All I can say for sure, is going off your pictures, no BBC will want to keep his hands and c.ck off/out of you 
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You’re sick of talking yet you’re posting about your problem on an interracial sex forum. Just think about that for a second.
If you do go through with seeking sexual gratification outside of your marriage I would advise against getting a singular playmate. Especially if you’re new to it then you’re setting yourself up for failure right from the start. On a subconscious level or sometimes even consciously the only reason we repeatedly have sex with a single individual is due to emotional attachment and/or the desire to procreate with that individual. So I would suggest having one night stands or repeat encounters with a variety of men. That way you limit their and your own risk for developing feelings.
Also I’m confused; you say he has ED but then that he also gets his? How is he getting his exactly? Have you both just been masturbating for two years? There’s a bit too much ambiguity in the situation as stated for anyone to give you truly useful advice.
If you do go through with seeking sexual gratification outside of your marriage I would advise against getting a singular playmate. Especially if you’re new to it then you’re setting yourself up for failure right from the start. On a subconscious level or sometimes even consciously the only reason we repeatedly have sex with a single individual is due to emotional attachment and/or the desire to procreate with that individual. So I would suggest having one night stands or repeat encounters with a variety of men. That way you limit their and your own risk for developing feelings.
Also I’m confused; you say he has ED but then that he also gets his? How is he getting his exactly? Have you both just been masturbating for two years? There’s a bit too much ambiguity in the situation as stated for anyone to give you truly useful advice.
Yeah... I get it. No argument there (re bridge).
Talking in the past, yes. Which ends up with him feeling defeated (what wife wants to do that to her husband?)
You're seeing this on the backend of it, as it were, so I'm well aware this all sounds like I just gave up on him and I'm just not catering to him - and I should be - or that I'm coldly telling him his ******* doesn't work for me (I'm not). But you know - at what point is it OK for me to be frustrated too and consider that some other things need to be introduced in order for me to experience fulfillment?
Everything you're telling me makes sense - and I'm genuinely thankful you took time and energy to talk to me about it.
As you said; talking has to happen again (- or status quo in which case I greatly appreciate any BBC/snowbunny vid content coming my way for my solo sessions).
We all work with what we have. I've presented what I want to my wife, she said it does nothing for her, and is genuinely not interested. Although she does entertain some aspects of it, because as she says, if that's what you like..Yeah... I get it. No argument there (re bridge).
Talking in the past, yes. Which ends up with him feeling defeated (what wife wants to do that to her husband?)
You're seeing this on the backend of it, as it were, so I'm well aware this all sounds like I just gave up on him and I'm just not catering to him - and I should be - or that I'm coldly telling him his ******* doesn't work for me (I'm not). But you know - at what point is it OK for me to be frustrated too and consider that some other things need to be introduced in order for me to experience fulfillment?
Everything you're telling me makes sense - and I'm genuinely thankful you took time and energy to talk to me about it.
As you said; talking has to happen again (- or status quo in which case I greatly appreciate any BBC/snowbunny vid content coming my way for my solo sessions).
So she's doing her part to an extent. I won't ask for more. I also need to take into consideration her feelings/mentality. Over all she's my wife and she matters.
So give and take.
Seems you're going to have to either accept your situation (for better or worse right?) Or move forward. But all things have they're outcomes.
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I'm here because BBC turns me on. I'm not sure if I didn't make that clear, but there you go.
Yes, sick of having every attempt at intimacy with my partner instead turn into a frustrating convo (with him) which has not changed this problem for us. I'm sure he is, too - the frustration isn't mine alone. Would be much preferred if it ended with everyone being happy and fulfilled.
