Help me convince my hubby!

[Buttercupz]

We’ve got the toys and do the “role play” talking and watch IR porn together...that always leads to a really hot and intense night! It’s when we aren’t “playing” that the hesitation is there...

And that is when it is going to be its worst but also its clearest. Filled with lust and desire so many things seem amazing and then after the body has fulfilled those needs is when we start asking "what was that about?" In my opinion you two should play your game and cum really hard (both of you). Following that bliss talk about a threesome or swapping with another couple together. If that seems fun then go for it and see how that plays out. If there are doubts and hesitations then maybe take a step back and think if this needs to stay a fun game with toys.

 

[wit]

This is what I’m hoping for!

It can be overwhelming but also intoxicating to experience such an erotic night. Best he knows to expect to obey and be very meek while getting to see you satisfied. I know I felt overpowered and very submissive the first night I was always to watch. Helpful she immediately made me strip in front of him to only my cock cage and then handed him the leash to the collar on my neck while I got on my knees

 

[juliete1217]

And that is when it is going to be its worst but also its clearest. Filled with lust and desire so many things seem amazing and then after the body has fulfilled those needs is when we start asking "what was that about?" In my opinion you two should play your game and cum really hard (both of you). Following that bliss talk about a threesome or swapping with another couple together. If that seems fun then go for it and see how that plays out. If there are doubts and hesitations then maybe take a step back and think if this needs to stay a fun game with toys.

Thanks for your great advice! We’ve been having the lust filled fun for a few years, I’m ready to take the next step...some days he is, and some days he isn’t.

 

[juliete1217]

It can be overwhelming but also intoxicating to experience such an erotic night. Best he knows to expect to obey and be very meek while getting to see you satisfied. I know I felt overpowered and very submissive the first night I was always to watch. Helpful she immediately made me strip in front of him to only my cock cage and then handed him the leash to the collar on my neck while I got on my knees

Our interests aren’t the same...but I’m glad you are having fun!

 

[hungteacher]

Our interests aren’t the same...but I’m glad you are having fun!

I think some of the other comments have been great. What I can say from my experience, and ive helped a lot of couples who were "first time" try to move into this lifestyle. I have had couples, where the husband initiated this and some where the wife started the idea and discussion.

In your situation, I will say that it seems your husband's brain has finally allowed the "porn" brain to subside.
If I were coaching you guys I would ask these questions, feel free to answer them privately if you wish.
1. How often does he watch porn?
2. how often does he masturbate?
3. how often does you have sex?
4. what other sexual outlets does he have besides sex and "chatting" with you?

I cant be specific about what is going on in his mind, since I dont know him at all. But these are possible issues.
a) Its just a fantasy, and the excitement is what gets him horny
b) he is afraid that he will have to deal with his own internal issues
c) he has some deep seated secrets that he isn't ready to reveal to you
d) he's afraid that you will like it too much and your sexual awakening will be too much for him.

 

[Buttercupz]

Thanks for your great advice! We’ve been having the lust filled fun for a few years, I’m ready to take the next step...some days he is, and some days he isn’t.

Well if this is something you're looking at doing together then it's good to get on the same page. That will also help with you two addressing concerns now before they become problems down the line.

 

[WindsorBLKBull]

Sounds like another white husband, that's very insecure in allowing his wife to be intimate with black men.

All of the talk, is his safe zone, until a wife wants black dick balls deep stroking her sugar walls, and the husband can no longer control his wife's desire.

 

[Mandy long]

I could use some advice and help...so my hubby was the one that initially brought up the idea of me being with a BBC while he watched. He always told me it turned him on to see other men check me out, but especially black men (I actually never believed him and told him he was crazy-and that other men weren’t checking me out, but especially not black me). One day he finally convinced me to upload some pics and “see what happens”. Well, umm he was eighth and I was wrong! So I guess we could say it opened Pandora’s box....for years, we have talked about our mutual fantasy of me being with a BBC....but recently, he told me he isn’t sure if he could go through with it because of the “guilt” he would have from sharing me with another man. So help a lady out...should I give it some time and see if he changes his mind, or is there something I can do to help change his mind? He loves that I share my pictures and knowing that I’m having some dirty chats, so I think he’s close to going through with it. I so badly want to be devoured by a sexy man with a big black dick! I dream of it and crave it! I really want this fantasy to become a reality. Kisses!

