Experienced White Husbands: How do you deal with *that* Post-Orgasm feeling?

[Rodgersmith1]

My wife meets alone now.....if you haven't tried this I guarantee you it's unreal exciting, so try it at least once it's another level of excitement. Seeing her get ready for the date...putting on the sexiest panties just for him but you watching her pick them out....short skirt or dress...beautiful high heels....and then seeing her text him in front of you that she's leaving to meet him. Watching her drive away in that outfit super sexy panties underneath knowing he's going to be slipping them off and she's going be in bed with her lover all alone just the two of them making love while you watch the clock knowing they're in bed right now. He never uses anything and cums deep inside....she must be in heaven with him.

 

[Subby]

I'm not usually allowed to cum until at least a week later. Often longer

 

[WillandSusn]

My wife meets alone now.....if you haven't tried this I guarantee you it's unreal exciting, so try it at least once it's another level of excitement. Seeing her get ready for the date...putting on the sexiest panties just for him but you watching her pick them out....short skirt or dress...beautiful high heels....and then seeing her text him in front of you that she's leaving to meet him. Watching her drive away in that outfit super sexy panties underneath knowing he's going to be slipping them off and she's going be in bed with her lover all alone just the two of them making love while you watch the clock knowing they're in bed right now. He never uses anything and cums deep inside....she must be in heaven with him.

Its called "playing *******" and mature wives love doing it. Adds spice to the aleady Taboo Sex for them. Even if the bull is a well known or perhaps frequent visitor for sex. Walking through the Hotel Lobby imagining ( or maybe its not imagination ) that all the peope there know she is going there for a night of sex with a black bull. Leaving the Hotel , knowing ( perhaps ) the staff knows she was there servicing a black bull. Perhaps , its a friend of her black bull so this is a first time with this black stud. Perhaps her black stud has told him what a slut she is and how much she enjoys black cock. A new black man to view and enjoy her naked body

 

[Rodgersmith1]

Its called "playing *******" and mature wives love doing it. Adds spice to the aleady Taboo Sex for them. Even if the bull is a well known or perhaps frequent visitor for sex. Walking through the Hotel Lobby imagining ( or maybe its not imagination ) that all the peope there know she is going there for a night of sex with a black bull. Leaving the Hotel , knowing ( perhaps ) the staff knows she was there servicing a black bull. Perhaps , its a friend of her black bull so this is a first time with this black stud. Perhaps her black stud has told him what a slut she is and how much she enjoys black cock. A new black man to view and enjoy her naked body

It's not the playing ******* role....It's more like she has a secret lover that enjoys her other than me......She has a man that reaches deeper for one, so he touches her in a place that I can never....Thrust deeper with slow loving power. He's Younger than me by 10 years so he's seed is very strong a potent. It's like she is falling in love with him with every deep thrust and they are all alone in a bed. I watch the clock just knowing she's falling in love right now and getting a load of seed deeper than I can place it. That those panties I saw her put on ...he slid off and is deep inside her now. It's unreal exciting this way I encourage everyone to just try it once.

 

[WillandSusn]

It's not the playing ******* role....It's more like she has a secret lover that enjoys her other than me......She has a man that reaches deeper for one, so he touches her in a place that I can never....Thrust deeper with slow loving power. He's Younger than me by 10 years so he's seed is very strong a potent. It's like she is falling in love with him with every deep thrust and they are all alone in a bed. I watch the clock just knowing she's falling in love right now and getting a load of seed deeper than I can place it. That those panties I saw her put on ...he slid off and is deep inside her now. It's unreal exciting this way I encourage everyone to just try it once.

Yes. The black lover is another role play but can also be risky emotionally. Still to run the whole gamit of black sexual experience there needs to be at least one lover relationship. That he is younger and bigger just fits the model for mature white wives enjoying sex with black men. He is what you are not so he makes the perfect "alter ego sex partner " for her.

