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I'm here because BBC turns me on. I'm not sure if I didn't make that clear, but there you go.
Yes, sick of having every attempt at intimacy with my partner instead turn into a frustrating convo (with him) which has not changed this problem for us. I'm sure he is, too - the frustration isn't mine alone. Would be much preferred if it ended with everyone being happy and fulfilled.
I'm not looking for a relationship outside of my marriage; kind of thought that was clear also
I'm looking to figure out if what turns me on might turn him on, too. There will be no risk of extramarital, emotional attachment - also not looking for that.
And yes; that's what I've been doing for 2 years, I'm assuming he has too. Yes, ED; I'm not sure how knowing exactly how my husband's ED affects him (and me) helps ambiguity - but maybe I'll just mention here that ED doesn't necessarily mean no orgasms for the sufferer. Hence why I'm wondering if maybe he could get turned on (and cum) seeing me get pleasure (from what turns me on).
Lots of people have been very helpful giving me suggestions how to start that conversation with him or what other things might help me introduce what turns me on to my marriage so that everyone feels pleasure from the situation! Thanks to everyone for the help!