So hard being a black man of quality in this lifestyle...

[petco]

Once again, this site is not to solve societal problems. It’s a site for different races to fuck. Mostly black men fucking white women. The site exists alone based on the taboo. It’s called blacktowhite not asiantonativeamerican. I’m not saying people don’t have a legitimate argument. I’m saying I don’t think this is the right platform. If a person feel disrespected, move on. Ask yourself, why are you on this site? Ultimately, it’s to find someone to fuck. Why make ******* complicated. There are more other stuff happening in life to stress about. Chat. Meet. Fuck. Go back to your normal life.

Great statement - agree 100%

 

[Darkjumper]

reading all the comments is entertaining. A few things to address: it is a porn site to some and others it’s a hookup site (maybe). We aren’t here solving the world‘s problems - any of them. Specifically it’s a BM-WF site for the most part. Lots of people are into that scene in various capacities as bulls, hot wives, cucks etc. Yes i used the world bull. I’m sure someone will be offended but I know of no one who uses it to mean it in a derogatory way. Hell I wish I were a bull !!

In regard to meetings etc: For us it’s about chemistry and connection BUT there has to be a physical attraction as well and everyone’s tastes and preferences differ. (that’s ok people - it really is ok to have opinions)

In regard to this new trend we are starting to see where the guys want you to pay them or they get offended - the remedy is talking and communicating beforehand and discussing the wants, needs and likes of all. The “pay me” part would be a deal breaker for us - but others are cool with it and that’s great - just communicate beforehand So no surprises.

in terms of splitting the cost on hotels etc: It varies. We have paid for many hotel rooms and differnt guys have paid for them as well. If a guy we were considering throws out early on he doesn’t pay for anything - again it tells us who you are- not that we would even ask you to contribute - but the fact you throw that out early on let’s us know more about you. We have been ghosted on more that one hotel room over the years and if you are in the LS in ANY capacity it’s happened to You.

Dont take yourself too seriously. Enjoy life. Don’t sweat the truly Insignificant things.

Wait, guys are asking to be paid? Any women that ask me to pay them, get the quickest "H3ll no" response ever. In no scenario am I dipping in my wallet and handing over money in exchange for s3x. I get that a lot, and what's sad or crazy, they want me to send them the money before hand. Yeah, Willy Foofoo might do that, not me lol.

 

[saintjock1975]

No one is saying it should solve society's problems. and it is not a site for different races to fuck. It is a site for white husbands or boyfriends to see their all-american middle-class white partner being mounted and primitively fucked by what many view as big-dicked sub-american plantation bucks. And if you think there is any other reason why these whites would even think of going anywhere near people like yourselves gather, then you are very deluded.

And your analogy doesn' t really make sense. It wouldn't becalled "asiantonativeamerican" because native american men don't get off on their women being fucked by asian men they despise, ridicule and hate. Like many whites think of you and encourage others to, as well.

Clearly you can’t read or comprehend. Did you not see my sentence that this site is mainly for white people to meet black men? And there are other races on this site other than black and white. And if you are so offended of the acts on this site, I am assuming since you are calling black men sub-American plantation bucks, then why are you on here? Because if you are a black man engaging in these acts, aren’t you perpetrating self hate? You know. Allowing yourself to be downgraded and viewed as a sub-American plantation buck.

 

[saintjock1975]

LOL. i think I can read and comprehend well. You seem to be the one missing the point. I am not the one calling american blacks sub-americans, that comes from some whites. For eg the white guy who told my greek cypriot friend Eleni, that US blacks are in America, but doen't see them as being of or from America. That wasn't me saying that. That wasn't Eleni saying that. That was a white saying that to her. And if you notice, he didn't say just sub-american, he said un-american. So my frien, that is not my description, it is how many of these white see you. Is probably the same type of white who is adicted to these types of virtual plantations and fantasises about strong well-hung me such as you pounding his wife senseless.

Also, other races may be on this site because they have learned from the whites the taboo of see well-hung american blacks having raw sex with white wives and girlfriends. So if your are willing to perform like a plantation buck before an international audience, then more power to you. As the saying goes, if it walks like a duck, looks like a duck andd quacks like a duck...

