Good stuff MarkW. I would think long and hard about even speaking to someone who was curious, just me though. My first steps were on my own and to be honest, I was nervous and even more untrusting. I couldn’t believe another man would allow me to please his wife for him. Furthermore, it was hard for me to believe that a women would be in favor of this. In the end I’ve watched how couples react after the moment and realized that it’s not a betrayal at all. It’s a way for them to be closer and even more intiment within their relationship. It’s just a different form of intimacy and very taboo.
I think Growing up on a Caribbean island opened our eyes to the lifestyle a bit faster than in the States. Hear me out on this. Since I was a little kid I saw the cruise ships and the planes come in with loads of white women and couples and they would all end up on the beach chatting up some local black man. and of course as young boys we soon found out why. So when I came to the states I knew that my teachers were already fantasizing about me I new couples sometimes did this and that it was ok. so for me talking about the lifestyle with other bulls or even none lifestyler's isn't a big deal cause all that matters is I understand it and I am not doing anything to be ashamed of.