The only way my husband can cum is to the thought of me being blacked

So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!



Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea! 😱



Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.



Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:



I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :



1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?



2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?



3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?



I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?



Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated ☺️❤️😘
I have no idea what the answer is for you, but what a fantastic story. Hot!
 
Cuckold angst is a real thing. The surefire way to keep it in check is for the bull and wife to get theirs first while the cuck stays on edge and doesn’t cum until the end. When we first engaged in cuckolding, I made the mistake of jerking off a little overzealously while they were making love and I came before they did. Immediately afterwards I had all sorts of cuckold angst. I never did that again no matter how horny I get. After that night, I always cum after they finish. The amount of cum that you spill afterwards is immense as it’s your body trying to compete with the bull (the sperm competition theory) And dopamine that is released for a cuckold is extremely high. And it’s that dopamine that keeps that angst away while they are having sex.
Very helfpul response. Thanks!
 
Just to add to the conversation. I enjoy making my white wet vagina cum a LOT. I enjoy playing with her wet natural born vagina that has babies body fucking her. She's my lil barbie. Her wet vagina born naturally cums from a llllooonnngggg line of hot smart wet vagina naturally born intelligent submissive God sent back makers... I've always been this way. I'm not a cuck by any means. But do enjoy building her up if that makes sense. Communication is our biggest issue. I'm not sure if my natural heaven sent baby maker still is even interested in other sexual escapades outside of my visions. Just really not sure. If my natural heaven sent baby maker were interested.. my natural baby maker would be my personal barbie. If my natural baby maker heaven sent needed bbc singular or plural.. Mutual masturbation and honesty are the key. No fucking fighting at all. Fffuuucckkk that *******. My mental state could never appease being humiliated or talked down to. I would want to spoil my natural heaven sent baby maker like no other. I wouldn't need another natural baby maker per se that we both couldn't enjoy. I have a few friends. It would have to be genuine from his/her heart. No control.. From either one. Luv and filthiness. Lust. My unique eye for her. Spoil her rotten. She's high maintenance it's a lotta cash. Counseling for a purpose to join and become better from within truthfully is everything. No secrets. Truth man... From the heart. Not for a reason because people mistakenly because of different beliefs hard to accept differences. Put it like this. You could put perfume on the bottom of her beautiful feet and the aroma would always be there because they would have to be soft and delicious. Never overworked just over sexed and limitless orgasms from my only see her sexiness and beauty dirty forbidden sex ridden mind. With me.. my natural born baby maker princess that natural born baby maker is the way i see her..
Always fucking high class neutral born baby maker. I don't want no dicks with me in me or around me. Long story. 💯 No homo intended. Her life would be the greatest lifelong fantasy a natural born white wife baby maker naturally could ever have of any natural born heaven sent baby maker in the world.
 
For me it is exactly like your husband say the way a white woman stands out with a black man there is no comparison to her being with a white guy its just not the same attraction for me I only wanted my wife to use a black dildo while I jacked off to her I always cum extremely fast but the orgasms she would have that I could never give her were strong enough that I could literally feel them that is power my wife still just wanted me from time to time and I couldn't even get hard for her but it was a mind thing and I made myself not get hard or wanna cum it had nothing to do with her now I just take what she gives me and no matter the circumstance I cum whether it's just me and her like she wants or me jacking off to her and her black dildo both have to have there needs met to make it work it just took me along time to put mine aside for the times she needed just me
it MUST B time for her 2 experance n enjoy a Real bbc. if i understand she hasnt yet, find 1 for her, or better yet coach her 2 find one herself, i bet she can pick one better than U
 
So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!



Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea! 😱



Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.



Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:



I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :



1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?



2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?



3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?



I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?



Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated ☺️❤️😘
#all cuckolding is, is a man trying to compete with other men for a woman. My advice is, that you take full control over him and I am sorry, but you must be a bit cruel. By being cruel, you must give him work in the house to do and if he doesnt abide, then put him in handcuffs and a cock cage and lock him up in a box for first 6 hours, then 12 then 24. He needs to learn to FOCUS only on YOU and not the fantasy. If he wants to learn it the hard way, then so be it.
 

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#all cuckolding is, is a man trying to compete with other men for a woman. My advice is, that you take full control over him and I am sorry, but you must be a bit cruel. By being cruel, you must give him work in the house to do and if he doesnt abide, then put him in handcuffs and a cock cage and lock him up in a box for first 6 hours, then 12 then 24. He needs to learn to FOCUS only on YOU and not the fantasy. If he wants to learn it the hard way, then so be it.
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I am very similar to your husband. For a long time, I have fantasized about her having sex with a black man with a BBC. She has been aware of my desires for a number of years but states that she "really isn't into black guys." She is amazing and beautiful and has a tendency to attract black men due to her DD breasts and wide/bubbly butt. She is aware of the attention, and goes out of her way to flirt with them in her words "to get me going." We always end up in the bedroom and she role plays and tells me a story about the "what if" encounter with the guys she attracts. When that happens, it's doesn't take too long to get me off!! I accept everything she wants to provide me with my sexual fantasies, but always try to push her further (albeit slowly). She sometimes tells me that she doesn't think I could handle her fucking another guy or that she is worried that she may develop feeling as she has always associated sex with love. I counter with, I have fantasized about her with a BBC for a long time and believe I can handle it and, as for the sex, just treat it as a physical encounter without emotional attachment. It's a slow journey, enjoy each other while trying to fulfill each other's needs. IMO, take it slow don't rush into chastity/femdom/BDSM or whatever out of the gate. I'm not a woman, but listening to my wife she values our relationship, what we have built, and rushing into something could be counter productive. Just my two cents....It's a journey, not a race.
 