I honestly don’t even know why I wasted time commenting on this post. Nor am I not saying you don’t have a legitimate argument. And no way am I a white apologist. I just don’t think this is the right forum to bring up this complaint. I can be disrespected by white people on any given day that has nothing to do with this subject. I’m just here to have occasional sexual fun. Play out some sexual fantasies and then go back to my normal day. When it starts to drift from just sexual fun and I have to start thinking about a deeper historical context, then I need to stop.

 

[BlackTherapist]

With the abundance of couples and women that expect you to have no standards, gangbang her with any and every Tom, Dick, and Harry, be available at their say so like you don't have a life outside of this, and don't get me started on the only in it for OF crowd I will say it is worth it when you come across the good ones that actually treat you with hospitality like a human. I've been fortunate to have been with some of the most amazing women (some very notorious in this realm) in my 20+ years of this so I tend to be a bit more "uppity" when it comes to what I feel I deserve as an elite black man.

I can't help but feel sorry for some brothers that think they are really living it up but they are really being used for someone's slumming fantasies. For instance I never pay for hotel rooms with couples. Had a couple recently say they expected every guy to get it because they are bringing the pussy to the table You are searching far and wide for a black man so I know that I am the prize here. Do you know I have a selection of willing sluts whose husband will not only immediately get the room but will say just return her back satisfied the next day?! There's no way I'm taking the chance on getting a room when there's a chance your wife may not be adequate sexually and tap out within minutes (Yes I said it! There actually bad pussy out there!) Then there's the dreaded "She's the perfect hotwife but her husband requires being involved sexually with you too"

It's like some assume every black man is going to be down for scavenger behavior but I must say that I'm grateful for all the other men that call them out on that. I always say there is a difference between a Bull and a Buck. I don't do plantation buck behavior so you're not going to buck break me. Anyone else notice this getting worse in the last couple years? What are some of the ridiculous requests and statements you've heard recently?

That's one of the main reasons why i don't answer anyone's ad on here anymore i just comment and post my images. They direct the whole situation I've had couples who want you to come by their place at midnight or 1am. You're on vacation and they want to get together at 11 night. That's all great but i already have plans or I'm out with friends or just enjoying my weekend. I'm not going to wait all night just to get together all late if i already have something going on.

Men don't ask for much and when we won't accept just anything or accept rules like we're a package deal and you have to let him suck you first then you can fuck me. Oh no then we get called names.

 

[BBCdesired]

I live by a few creeds, one of my favorite is "we train people how we want to be treated". That being said, it's up to us to demand what we want from people. I've said it on here more than once, just because we are in the lifestyle does not mean respect and or morals are non existent. I never call myself a bull or a BBC.... I am a black man. I'll always be the prize, but not from an arrogant perspective, but one of confidence and self respect. If there is a meetup, depending on the circumstances, I do offer to either pay for or split the room. If I'm flying or driving far, I negotiate they provide accommodations. My mindset is that we are both giving and getting something to and from each other, fair exchange. If it's a flake, on the meetup, it's all good, I just make the best of the situation. I don't have and have stopped having expectations of people that way I'm never disappointed. I don't take this site seriously at all, it's just entertainment. At the end of the day, it is up to us what we take from or accept. Whatever that may be, we have to live with it.

If I could ever convince my bbc virgin wife to fuck a fine black man like you. I wouldn't even think of making you foot any part of the bill.

 

[hungteacher]

That's one of the main reasons why i don't answer anyone's ad on here anymore i just comment and post my images. They direct the whole situation I've had couples who want you to come by their place at midnight or 1am. You're on vacation and they want to get together at 11 night. That's all great but i already have plans or I'm out with friends or just enjoying my weekend. I'm not going to wait all night just to get together all late if i already have something going on.

Men don't ask for much and when we won't accept just anything or accept rules like we're a package deal and you have to let him suck you first then you can fuck me. Oh no then we get called names.

I have had couples and women "try" and make the same demands.

I say "Try" in quotes because its a weak attempt at being in the scene. Maybe its just me, I don't know, but I guess I just have a different mentality around all of this. I am a free thinker and I make my own decisions. If someone makes a request of me, I can determine if its a reasonable or unreasonable request.

