That's one of the main reasons why i don't answer anyone's ad on here anymore i just comment and post my images. They direct the whole situation I've had couples who want you to come by their place at midnight or 1am. You're on vacation and they want to get together at 11 night. That's all great but i already have plans or I'm out with friends or just enjoying my weekend. I'm not going to wait all night just to get together all late if i already have something going on.
Men don't ask for much and when we won't accept just anything or accept rules like we're a package deal and you have to let him suck you first then you can fuck me. Oh no then we get called names.
I have had couples and women "try" and make the same demands.
I say "Try" in quotes because its a weak attempt at being in the scene. Maybe its just me, I don't know, but I guess I just have a different mentality around all of this. I am a free thinker and I make my own decisions. If someone makes a request of me, I can determine if its a reasonable or unreasonable request.
If someone is asking me to come to their place at 11 pm (first meeting) that's a psychopath.
there are no "rules" to this lifestyle, but I have created rules because I'm smarter than most people. And I don't like putting myself into situations that are BAD for me.
Rules:
1 - first meeting is always a public meeting
2 - I never play on a first meeting
3- condoms always until after verified STI testing and at least one month of play
these rules have NEVER failed me and have kept me safe and reliable in the scene for a long time. Of course I get people who argue with me. Of course, I get people who call me names. Of course, I get people who try and disrespect me. I expect people to behave poorly. That's the point. I put the 3 rules in place because I only meet up with good, rational and kind people.
Kind people don't insult you when you tell them the truth. Kind people don't think my rules are unreasonable, when in fact my rules keep the woman safe just as much as me. Couples that hear my 3 rules appreciate that I have 3 rules and that I use them. That means that I'm not having unprotected sex with people who probably shouldn't be having sex with anyone - in my opinion.
Guys on this site - STAND UP for yourself. You're not a piece of meat. Your a man. Stand up for yourself. You don't have to allow people to attack you. You don't have to allow people to call you names and shame you for saying "no."
If you check out my profile and comments, you will see that people on this site frequently "FREAK OUT" from my truth bombs. But that's only because I am the first person in their life to tell them the TRUTH. Its sad, but that's reality. And I'm posting my comments on therapist because this is an intelligent guy who just needs to STEP into his manhood and realize - he doesn't need to defend himself when he speaks his limits, boundaries and truth.
Bro, be you!! Don't make excuses for people. And don't justify your decisions. You're not an idiot. You are making sound decisions that are best for your life.
hope that makes sense - and gives better context for who I am
peace brother! Stay safe.