Please help me. I am desperate and need advice.

MarkH1983 said:
First, I want to say before I proceed that I hope the admins here will allow a post from a brand new member that is seeking advice/help. My wife, my high school sweetheart and first love and I have been married 2 years after years of living together. Last year, we decided to spice up our sex life and discuss the possibility of her being with a black man. She was initially opposed and came around at my urging. I am, and have always been a bit on the sexually submissive side. I am of the mindset that black men, in general are superior to white men, especially in the bedroom. I wanted my wife to experience that.
We ended up meeting a really great guy off of a dating app. He had everything going for him. Handsome, educated, successful, muscular, and the BBC. The first time he was with my wife I watched them. I had never seen her behave in such a way when we had sex. He completely dominated her (In a non hurtful way) and she fully submitted to him. She appeared to love every minute of sex with him. After a few times, she informs me she didn't want to see him any longer. Because I always respected her wishes, I agreed. Whatever she wanted. Over the last 6 months, our sex life literally has become non existent. She won't let me touch her in any way. We get along fine and she is affectionate, but not like before.
I have asked her all along if she loves me and if she's happy and she says yes. I was suspecting her of seeing someone else, and I asked her if she met someone else and she has denied it.
So I set a trap for her because I needed to know the truth. Told her I was going to Jacksonville for business and that I would be gone 2 days. I checked into a local hotel and rented a car she wouldn't recognize and waited across the street from our home during the evening. On the very first night I am away, I see her pull into the garage around dinnertime and a black Cadillac Escalade pulled in behind. Who gets out but the black gentleman we met off the dating app. I waited about 20 minutes or so and get out of the car and run to the side of the house where our bedroom window is located. I can hear pretty much everything they are talking about because our windows are original, single pane windows that are in desperate need of replacement. Their conversation is pretty basic and then I begin to hear them passionately kiss and that leads to sex, in our martial bed. I could hear them talking to one another during sex, saying I love you, etc. I am sitting there, back to the wall of our home listening to everything, devastated. I get up, get in the car and head back to my hotel. I wake up early the next day, his SUV is still there. He spent the night. Mind you, I texted my wife around 11 the night prior telling her I was at the hotel relaxing. She texted me back a bit later telling me "I love you and goodnight".
Night two "away" I return to wait for her to arrive home from work. She arrives alone and about an hour or so later, he shows up again. I do the same exact thing I did the night before, sit on the side of the house, just below my bedroom window and listen to them have sex this time for about 2 hours. It concluded with him asking her if "he could cum inside of her" and she responded "yes, I want to feel you inside of me".
Now dont get me wrong, I am happy she enjoys being with this man in a way she never has with me. He is a good guy, quality person and I did inititate this originally, so I do share alot of the blame. I am just fearful I am losing her to him and eventually she is going to divorce me.

I return home from the "business trip" and everything is "normal" like before but no sex or intimacy between us whatsoever. I am also very concerned that she could potentially end up pregnant. Why do I say that? Well, when they first were getting together and I knew about it and was present, he had inititally asked if he had to wear a condom. My wife and I both agreed wearing a condom was a must as my wife has never been able to handle the side effects of the birth control pill. We always prevented pregancy in the past with me wearing one. He asked to cum inside of her that second night and she said yes. Why would he ask that if he were wearing a condom? Makes no sense, does it?

I am home tonight, sitting here and once again, head still spinning. I want to just come right out and ask her but I am fearful of her response.
Please, admins, I have literally no one else to talk to about this. If you can allow this post just long enough for me to get some advice, I would deeply appreciate it. I love my wife and just want my marriage to return to normal but I do not know how.

If anyone here wants to contact me, plz feel free to send me a private message.

Thank you so much.
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I'm afraid that this is the risk of undertaking this lifestyle. I have asked my wife to do the same, and she always responds with "once you open that box, you may never be able to shut it again". You need to bring this out in the open, and if decided, move on with your life. Not easy, but you can't live like that either.
 