 

[Seth1805]

I cum almost before my wife and her lovers almost every time I watch or listen to them.
With her favorite guy she can go for hours, not nonstop fucking but the cuddling, kisses, moans and bed squeaking can easy go on for 2-3 hours with him so I almost always come first.
The feelings when I have come and they still going at it is 10 times more intense than when I am excited. The angst, self pity and feeling of worthlessness is huge, at that time I am so jealous that I want to stop them and beg her to be monogamous with me again. When I feel like that and is ****** to listen to them for another hour or two... that is real cuckolding! Of course after a few hours or the next day I am turned on again..

I think it would be virtually impossible for me not to cum while watching my wife with well hung black man. Hell, on some occasions I could see myself cumming the moment they got close to each other, like sitting on the couch together or walking towards each other in the bedroom.
It has not yet happened but I anticipate feeling quite a few of these emotions but I do not know the exact ones. During the excitement of it all I know those emotions will be nonexistent but once I cum I will then have to literally sit back and wait and perhaps deal with feeling a bit inadequate and ashamed that my wife has a well hung black man taking care of her sexually and that I was the one who enabled this to happen by bringing it up in the first place.
And like you said, there could be this sting of regret as I see her caught up in this black man and his manhood, witnessing her being taken in ways that has her in this bliss that leaves me feeling left out. But that comes with the territory so I would not be tempting her with the ideas of taking a black man as a lover if I was not cognizant of these things.

 

[GiselaHoll]

Its called "playing *******" and mature wives love doing it. Adds spice to the aleady Taboo Sex for them. Even if the bull is a well known or perhaps frequent visitor for sex. Walking through the Hotel Lobby imagining ( or maybe its not imagination ) that all the peope there know she is going there for a night of sex with a black bull. Leaving the Hotel , knowing ( perhaps ) the staff knows she was there servicing a black bull. Perhaps , its a friend of her black bull so this is a first time with this black stud. Perhaps her black stud has told him what a slut she is and how much she enjoys black cock. A new black man to view and enjoy her naked body

Being caged, makes it easier for me to avoid post-orgasm feelings. But I still suffer a lot during her sessions with a black bull. Physically, due to the cage's restraining effects on my penis, and psychically, when comparing her reactions and behavior then and with me. However, due to some character incompatibility with one of her bulls, I stupidly suggested to her she could meet him alone and send pics to me. Not knowing where she is or with whom else is devastating although exciting. It's about security, arousal, guilt, jealousy, and humiliation all at once.

 

[hotwife4bbc14]

I cummed 6 times watching wife with ex boyfriend about 3yrs ago. That's my record, lol

 

[pussyhubby]

Learning to avoid that "turned off" feeling after coming was my biggest problem. I only watched my wife and her long-term boyfriend a few times when they were dating. I dealt with it by masturbating beforehand so that the idea of my wife making love with someone else was that much harder to accept, which eventually made her meetings with him more exciting for me because I had to cope with it "soberly". Without the arousal it's sort of like reversed chastity, or something.

 

[Seth1805]

Learning to avoid that "turned off" feeling after coming was my biggest problem. I only watched my wife and her long-term boyfriend a few times when they were dating. I dealt with it by masturbating beforehand so that the idea of my wife making love with someone else was that much harder to accept, which eventually made her meetings with him more exciting for me because I had to cope with it "soberly". Without the arousal it's sort of like reversed chastity, or something.

Interesting. I am hoping those feelings do not hit me hard. Right now they hit me and that is just us in bed talking about her being with a black man as I play with her. Once she has an orgasm and we are done there is truly this awkward period where I cannot believe I talked about her taking a hung black man to bed and letting him make love to her and telling her I wanted her to be with him to find out what it feels like to be with a man who an make her feel things I cannot.
It is weird to think about as we walk by each other in the hallway afterwards getting a ******* and sometimes I shudder because I literally tell her to take a black man because his manhood is bigger and she will find him a better lover in many ways and once she gets going she admits she finds a hung black man more arousing than me in a lot of ways so it is a lot to digest.