I love that you are willing to go forward with it! It has taken me a while but I finally got my wife to watch porn and try a black dildo. She loves it but still shy about trying the real thing!

 

[Davidspencer79]

I could use some advice and help...so my hubby was the one that initially brought up the idea of me being with a BBC while he watched. He always told me it turned him on to see other men check me out, but especially black men (I actually never believed him and told him he was crazy-and that other men weren’t checking me out, but especially not black me). One day he finally convinced me to upload some pics and “see what happens”. Well, umm he was eighth and I was wrong! So I guess we could say it opened Pandora’s box....for years, we have talked about our mutual fantasy of me being with a BBC....but recently, he told me he isn’t sure if he could go through with it because of the “guilt” he would have from sharing me with another man. So help a lady out...should I give it some time and see if he changes his mind, or is there something I can do to help change his mind? He loves that I share my pictures and knowing that I’m having some dirty chats, so I think he’s close to going through with it. I so badly want to be devoured by a sexy man with a big black dick! I dream of it and crave it! I really want this fantasy to become a reality. Kisses!

Well one thing you might try is to look around for some ir sex that has a woman in it that resembles you and get him to watch and point out how it looks like you and how you're ready for this sexual relationship. Or find a man who you trust fuck and film yourself, then show the video of your meet to your husband and let nature take over

 

[erika9009]

he may think he may lose you if you when you get that first taste and you know what they say once you black you never go back. That maybe what he is really scared of instead of guilt of sharing you

@juliete1217
What TMan71 said.
I have played for a number of yrs with both guys and girls. We also had fun swinging.

One thing my husband knows about me................I will always come back to him. I always wear my wedding ring when I go out and "play." It means something to me, a commitment.

One other thing I do with my husband is I talk about my boytoys in a casual "fun" manner. It indirectly signals to him that they are not as important to me as he is.

I also tell him often that I love him. Sure he's a pervo dickhead sometimes, but don't stop loving him.

Contrary to a lot of the "thinking" here, I do wifely duties. If he wants some, he gets some. Sure, it might be me pegging him, but he gets off. Other times, I just drop my underwear, lean over the vanity and ask him to make it fast.

I'm out having my fun getting fucked silly. I believe he should have his fun too. Once in a while, I will do the hotwife thing by coming home full of sperm, drop my underwear, and do the facesitting gig. He has a wonderful tongue.

Steve also can ask me not to go out that night. I will certainly listen to his reasons. Sometimes they are just a feeling and he tells me he's just not comfortable with me doing it that day. I then call and cancel with my blk man. It's very, very unusual for him to ask me to stay home. So, when he does, I do.

All of what I do continually reassure him I am still his wife and I will be home after. I actually don't recall ever spending the night with one of my boytoys. This goes back to the "I will be home with you later" feeling I convey.

For as often as I tell the guys on here to stop and really listen to their wives, I do the same for you. Listen to him, be "guy like" and try to solve his issues. He needs that confidence you'll always be back with him.

You are welcome to DM me if you are interested in more of my thoughts on this.

 

[erika9009]

I’m going to be involved in a black bull fucking a queen of spades wife tomorrow. It’s going to be my first time being cuckolded ever, and I might even get to suck his cock. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. I’m very excited, and it makes me shake

Don't go too overboard on what you get to do. Just go with it. If she offers his cock to you, then you get to have your fun.

 

[erika9009]

Great advice! I definitely want to build a connection with the potential bull so there is a comfort level, but I’ve noticed that some just want to skip that and go straight to the sex

I will restate something that I blatantly stole from @sawftserve:
"We have to like you before our panties hit the floor."

Find the guys that are willing to talk to you so you can get to know them. I know I get way more turned on by a guy that is well dressed and talks with me for a while. The guys that go, "Yo bitch. Drop the panties and lean over the table" usually get an eye roll from me as I'm walking out the door.

