How would you convince a husband ?

destinybebe33 said:
Sorry this is Destiny and I was curious because my husband told me that most white men want this , and my friend is curious but doesn’t know how to approach her husband , so what should she say to him ?
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Do they watch porn? She should select some interracial porn, and be sure to tell him that it looks really hot and sexy. I think she will see pretty quickly how he feels about it. I don't think she should start out with saying "I want to have sex with black guys", but start slow, showing that she finds it arousing. It could be possible that if he didn't already think about it, it could stimulate conversation about it.
 
slinky1 said:
LOL, I totally agree. 99.9% of men would never want it, need it, accept it or seek it out... The other 0.01% are on sites like this, living it, wanting, fantasizing about it or masturbating to it. But I doubt the willing cuckold population is any more than half or 1%. A higher proportion of unwiling/ unknowing cuckolds are obviously out there, but to find a man/ husband who'd want to see his wifes legs locked around a better lovers waist while they climax together, would be quite rare I think.
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I totally agree. Contrary to the cuck fantasy people on here, it really is a small percentage, of either white men or white women. I suggested her friend should slip in some interracial porn into the porn mix, and say that she finds it arousing. That is a non-threatening way to start a long term conversation. She should not say "Can I fuck black men?", because the 99% of the men not into this will hear that as "Can I cheat on you?" and it will cause a shitload of problems. Some people may find it arousing and never get past the fantasy stage.

Way back when I was married, and porn was in VCR tapes, my ex-wife and I were watching a video that had 3 girls all going at each other. I asked her if she thought it was hot, and she was very much in the "not really" camp, but when I touched her, she was soaking wet. So, I knew it was arousing to her, but I never pushed the issue, I suspected she could/would say something if she ever wanted to do that.
 
Arich2345 said:
Talk dirty to him about your fantasy of fucking BBC. )
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Totally agree here. Fantasy talk. If he gets hard then he wants to pursue it further. My wife is learning my hot buttons through fantasy and BBC is her prime story now. I think she tests my with the talk because she has started tell me to feel his cock in stories and I get so hard. She is definitely driving things in the right direction!
 
slinky1 said:
I was 23yo when I was first cuckolded (constantly behind my back) and I'd say it took me 2 years to get over the hurt/ humiliation/ trust issues/ jealousy etc. Another 2 years of either accepting it, turning a blind eye to it and also painfully having to reconcile with myself that my penis size played a big part in why she wanted other men instead of myself and the rejection of it all.

It was not until my early 30's that I truly began to enjoy it, seek it out, find as many men as I could to fuck her and relished in SPH. By mid 30's I was a 'full blown' cuckold, very submissive, very bi and chased cock as much as she did. I've been like that for the last 20 years and love the lifestyle, could n't be anyone else but a cuck, its who I truly am. (very liberating)

I'm not to sure you can 'convince' a husband to become a cuckold, most men would ******* at the thought of their wife with another man, some would even blow his brains out if the could. Not too sure you can 'convince' a wife to become a hotwife, and to want to fuck other men she either has a slutty desire or not I believe.

Think its a slow burn entering this lifestyle and keeping your marriage intact as well. Perhaps start with vanilla swinging, and having him watch her with other men, whether that be black, white big cock or small. Its a lot to take in the first time watching another males ass clenched, balls raise while he unloads into your wife and he's just using her pussy for his own primal desires and that alone.
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very like myself and why im here now
 
destinybebe33 said:
Sorry this is Destiny and I was curious because my husband told me that most white men want this , and my friend is curious but doesn’t know how to approach her husband , so what should she say to him ?
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Have her ask him if he would like his own personal pornstar and if he asks what does she mean she can slowly bring enough that she would like to perform for him maybe that's the way to go. But I agree I think there are a lot of women who want this and are too afraid to bring it up also
 
destinybebe33 said:
Sorry this is Destiny and I was curious because my husband told me that most white men want this , and my friend is curious but doesn’t know how to approach her husband , so what should she say to him ?
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Men are very visual. She might want to monitor his porn. He may be watching IR or cuckold porn already. Very many white men do. if so, lead him to watch more and ensure IR sex comes up in discussions. Be relentless in expressing love for him while establishing her desire for IR sex and a man who is man enough to allow her own satisfaction ie cuckold sex.
 
destinybebe33 said:
What website ? I’m intrigued
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It is easy to find.
But I think it is not the best way to do it.
She cuckolds him against his will. So in my opinion it is a pure selfish act. If your husband doesn't have a submissive side, and he doesn't like the cucking, then you have a good chance of him leaving you.
But do what you want to do, be be prepared for the consequences.
 
Mistertinycuck said:
Why is black dick the best in 200 words or less? Ha ha. I could talk for an hour about it and still not get to the point.

Lucky for me and every QOS/Hotwife/Sissy a picture is worth a THOUSAND words. Lord, I’m looking forward to seeing those pics!!!
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only need 3 words BECAUSE IT IS
 
We had a quite different story. We were swingers and then we begun lifestyle. I don’t think lifestyle is for everyone and there aren’t 200 words to convince someone.
So, in brief, I didn’t convince hubby, things went naturally and he loved every moment of lifestyle like i love it.
 
destinybebe33 said:
...my friend is curious but doesn’t know how to approach her husband , so what should she say to him ?
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As others keep saying, many guys never buy into this. Of course some need little more than to be told that 'this is what sex is supposed to be...' For them, it just rings true -- like they know it intuitively. Most guys that are going to do this will need what someone called the 'slow burn' and what someone else described as a reshaping of his imaginative response.

But here's the thing: no one knows this guy better than your friend. Would she consider signing up here? If she's reading and weighing various ideas, she may find a way to broach this, or suggest some way to start his OWN thinking and reflecting on this.

Accepting and affirming [i.e., being a friend] her exploration can itself be very powerful for her. As for him ... well ... things happen over time. The more her thinking is acclimated to this, the better position she'll be in when something transpires which presents an opportunity for discussion.

Best of luck for you both!
 
sugapoppa said:
"I love you. This is a physical need, not an emotional one. I have always been this way. I will always be this way. My need will never go away. There is no alternative. You can be the most amazing lover and I will still need this. Nothing between us will change. I won't let my activities interfere with our relationship. I don't want to hurt you or embarrass you. You've done nothing to cause this, it's simply the way things are. I will be happier at home. If you have a similar need, I will give it to you. If you don't give this to me, I'm going to do it anyway. I would rather avoid the lies and sneaking around and just be honest."
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Don't know your history, sugapoppa, but you have hit the nail on the head for some. Don't know if your approach would get the desired result, but it hits every point of truth for many women in the same or similar situation. In almost every case, however, all the cards would be on the table for ongoing communication if the couple really wants to work this out and make the relationship work. (Understanding, of course, that in same cases, the only way the relationship will "work" is ending the relationship...)
 
destinybebe33 said:
It’s pretty common for husbands to try to convince their wives to get blacked , but not the other way around . If we’re a woman trying to convince your husband to get on board with the Hotwife lifestyle , how would you word it exactly ? Let’s say you only have a 200 word limit ? What exactly would you say to convince him ?
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Wait until you are both ******* and dirty talking. Steer it toward past sex stories. Ask him what's a wild sex story then tell him you once had sex with a black guy with a huge cock. If he doesnt get mad/jealous or seems intrigued tell him it was actually 3 at once. If hes still piqued, tell him how big they were and how much you loved it.

As a guy, I would think him knowing youve already done something would make him at least 100x more receptive to letting you do it again. He will think its not a big deal since youve already done it.
 
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