 

[pussyhubby]

Interesting. I am hoping those feelings do not hit me hard. Right now they hit me and that is just us in bed talking about her being with a black man as I play with her. Once she has an orgasm and we are done there is truly this awkward period where I cannot believe I talked about her taking a hung black man to bed and letting him make love to her and telling her I wanted her to be with him to find out what it feels like to be with a man who an make her feel things I cannot.
It is weird to think about as we walk by each other in the hallway afterwards getting a ******* and sometimes I shudder because I literally tell her to take a black man because his manhood is bigger and she will find him a better lover in many ways and once she gets going she admits she finds a hung black man more arousing than me in a lot of ways so it is a lot to digest.

That was the hardest part for me, still feeling like a "man" after coming and learning to crave that feeling once I was no longer aroused. This might sound stupid but for the two years we were into this heavily one of my "tricks" was looking at myself in the mirror, in my eyes, after coming, and saying things like "I want my wife to fuck Black men" or "my wife fucks Black men" or "I love my wife for taking Black dick". I got to the point where it turned me on more when I was no longer aroused because then I could focus on being supportive and not feeling jealous.

 

[WillandSusn]

Being caged, makes it easier for me to avoid post-orgasm feelings. But I still suffer a lot during her sessions with a black bull. Physically, due to the cage's restraining effects on my penis, and psychically, when comparing her reactions and behavior then and with me. However, due to some character incompatibility with one of her bulls, I stupidly suggested to her she could meet him alone and send pics to me. Not knowing where she is or with whom else is devastating although exciting. It's about security, arousal, guilt, jealousy, and humiliation all at once.

Yes. All very much part of both your transition and your "enjoyment" of her new sexuality. Allowing her to meet "unknown" black men allows her to explore her fantasys as a call girl and ******* which opens her sexuality to new levels of seduction, submission, and surrender. It further reduces her inhibitions to new and different sexuality. Make sure she gives you a full report of her activities ( no names of the studs ) which further reinforces her acceptance of her new sexuality.

 

[WillandSusn]

That was the hardest part for me, still feeling like a "man" after coming and learning to crave that feeling once I was no longer aroused. This might sound stupid but for the two years we were into this heavily one of my "tricks" was looking at myself in the mirror, in my eyes, after coming, and saying things like "I want my wife to fuck Black men" or "my wife fucks Black men" or "I love my wife for taking Black dick". I got to the point where it turned me on more when I was no longer aroused because then I could focus on being supportive and not feeling jealous.

Yes. Accepting her transition and conversion to BBC is difficult for most husbands but acknowledging your own acceptance and preferance of black sexuality is even more profound. It becomes less important that you orgasm and you enjoy her pussy as you get more satisfaction from watching her with BBC and seeing him fill her pussy with his hot black mans semen and sperm.

 

[WillandSusn]

Interesting. I am hoping those feelings do not hit me hard. Right now they hit me and that is just us in bed talking about her being with a black man as I play with her. Once she has an orgasm and we are done there is truly this awkward period where I cannot believe I talked about her taking a hung black man to bed and letting him make love to her and telling her I wanted her to be with him to find out what it feels like to be with a man who an make her feel things I cannot.
It is weird to think about as we walk by each other in the hallway afterwards getting a ******* and sometimes I shudder because I literally tell her to take a black man because his manhood is bigger and she will find him a better lover in many ways and once she gets going she admits she finds a hung black man more arousing than me in a lot of ways so it is a lot to digest.

You are well on the way to achieving your goal of having her enjoy BBC but your second thoughts are common. Part of the issue is your conflicts with "white" sexuality and "pagan" sexuality. Most white folks have been conditioned that sex is evil but necessary for procreation so the man must ejaculate as soon as he can to complete the task at hand. There is also some natural survival conditioning here as copulating males and females in the wild are exposed to attack by preditors. However , "pagan" sexuality is for pleasure and lasts a long as possible which, of course, is much discouraged by the church. You should perhaps try to extend your time at sex with your wife especially if she enjoys a bbc dildo in her pussy now. Giving her many orgasms over several hours of sex also extends your time of sexual stimulation but your focus is not as much on your hard ( caged?) Penis as it is on the large BBC cock/dildo in her pussy giving her such good orgasms. When the time comes and it is a real black stud fucking her you will be much better prepared emotionally and physically to accept and enjoy your success.