Sissyslut79 said:
I'm afraid that this is the risk of undertaking this lifestyle. I have asked my wife to do the same, and she always responds with "once you open that box, you may never be able to shut it again". You need to bring this out in the open, and if decided, move on with your life. Not easy, but you can't live like that either.
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I think you're careful to move slowly, as if she says that now, she must have an idea that she is REALLY going to be into it. To me, a couple entering into this lifestyle need to both fully agree on it, and have ground rules, and I think those ground rules have to include that if either party gets uncomfortable, the activities need to stop. I think that is what respectful people do. If I were in a relationship, and I wanted to have a FMF fhreesome, and my spouse was okay with it, but once we started doing it, she decided it was interfering, I would absolutely stop.
 
Bottom line check that bitch (no disrespect) More importantly ask yourself if you even want a woman of that caliber. If she’s done it once, she’s comfortable and she’ll do it again. If for some strange reason you still want her or if she’s benefiting you in other ways. Talk to her, and play the game to acquire your desired results. If it’s not worth it, disappear and leave her wondering what happend for the rest of her life. She’s focused on the other man because you pose no threat. She KNOWS she has you. You start disappearing for days, weeks... then she’ll start to refocus her attention on you if she cares at all about losing you. If she doesn’t, it’s a wrap. Cut your loses and get a badder Bitch.
 
It hurts but find something else to put your mind don’t ******* yourself in new relationships learn from my mistakes
 
JoeyNFTL said:
LOL.
This is a relatively well written and well thought out hardcore cuck fantasy. Good stuff Mark.
frankly, enjoying reading this thread and your fantasy fits in well with the vibe of this forum site.
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I really resent your comment, given everything I have been through and will continue to go through.
Dont assume a person isn't telling the truth, especially given the fact that you don't know the person.
I have no reason to lie, and believe me, I would much prefer this be a fantasy, as opposed to what it actually is. My sad, current reality.
 
MarkH1983 said:
I really resent your comment, given everything I have been through and will continue to go through.
Dont assume a person isn't telling the truth, especially given the fact that you don't know the person.
I have no reason to lie, and believe me, I would much prefer this be a fantasy, as opposed to what it actually is. My sad, current reality.
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Yes, of course Mark.
I understand.

So based upon what you decided to post on a public forum, you have been 100% cucked.
You opened the pandora's box of cuckoldry and you got burned.
Not much to analyze dude. Happens, Playing with fire, you can get burned.
Sucks, yet something tells me since you sought out a hardcore IR porn forum here to write about this 'story' , probably not that heartbroken about the loss of your wife, huh?
In all of cyber space, you seek out 'advice' and counsel from blacktowhite hardcore IR fans?
Yes, of course.

get a good attorney Mark. looks like you have been cucked.
Or, just accept it and stay in your lane.

good luck and get lube in bulk
 
CuckToBeInWV said:
I think you're careful to move slowly, as if she says that now, she must have an idea that she is REALLY going to be into it. To me, a couple entering into this lifestyle need to both fully agree on it, and have ground rules, and I think those ground rules have to include that if either party gets uncomfortable, the activities need to stop. I think that is what respectful people do. If I were in a relationship, and I wanted to have a FMF fhreesome, and my spouse was okay with it, but once we started doing it, she decided it was interfering, I would absolutely stop.
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It's easy to yell. STOP.
Alot harder to do it.
 
Hate to say it, because my wife was right. I sooo wanted this lifestyle....but she warned me that "once you open that box, you might never be able to close it again".......the thrill-seeker in me saw the fact that Once you go black....you never...you know......but the respectful part of me saw her saving our marriage. STILL........God I would love to see her do it.
 
JoeyNFTL said:
Yes, of course Mark.
I understand.