 

[whitechickslay]

Nice thread. Hopefully it’s real. Enjoying reading from Destin Fla

 

[Kimber4kicks]

I could use some advice and help...so my hubby was the one that initially brought up the idea of me being with a BBC while he watched. He always told me it turned him on to see other men check me out, but especially black men (I actually never believed him and told him he was crazy-and that other men weren’t checking me out, but especially not black me). One day he finally convinced me to upload some pics and “see what happens”. Well, umm he was eighth and I was wrong! So I guess we could say it opened Pandora’s box....for years, we have talked about our mutual fantasy of me being with a BBC....but recently, he told me he isn’t sure if he could go through with it because of the “guilt” he would have from sharing me with another man. So help a lady out...should I give it some time and see if he changes his mind, or is there something I can do to help change his mind? He loves that I share my pictures and knowing that I’m having some dirty chats, so I think he’s close to going through with it. I so badly want to be devoured by a sexy man with a big black dick! I dream of it and crave it! I really want this fantasy to become a reality. Kisses!

omg, my husband suggested i do the same thing.
Im interested, and turned on of the idea of an encounter with a bbc, and i told him that.
Also told him it might change me and that is an issue.
so far he hasn't said anything else, i think he is playing me

 

[whitechickslay]

omg, my husband suggested i do the same thing.
Im interested, and turned on of the idea of an encounter with a bbc, and i told him that.
Also told him it might change me and that is an issue.
so far he hasn't said anything else, i think he is playing me

Why not find a man you may be interested in and see if it does change you then take your findings back to your husband. I would help you here in Destin Fla

 

[Kimber4kicks]

Well that is something to think about, thanks for the comments.
I have to leave now, work calls. Have a good day

 

[juliete1217]

That's So beautiful and real.as it gets. You deserve this Sweetness! He lured you toward what you are now feeling so its really what he wants too. He Loves the site of a Huge superior BBC! Your new journey has Already began once its in both your hearts. So its on you to give him the push by Taking Control of the situation. He will Love being Cucked by your future Bull. Just some good Food for thought! Thanks 4 sharing! ♠❤

He always tells me I was made for BBC...so I think I deserve the opportunity to see if he is right

 

[juliete1217]

Yea it's just probably the reality hitting him now. Thinking about something is different than people getting in involved fr and realizing those are real people just like you that you can't just stop thinking about when you want and it all don't exist. Ask him more what guilt he means and why he feels guilt from all this.

I think it’s a moral dilemma

 

[juliete1217]

True, he opened Pandora's Box with this one! But it's not unusual, nor exclusive to BBC/Bulls situations. It's normal for there to be fear, anxiety, and insecurities when a partner is going to fuck someone else. My wife and I did when we decided to have an open marriage. BBC can generate more insecurities because he might feel he is inadequate and at the least lose interest in him sexually, or, to lose him altogether. Communite with him about his fears and your desires. Express to him that your love for him doesn't change, but you're just wanting new experiences. Ease him through it. Maybe go on non-sex date with a guy you're interested to see how your man handles that, and go from there. Send me a message if you want chat further!

@Hotwife fun77 I tell him all the time that this his his fault and it’s not nice for him to get me into this world and then have second thoughts- that’s just mean!

 

[juliete1217]

I think some of the other comments have been great. What I can say from my experience, and ive helped a lot of couples who were "first time" try to move into this lifestyle. I have had couples, where the husband initiated this and some where the wife started the idea and discussion.

In your situation, I will say that it seems your husband's brain has finally allowed the "porn" brain to subside.
If I were coaching you guys I would ask these questions, feel free to answer them privately if you wish.
1. How often does he watch porn?
2. how often does he masturbate?
3. how often does you have sex?
4. what other sexual outlets does he have besides sex and "chatting" with you?

I cant be specific about what is going on in his mind, since I dont know him at all. But these are possible issues.
a) Its just a fantasy, and the excitement is what gets him horny
b) he is afraid that he will have to deal with his own internal issues
c) he has some deep seated secrets that he isn't ready to reveal to you
d) he's afraid that you will like it too much and your sexual awakening will be too much for him.

You made some great points- I think I might reach out to you!