I really admire the hell out of all of you.

[vanessabbc]

no need to apologise at akk Nacbfries, You didn't say anything to offnd me,. what you said actually made me rethink my strategy with hubby and go nack to the original one, which was simply discussing my thoughts and reasserting that I did not nor will not go through with them and hoping he will forgive me. I will gladly seek any couceling we think will help. I was actually going to speak to him todaybecause both ******* are away but he is working late and it looks like a wash.

I'm as confused as to why I am still here as anyone, lol, except the people are so nice to me. I do tend to end up saying things that I am trying to avoid but I will get it straight.

Believe me, being a mom defines me that is the most important thing I do, and I love my stepdaughter as much as my own. There is NO way I am going to endanger my relationship with my daughters or husband. I can suck at everything in life as long as I succeed as that mom. I can do this, I believe that.

 

[flsubboy4u]

thank you guys. I am fine, Fucked up but fine. I have decided to have a talk with my husband later this week if we can find somewhere for the ******* to stay for a couple of days,. I am going to confess my thoughts and explain that I could mot go through with it and ask him to forgive me, believe that I will always be true and will seek any counseling he wants. I believe all will be well because he is a very kind and very forgiving spirit.

I want to apologize for saying some very graphic things to some of you in private conversatioms. If I lead anyone on, forgive me it was a terribler thing to do to you as well as to my family.

Some people are better living a quiet life. I am one of these people. I removed my images for personal reasons. I am in no danger and I would never hurt myself. I promise you that.I also noticed the more pictures I searched for to post here, the more pics of me happy and in love with hubby I found, I found intimate ones that I had taken of myself for him or he had taken of me and I realized that would be a huge betrayal to share.

As I said, I have so much respect for the men, women and couples on this site. You saved my marriage I honestly believe.

I am sorry for the harsh talk I gave on myself. I will try to improve that as well. this place does NOT need my drama and apologize for bringing it here. If I find I can come here and talk as a friend in a non sexual way, I will see what works We shall see together. Until then, ******* your almond milk and stay strong, haha. Love you guys. Thank you all.

It could have been a great idea to talk with him a long time ago about these fantasies. Trust is the most important part of a relationship and that's what made you step back. I think he might like to share with other couples, or nice black studs. Who knows until you talk about it. If it's something you would enjoy, he might find it very exciting.

 

[wifen2bbc]

I try to stay out of peoples lives. Yes its easy for me to say this my husband is open and understands. I told him of my desires. He saw how excited I got watching IR porn and asked me. Without his consent. I wouldnt have ever fucked a black man. In the long run your marriage is more important than any sex. It take a big man to say his marriage is more important than sex and allow you to forfil your lust. Before you approach him about it. Ask yourself are you woman enough to let him forfil any desires he may have. Everyone has some hidden desire.

 

[FattyPatty]

I sent you a PM sweetheart.

 

[flsubboy4u]

You sound like you need therapy.

Listen, there is zero chance you will be able to successfully repress your sexual desires and fantasies. Life does NOT work that way. They will act out elsewhere in life, whether it's through people you meet, situations or environments, attitudes, and/or your own behavior. This is psychology 101.

You have extremely negative self-talk, which strongly implies you do not value and love yourself. A large part of loving yourself is coming to grips with your sexual desires. You did not consciously choose your sexual desires. You must learn to give them a safe space to operate, whether it is directly through sexual fantasy/porn, or more indirectly and productively through other means, such as exercise, art, martial arts, energetic practices, etc.

A related issue is communication. If you can't communicate openly and honestly with yourself, how can you consistently do so with your husband? If you can't trust yourself not to judge yourself, how can you trust your husband? The more thoroughly you work on yourself, the more fulfilling your relationship with your husband will be.

She already said she's going to therapy genius. I'm sure her qualified therapist will help her with the issues. The most dangerous thing a person can do is give psychological advice to someone they have never met and do not know. And for those of you who advised her to seek therapy, while that is actually good advice, some of you are quick to say things like, "run don't walk to the nearest therapist." which makes your advice nothing more than on line banter.

 

[Torpedo]

From what i have read you had some fantasies but didn't pursue them. If we were punished for our thoughts nearly everyone would be guilty of ******* or some other heinous crime. You thought about a course of action and decided it wasn't for you, that's life and don't let it be a big deal. You have an obvious strong commitment to family which is very admirable and in reality you have done nothing to actually jeopardize that. Good luck and I hope all the pieces fall into place for you

 

[dunacouple]

She already said she's going to therapy genius. I'm sure her qualified therapist will help her with the issues. The most dangerous thing a person can do is give psychological advice to someone they have never met and do not know. And for those of you who advised her to seek therapy, while that is actually good advice, some of you are quick to say things like, "run don't walk to the nearest therapist." which makes your advice nothing more than on line banter.

It's how psychology was popularized, baseless assumptions.

 

[Freespirit1]

I am ignoring everyone else's comments.

I just want to say that sometimes fantasies are better left in the fantasy world. Nothing wrong with that.
Your husband & ******* are number one priority... Cherish them & stay true to them without losing yourself.
And sometimes in life, it is about finding out what is NOT you. Self discovery is a big part of what life is about!
I admire you for realizing that your family is more important than a self fantasy. Always, always put them into consideration first & you can never go wrong!
Best wishes!!!!!!