I'm not looking for a relationship outside of my marriage; kind of thought that was clear also
I'm looking to figure out if what turns me on might turn him on, too. There will be no risk of extramarital, emotional attachment - also not looking for that. And yes; that's what I've been doing for 2 years, I'm assuming he has too. Yes, ED; I'm not sure how knowing exactly how my husband's ED affects him (and me) helps ambiguity - but maybe I'll just mention here that ED doesn't necessarily mean no orgasms for the sufferer. Hence why I'm wondering if maybe he could get turned on (and cum) seeing me get pleasure (from what turns me on).
Lots of people have been very helpful giving me suggestions how to start that conversation with him or what other things might help me introduce what turns me on to my marriage so that everyone feels pleasure from the situation! Thanks to everyone for the help!
Idea..how would you feel seeing him with another woman?OK
I'm here because BBC turns me on. I'm not sure if I didn't make that clear, but there you go.
Yes, sick of having every attempt at intimacy with my partner instead turn into a frustrating convo (with him) which has not changed this problem for us. I'm sure he is, too - the frustration isn't mine alone. Would be much preferred if it ended with everyone being happy and fulfilled.
I'm not looking for a relationship outside of my marriage; kind of thought that was clear also
And yes; that's what I've been doing for 2 years, I'm assuming he has too. Yes, ED; I'm not sure how knowing exactly how my husband's ED affects him (and me) helps ambiguity - but maybe I'll just mention here that ED doesn't necessarily mean no orgasms for the sufferer. Hence why I'm wondering if maybe he could get turned on (and cum) seeing me get pleasure (from what turns me on).
Lots of people have been very helpful giving me suggestions how to start that conversation with him or what other things might help me introduce what turns me on to my marriage so that everyone feels pleasure from the situation! Thanks to everyone for the help!
Would you be willing to do your part to excite him?
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Guess I dont get this idea... cage a guy who cant get it up to begin with and most likely has other barriers as you pointed out? That sounds like a bad combination before its even started... what was he like BEFORE the ED problems? On the dominant side? If not then possibly this *might* work but still tend to doubt it. Need more background info I think...
Now that you’ve filled in the gaps it makes sense. It honestly is reckless for people to give advice without knowing the specifics of your relationship, the history, and specifics of your past and current sex life. I’m a real woman on a site filled with lots of fakes and white beta men looking for more jerk off material so I apologize if the tone or delivery of my messages is not as delicate as others. Perhaps there is someone on this site that is legitimate that has been exactly where you are. I for one have not been in your position. My husband introduced me to swinging and to black men and he doesn’t have those same issues that your husband does. So I can’t really give you references from my experience that would apply to your situation, but I can tell you that it’s possible to have a sex life supplemented in large part by black men and have it be just as stable as any monogamous sex life. You just have to have complete trust between you and your husband and he needs to be a highly sexual person so that he also gets something from the situation. It sounds to me like you are perfectly set up to be able to take control of your sex life and start getting satisfied by lots of black men. Fingers crossed you’re able to make that happen.OK
I'm here because BBC turns me on. I'm not sure if I didn't make that clear, but there you go.
Yes, sick of having every attempt at intimacy with my partner instead turn into a frustrating convo (with him) which has not changed this problem for us. I'm sure he is, too - the frustration isn't mine alone. Would be much preferred if it ended with everyone being happy and fulfilled.
I'm not looking for a relationship outside of my marriage; kind of thought that was clear also
And yes; that's what I've been doing for 2 years, I'm assuming he has too. Yes, ED; I'm not sure how knowing exactly how my husband's ED affects him (and me) helps ambiguity - but maybe I'll just mention here that ED doesn't necessarily mean no orgasms for the sufferer. Hence why I'm wondering if maybe he could get turned on (and cum) seeing me get pleasure (from what turns me on).
Lots of people have been very helpful giving me suggestions how to start that conversation with him or what other things might help me introduce what turns me on to my marriage so that everyone feels pleasure from the situation! Thanks to everyone for the help!
I see your point, but maybe some dom rolplay might excite him to put forth effor?