So based upon what you decided to post on a public forum, you have been 100% cucked.
You opened the pandora's box of cuckoldry and you got burned.
Not much to analyze dude. Happens, Playing with fire, you can get burned.
Sucks, yet something tells me since you sought out a hardcore IR porn forum here to write about this 'story' , probably not that heartbroken about the loss of your wife, huh?
In all of cyber space, you seek out 'advice' and counsel from blacktowhite hardcore IR fans?
Yes, of course.

get a good attorney Mark. looks like you have been cucked.
Or, just accept it and stay in your lane.

good luck and get lube in bulk
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From the host of the new Netflix series, "Cucked."
 
Pretty rough day anticipating tomorrow, our first Thanksgiving apart from each other in almost 20 years. I did receive the court date to go before the judge. Next Tuesday, November 27th, so pending no issues with the hearing, I should be a divorced man in a few days. Still hard to wrap my hands around all of this and the lightening speed everything ended.
I have made a very important, life changing decision. One I think will benefit me long-term. As soon a divorce is final, I will be selling our home and will be leaving the state to return back home. My parents, brother, sister in law, and close high school friend have stepped up for me in an amazing way and for that, I am grateful. I am also grateful to the kind people here, who've reach out to me with advice, words of encouragement, and compassion. I appreciate each of you and have learned a great deal from this lesson.
 
MarkH1983 said:
Just received the hearing date from the court for simplified, uncontested dissolution of our marriage. Tuesday, November 20th we go before the judge and it should be final. Cannot believe how quickly my entire life has turned upside down.
Yes, I agreed to this in part because she made it clear the marriage was over. I also had more to gain financially by agreeing to a divorce, but my heart still aches.
So happy I have a therapy session today at 4:30. I need it.
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This lifestyle can change a marriage and also ruin it. Let's just say the marriage is over when you agree to let another man fuck your wife, just reality. You are just a freind from then on, real love is gone. Most won't admit it, but true in this lifestyle
 
It takes very strong trusting honest relationship to pull off bring a 3rd party into the no matter what skin color period, most relationships fall apart after words cause of emotional reason the trust leaves if you pushed her into it that alone is grounds for leaving if she jumped right it 50 50 either she wanted to try it or she's already been cheating and stringing you along
 
wife4bbc84 said:
It takes very strong trusting honest relationship to pull off bring a 3rd party into the no matter what skin color period, most relationships fall apart after words cause of emotional reason the trust leaves if you pushed her into it that alone is grounds for leaving if she jumped right it 50 50 either she wanted to try it or she's already been cheating and stringing you along
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Commitment , trust, honesty are gone when another man or woman is allowed to participate in sex in full view or secret. Not true love, but we are talking an alternative life style here that most couples will not be able to control. My perspective, opinion
 
Is anyone awake? I could really use an ear. Cannot sleep and have been crying most of the evening.
Tomorrow morning is the divorce hearing. I am going alone, and don't know how I will react when all this goes down. I am trying very hard to keep my composure.
 
MarkH1983 said:
Is anyone awake? I could really use an ear. Cannot sleep and have been crying most of the evening.
Tomorrow morning is the divorce hearing. I am going alone, and don't know how I will react when all this goes down. I am trying very hard to keep my composure.
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Time heals, it always hurts for awhile, but then anger will replace that then you will be become humble and move on with your life. The true measure of a man is not the size of his dick, but measure from the neck up. Sluts won't agree, but that's what they are
 
So, I am now officially a divorced man. I went into divorce hearing devastated and heartbroken, and left angry and disgusted.
My whore ex wife showed up with her lover, and not once did she ever acknowledge me. Then when the judge ruled the marriage was dissolved, her POS lover pulled her into a passionate kiss. Didn't even give a fuck this was done in front of me, or the judge.
I got up, walked out, and as I passed them, I noticed a diamond ring on her finger. She is obviously marrying him.
Now this explains why she walked away from basically everything and pushed for the non contested divorce.
 
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