he definitely won’t be down to add another dude.

If he is aware you need sexual satisfaction that he is unable/unwilling to provide, then you can talk about remedies. Ask him what he thinks the two of you should do about it. Based on his responses, it should be possible to gauge if this is a thing he’s willing to entertain.

 

[VA BBC]

A marriage Counselor then attempts the Hotwife/BBC Lifetstyle.

 

[Cuckparati]

Any tips out there to convince husband of 10yrs to add a bull to the equation?

Husband is average but is prone to ED. I have a hard time getting turned on 4 him. We haven't had sex in about 2 years and last time we tried, not successful in any sense of the term. Before that time, maybe a year before that. I have told him he has a hallpass but he doesn't seem interested in that for himself.

I get off by myself by watching BBC porn.

When yall did have sex, was there dirty talk? Did he ask about your past lovers? Did he enjoy. Role play etc?

 

[Olive Oil]

When yall did have sex, was there dirty talk? Did he ask about your past lovers? Did he enjoy. Role play etc?

(Same person, diff account since I couldn't verify a couple's account without him)

Good questions and TYVM for the input!

Re: dirty talk - not really, but I don't really need that (I don't know if you were asking if he needs that?) - Past partners: no - Role play; sort of same answer as the first; I don't really need that. I just kind of need a decent sized, erect cock with some power behind it...? If vibrators etc get involved I would honestly just want to handle that myself (and I'll watch BBC porn) - sorry if that sounds cold or blunt.

 

[Cuckparati]

(Same person, diff account since I couldn't verify a couple's account without him)

Good questions and TYVM for the input!

Re: dirty talk - not really, but I don't really need that (I don't know if you were asking if he needs that?) - Past partners: no - Role play; sort of same answer as the first; I don't really need that. I just kind of need a decent sized, erect cock with some power behind it...? If vibrators etc get involved I would honestly just want to handle that myself (and I'll watch BBC porn) - sorry if that sounds cold or blunt.

No its OK.
I mean for him, did he like to talk or ask things during sex?

 

[Cuckparati]

(Same person, diff account since I couldn't verify a couple's account without him)

Good questions and TYVM for the input!

Re: dirty talk - not really, but I don't really need that (I don't know if you were asking if he needs that?) - Past partners: no - Role play; sort of same answer as the first; I don't really need that. I just kind of need a decent sized, erect cock with some power behind it...? If vibrators etc get involved I would honestly just want to handle that myself (and I'll watch BBC porn) - sorry if that sounds cold or blunt.

Also, is his ED causing him embarrassment towards you? Maybe he wants to satisfy you, but can't, so frustration and embarrassment is a solid wall he can't overcome.
What about a black strap on, while he's caged? Explain to him, that nothing turns you on more that him "penetrating" you, although it's not him physically in you, you're enjoying the motion..if he asks why a black dildo, tell him, so yall can see how much you'll cream over it etc.
Eventually he'll understand ergo be trained by you psychologically.
I've posted before, our wives are our personal porn stars in our minds, belive me, we've pictured yall in every position, with every big c.ck imaginable. He just needs your reassurance thats its completely physical. And he's still your #1 man.

 

[Cuckparati]

..you'll definitely have to go through the steps, even the ones that aren't attractive to you, be patient. The outcome is for you in the end. You'll have to put in some work.

 

[QOShotwifeDFW]

2 years?!? Is he at least going down on you?

 

[kane36]

Any tips out there to convince husband of 10yrs to add a bull to the equation?

Husband is average but is prone to ED. I have a hard time getting turned on 4 him. We haven't had sex in about 2 years and last time we tried, not successful in any sense of the term. Before that time, maybe a year before that. I have told him he has a hallpass but he doesn't seem interested in that for himself.

I get off by myself by watching BBC porn.

Find your self a bull and then enjoy and ******* him too

 

[usemygirl]

2yrs and I would say the man has a medical problem that you should probably address first. It’s not natural for an adult to not be getting urges for some kind of sexual release wether that be actual sex or sexual release of some other kind. I would think you having a bull at this stage would be the wrong move. First address his sex drive then concentrate on the sex later.

 

[Olive Oil]

..you'll definitely have to go through the steps, even the ones that aren't attractive to you, be patient. The outcome is for you in the end. You'll have to put in some work.

I appreciate all your input!

And yes, to answer your first query: He can cum, he'll get aroused in that sense. There's no real need for him to add talk (or role play). And yes, it then frustrates him - but also - at some point there's only so much I can do here. Every intimate session can't be about frustration (well, it was) - at some point, it just feels like a waste of time and effort to try when gets frustrated and I do. He'll get his, then there's no real outcome for me. Which is why it's where it's at now. It's just more talking which... is the opposite of what I want to do.

Re strap on; I thought about it but then ... sure, if it's some sort of segue to me bringing in a swinger lifestyle or something (I'd obviously prefer BBC - just my preference). Other than that, it's just another toy when I want the real thing. I can play with toys myself (which I do, I think maybe he just pretends like he doesn't know).

He's a visual person - my hope is he'd maybe love watching me get pleasured?

 

[Olive Oil]

2 years?!? Is he at least going down on you?

No...

I also don't really want that (only) - I'm much more of a g-spot enjoyer than a straight clitoral one - so if it's just that, that'll frustrate me too.

 

[Cuckparati]

I appreciate all your input!

And yes, to answer your first query: He can cum, he'll get aroused in that sense. There's no real need for him to add talk (or role play). And yes, it then frustrates him - but also - at some point there's only so much I can do here. Every intimate session can't be about frustration (well, it was) - at some point, it just feels like a waste of time and effort to try when gets frustrated and I do. He'll get his, then there's no real outcome for me. Which is why it's where it's at now. It's just more talking which... is the opposite of what I want to do.

Re strap on; I thought about it but then ... sure, if it's some sort of segue to me bringing in a swinger lifestyle or something (I'd obviously prefer BBC - just my preference). Other than that, it's just another toy when I want the real thing. I can play with toys myself (which I do, I think maybe he just pretends like he doesn't know).

He's a visual person - my hope is he'd maybe love watching me get pleasured?

I reiterate what I said earlier, our wives are our porn stars. Our #1 porn stars. Yes he'd love to watch you get off! But you're going to have to build the bridg to get him there.
Have you talked to him at least? Brought up that you both want the same out come, satisfaction, but in yalls specific situation, it might just take some other measures?
Communication will be key. You're going to keep asking the same question over and over..how to get him to let you take a BBC partner..

 

[Olive Oil]

2yrs and I would say the man has a medical problem that you should probably address first. It’s not natural for an adult to not be getting urges for some kind of sexual release wether that be actual sex or sexual release of some other kind. I would think you having a bull at this stage would be the wrong move. First address his sex drive then concentrate on the sex later.

I see what you're saying; I honestly don't know what he does. I'm assuming he handles it on his own, too. He likes ... me... he just can't really... do what needs doing?

We both stopped addressing the issue because ... it's just a conversation every time. I'm a little sick of talking. He stopped addressing the issue (and pursuing it) I'm assuming because it ends up with him being frustrated (even if he still gets his).

He has issues with this in the past (before me) - I guess he's just unlucky. He's otherwise healthy.

Thank you for your input