Spoken like a queen!Now that you’ve filled in the gaps it makes sense. It honestly is reckless for people to give advice without knowing the specifics of your relationship, the history, and specifics of your past and current sex life. I’m a real woman on a site filled with lots of fakes and white beta men looking for more jerk off material so I apologize if the tone or delivery of my messages is not as delicate as others. Perhaps there is someone on this site that is legitimate that has been exactly where you are. I for one have not been in your position. My husband introduced me to swinging and to black men and he doesn’t have those same issues that your husband does. So I can’t really give you references from my experience that would apply to your situation, but I can tell you that it’s possible to have a sex life supplemented in large part by black men and have it be just as stable as any monogamous sex life. You just have to have complete trust between you and your husband and he needs to be a highly sexual person so that he also gets something from the situation. It sounds to me like you are perfectly set up to be able to take control of your sex life and start getting satisfied by lots of black men. Fingers crossed you’re able to make that happen.
That all makes sense and I completely understand!Now that you’ve filled in the gaps it makes sense. It honestly is reckless for people to give advice without knowing the specifics of your relationship, the history, and specifics of your past and current sex life. I’m a real woman on a site filled with lots of fakes and white beta men looking for more jerk off material so I apologize if the tone or delivery of my messages is not as delicate as others. Perhaps there is someone on this site that is legitimate that has been exactly where you are. I for one have not been in your position. My husband introduced me to swinging and to black men and he doesn’t have those same issues that your husband does. So I can’t really give you references from my experience that would apply to your situation, but I can tell you that it’s possible to have a sex life supplemented in large part by black men and have it be just as stable as any monogamous sex life. You just have to have complete trust between you and your husband and he needs to be a highly sexual person so that he also gets something from the situation. It sounds to me like you are perfectly set up to be able to take control of your sex life and start getting satisfied by lots of black men. Fingers crossed you’re able to make that happen.
Yes, absolutely agree - it's all about trust - and obviously, he should be getting something out of this, too.
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Agree, and you are not portraying this as a last ditch effort before cheating ( not judging just trying to put a pin in it)... obviously no matter what ultimately you will do what you need to do for you and your relationship. Its not easy for these situations at all.That all makes sense and I completely understand!
Yes, absolutely agree - it's all about trust - and obviously, he should be getting something out of this, too.
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To answer this (sorry, comments started to get lost in the thread); I've let him know that if that's something he needs, I'm OK with that (I told him that maybe 3 years ago? - and have reiterated since, doesn't seem to interest him).
Based off of further reading the OP had up, I disagree this would not fit in with what she is willing to do.
Its a tough road she is on...
OK, gotcha!
Just ideas to create a bridge to move on.
There's no common ground...yet.
I'm terribly boring -
if it's between my marriage as is and getting cock by subterfuge, Imma continue with my solo sessions and BBC content.Our situation is similar to yours QOS- I introduced my wife into swinging to help fulfill her fantasy of a mfm. This lead to playing with couples and one of our early playsets was a mixed couple and she enjoyed his bigger cock and we went from there finding her more at that point.Now that you’ve filled in the gaps it makes sense. It honestly is reckless for people to give advice without knowing the specifics of your relationship, the history, and specifics of your past and current sex life. I’m a real woman on a site filled with lots of fakes and white beta men looking for more jerk off material so I apologize if the tone or delivery of my messages is not as delicate as others. Perhaps there is someone on this site that is legitimate that has been exactly where you are. I for one have not been in your position. My husband introduced me to swinging and to black men and he doesn’t have those same issues that your husband does. So I can’t really give you references from my experience that would apply to your situation, but I can tell you that it’s possible to have a sex life supplemented in large part by black men and have it be just as stable as any monogamous sex life. You just have to have complete trust between you and your husband and he needs to be a highly sexual person so that he also gets something from the situation. It sounds to me like you are perfectly set up to be able to take control of your sex life and start getting satisfied by lots of black men. Fingers crossed you’re able to make that happen.
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