Because our adventure into the interracial lifestyle began back in the late 1970's, it took considerable time(well over a year!) and a lot of discussion for both Sarah and I to get past our indoctrinated cultural and religious upbringing in the Southern Taboo and sanctity of monogamous marriage. Sarah was working on getting past her denial, and continued to have many misgivings and hesitations about giving in to her natural lust for Thomas, my black co worker who had become our good friend over the past 15 months or so. When Sarah's natural desire finally pushed her denial aside, she was so incredibly hot, that "birth control" was not on her mind at all. When her burning desire shoved denial aside, her surrender to Thomas was so all-consuming that climax naturally and unreservedly meant taking his seed. After that first time, taking his seed every time afterward was a must for satisfying her desire. Sarah's desire for Thomas, taking his seed and giving me sloppy seconds was a complex blend of her being a "good girl gone bad", and having two men the same day in total defiance of her religious indoctrination, and being a white married woman having a black man and taking his seed in total defiance of her Southern Taboo indoctrination, and being a married woman taking another man, and letting her husband have her sloppy seconds in total defiance of her religious indoctrination on the sanctity of monogamous marriage. Sarah's genuine love for Thomas gradually grew stronger and they could cuddle and talk for hours in bed or on the sofa. Sarah soon lost all hesitation and shyness around me, and she would make out with Thomas right in front of me on the sofa, totally confident in the knowledge that I enjoyed watching her enjoy herself completely with Thomas. It was a wonderful, happy environment for us all, although Sarah and I had to be totally discrete because none of our family, co workers, community or church would have been capable of understanding the happy, satisfying arrangement of Thomas being a part of our life and marriage. Looking back on those happy times in the 1970-80's with my late wife Sarah, I am amazed that I as a early 20's-aged Southern-raised man with a Southern-raised wife, was able to accept and truly enjoy that arrangement. Sarah taking Thomas as her black lover would NEVER have happened had we remained living in the Mountain South around TN, VA and NC where we grew up; it could only have happened as it did, when we were living in coastal NC, far away from the family, community and church where we grew up, because of a career move early in our marriage!