If someone is asking me to come to their place at 11 pm (first meeting) that's a psychopath.

there are no "rules" to this lifestyle, but I have created rules because I'm smarter than most people. And I don't like putting myself into situations that are BAD for me.

Rules:
1 - first meeting is always a public meeting
2 - I never play on a first meeting
3- condoms always until after verified STI testing and at least one month of play

these rules have NEVER failed me and have kept me safe and reliable in the scene for a long time. Of course I get people who argue with me. Of course, I get people who call me names. Of course, I get people who try and disrespect me. I expect people to behave poorly. That's the point. I put the 3 rules in place because I only meet up with good, rational and kind people.

Kind people don't insult you when you tell them the truth. Kind people don't think my rules are unreasonable, when in fact my rules keep the woman safe just as much as me. Couples that hear my 3 rules appreciate that I have 3 rules and that I use them. That means that I'm not having unprotected sex with people who probably shouldn't be having sex with anyone - in my opinion.

Guys on this site - STAND UP for yourself. You're not a piece of meat. Your a man. Stand up for yourself. You don't have to allow people to attack you. You don't have to allow people to call you names and shame you for saying "no."

If you check out my profile and comments, you will see that people on this site frequently "FREAK OUT" from my truth bombs. But that's only because I am the first person in their life to tell them the TRUTH. Its sad, but that's reality. And I'm posting my comments on therapist because this is an intelligent guy who just needs to STEP into his manhood and realize - he doesn't need to defend himself when he speaks his limits, boundaries and truth.

Bro, be you!! Don't make excuses for people. And don't justify your decisions. You're not an idiot. You are making sound decisions that are best for your life.

hope that makes sense - and gives better context for who I am

peace brother! Stay safe.

 

[Blkbull1982]

I agree 100% …black men are being used and these same women and couples who they jump for when they call are the same people that wouldn’t even speak to you in public or outside the lifestyle #wakeup

 

[Darkjumper]

If I could ever convince my bbc virgin wife to fuck a fine black man like you. I wouldn't even think of making you foot any part of the bill.

I appreciate the compliment. Just be patient with her and let her arrive at that desire on her own.

 

[vej54]

Mutual respect with good communication is key to all being happy when it's play time. What's interesting but, not surprising if, you were a white female making these comments "ALL" the comments in this thread would be in agreement with you but, some suggest you're being too serious it's just sex or you have a massive "ego".

Personal life experiences combined with dark-skin provide one with a very different perspective from those of a much more fairer complexion.

 

[ChristyandJake]

Wait, guys are asking to be paid? Any women that ask me to pay them, get the quickest "H3ll no" response ever. In no scenario am I dipping in my wallet and handing over money in exchange for s3x. I get that a lot, and what's sad or crazy, they want me to send them the money before hand. Yeah, Willy Foofoo might do that, not me lol.

Oh I know right some I think maybe I should be paying you

 

[Darkjumper]

Oh I know right some I think maybe I should be paying you

I take zelle, PayPal, cashapp hajaa

 

[QOShotwifeDFW]

I don’t think I’ve read through a thread like this on this site with so many unique individual facepalm moments in my life. It seems to me that much of the complaints in this thread, whether relevant to the OP subject or not, are tied to assumption. Everyone needs to learn to not assume things of other people and certainly not project their own hate or insecurities on them. And I don’t know that an interracial fetish forum is the proper venue for most of the arguments that I see here anyway. That stuff belongs in the cesspool that is Reddit.

 

[Saskia666]

All the posts hyping up Europe as less racist than the US is delusion. Since this is a sex site, let's use a sexual reference to illustrate my point. In countries like the Netherlands and Germany, the White sex workers can charge almost double POC sex workers. Go walk De Wallen thinking you can get with any of the sex workers (White), you're in for a rude wakening. They will avoid eye contact, slam the door shut, or close the curtains if you approach. Then if they do invite you in, it will be double or triple to what a White guy pays. Some of the POC workers adopt this attitude. Germans with their passive/ aggressive attitudes have a lot of the POC on edge there.

when I worked in de wallen I wouldn't be rude or raise price but I agree lots did