So, my husband introduced me to this lifestyle, as he calls it. He said that it all started when we were first together and both of us were on and off . During the times he were broke up we both were messing around with others just being dumb back then until we finally settled down together and quit all the games. He tells me that he obsessed on the thought of what the guys I hooked up with, were doing to me. I never gave him details and I didn’t want to know details on the women he messed with , so I figured it was just in the past and that’s where it would stay. Boy was I wrong !!!



Okay, so what my husband told me is that he pictured me having sex with others and it turned him on thinking of me having amazing sex and oral with them and even kissing and touching . He said the thought of all that made him hard just sitting at work or in the car driving or at home . Then he said he wondered who specifically I was seeing and hooking up with and his imagination went straight to Black Men . Why I asked? He said he wasn’t entirely sure but when he thought about it he said it’s probably because of the skin contrast that makes white women stand out more in interracial ! He explained to me if I was with a black man , I would stand out greater and look more beautiful and hot! He said it’s like a spot light would be casted directly on me or something. He said he would search for women in porn with the same look as me , hair color , even tramp stamp and other tats that I have . Also he would search for women with the same body frame and age and hopefully facial features. He said he’d search for porn women with my look and when he’d find one he would then see if they had interracial scenes. if they did , he would masturbate to the scenes and look at it as me having sex with the black guy or guys as if it was really happening! He told me that he loves the way I ride so cowgirl position was his favorite to watch in interracial porn . Anything I like to do in sex would turn him on more , if the porn girl did it with the black guy. So this is how it started , he told me . This he secretly did during our entire relationship from the beginning he said! I had no idea! 😱



Now!!! Okay so we’ve been together for 15 years and just recently this past couple of years he’s been telling me he wants to see me blacked . He explained that he’s been fantasizing about it for so long he almost needs it fulfilled at this point . Needs? He said it’s constantly on his mind ! He said it would be the greatest turn on of his life . And now he’s telling me that when we have sex that 100% of the time he is picturing me with a black man . He said that he’s picturing the black guy looking at me and fucking me and turned on by me . Seeing my white body glowing and intertwined with his dark ebony skin and him touching and sucking on my big white titties as they’re bouncing in his face . He said he pictures how a black guy will have to grab my heart shaped booty as he’s deep inside of me . he’s imaging how good my tight white Pussy must feel wrapped around his big black dick ! These are my husbands exact words btw!! Lol He said that he thinks of all that every second during sex with me. He also said that he notices black guys checking me out and holds on to every moment when they try to flirt with me or elevator eye me in public . Those thoughts are also floating in his head during sex . He even thinks of the future possible sex that I might be having with black men . He said this is all engraved in his mind 100% of the time and it’s the only way he can cum . He said that without these thoughts he absolutely cannot climax or ejaculate! So I’ve tried to help him reach his climax by talking dirty as if I was with a black man things I might say . Like I’ll say .” Fuck this white pussy !” I’ll say, nut up in this white pussy!” And. Very rarely I’ll say ,” I need Black dick “ when I talk this way in sex, he cums almost immediately, but when I don’t it takes him way longer cuz I guess he’s picturing me in interracial sex concentrating on it in order to cum.



Okay so that’s all it in a nutshell so my question and concerns are these:



I want him to want me for me sometimes ! Not just me with a black guy . I want him to be able to cum with just the thought of me ! Is this even possible at this point or do I have to fulfill his fantasy first to get him to think this way ? My other questions are these :



1.) If I don’t fulfill his fantasy will he always need those thoughts in order to be turned on ?



2.) why can’t he be turned on by just me without the fantasy of me with a black men ?



3.) what if I do fulfill his interracial fantasy ? What will happen ? Will things always be this way ? Will he still need to vision me with black men in order to cum ?



I lovely hubby and that’s never gonna change and I obviously accept him for him so I’m just trying to understand all this and get an idea how far I need to go or how things need to progress and what’s normal and what’s not?



Any help from experienced people in this lifestyle would be greatly appreciated ☺️❤️😘
I say don't allow your life to be dictated by what someone else wants or feels no matter who it is if you are not good with it. If what turns your husband on turns you on also...great....enjoy you some some black cock while he enjoys his fantasy coming true....but don't just be something to be used for just his enjoyment if you are not game. Nothing good will come from it. It appears that you love your husband and that if you do decide to enjoy sex with others that you don't want your relationship to revolve around it....that you want the intamacy between you and your husband to still be powerful, genuine, and separate....and that is the way that it should be. Totally your decision to make because your body is the focus....but so is your sanity.
 
Have you ever gone on vacation and after you get there you have the, "this looked like a lot more fun in the brochure" moment? That's how these type of fantasies can be. They can also open an entirely new chapter in your sex life.

For us, the entire lifestyle experience has opened up our lives to new experiences, deepened our bond, and enhanced our trust in each other, but it's not like that for all couples, so be careful.

That being said, if you think you might like to try it, enjoy the experience. My wife felt more confident and sexier after we began, and that confidence made her even more sexy to me, although I found her very sexy before the experience.
 
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