 

[Seth1805]

That was the hardest part for me, still feeling like a "man" after coming and learning to crave that feeling once I was no longer aroused. This might sound stupid but for the two years we were into this heavily one of my "tricks" was looking at myself in the mirror, in my eyes, after coming, and saying things like "I want my wife to fuck Black men" or "my wife fucks Black men" or "I love my wife for taking Black dick". I got to the point where it turned me on more when I was no longer aroused because then I could focus on being supportive and not feeling jealous.

I think we feel like "men", I think it might be we worry about how our wive's view us after all the talk of a black man satisfying them, don't you think? I know I do and that is why when we are done I feel self conscious around my wife because I really get into it about how a black man would be perfect for her in bed and I do not know if she sees me as the "man" she once did.
You do not sound stupid at all. I do things to combat emotions I experience with my wife and actually analyze my thought process knowing that it is natural to feel jealousy or angst but that I have to keep them in check.

 

[Mikeandstacy]

I do not cum while watching her. We do reclaim sex where I will have sex with her after her partner has finished. Sometimes the partner is still present. If I do cum before they are finished, I do have a significant decrease in excitement and do get some level of anxiety. I also do have this after the reclaim sex. It lasts for several hours or possibly until the next day, but then I'm back to wishing she would do it again. It's a roller coaster of emotions and you really need to be ready for it. It's also one of the reasons I do it. The excitement, the emotional distress and then the excitement again.

Wow this hits home

 

[WillandSusn]

I think we feel like "men", I think it might be we worry about how our wive's view us after all the talk of a black man satisfying them, don't you think? I know I do and that is why when we are done I feel self conscious around my wife because I really get into it about how a black man would be perfect for her in bed and I do not know if she sees me as the "man" she once did.
You do not sound stupid at all. I do things to combat emotions I experience with my wife and actually analyze my thought process knowing that it is natural to feel jealousy or angst but that I have to keep them in check.

Different times today. More women want to enjoy black cock and sex with black men. White husbands find themselves conflicted as they see IR porn and the awesome sexuality BBC brings to white women and the loss of inhibitions. Conversations about sexual experimentation often lead to BBC. Husband learn wives are well aware of these opportunities and are often more willing than husbands had thought. Things progress beyond conversations and husbands find themselves watching as wives enjoy black lovers and dealing with new feelings. The sex is a huge turn on but she seems to enjoy it too much. Cuck husband seems to now have a very different woman for a wife.

 

[GiselaHoll]

I think we feel like "men", I think it might be we worry about how our wive's view us after all the talk of a black man satisfying them, don't you think? I know I do and that is why when we are done I feel self conscious around my wife because I really get into it about how a black man would be perfect for her in bed and I do not know if she sees me as the "man" she once did.
You do not sound stupid at all. I do things to combat emotions I experience with my wife and actually analyze my thought process knowing that it is natural to feel jealousy or angst but that I have to keep them in check.

You're spot on. I have struggled to understand my wife's point of view on the whole thing. She doesn't want to humiliate me, but wants me to stay closer to her, hold her hands, kiss and caress her while she is enjoying sex with her black man. It's been hard for me to understand this is part of her sexual marital experience. I accepted the cage to keep my excitement until the bull is finished and felt offended when one guy tried to be set the rules. I physically suffer a lot with the cage watching my wife and even after the bull has left to remove it and when trying to get an erection. But without it I would probably ejaculate after minutes and go berserk on them. My wife has had more understanding of my feelings than I had. This is what defines us as males and explains why we are so possessive. She instead accepted to meet her previous bull alone and I did not understand she wanted to spare my suffering. For me, that was one of her several contradictions about her view of the lifestyle.

 

[Seth1805]

You're spot on. I have struggled to understand my wife's point of view on the whole thing. She doesn't want to humiliate me, but wants me to stay closer to her, hold her hands, kiss and caress her while she is enjoying sex with her black man. It's been hard for me to understand this is part of her sexual marital experience. I accepted the cage to keep my excitement until the bull is finished and felt offended when one guy tried to be set the rules. I physically suffer a lot with the cage watching my wife and even after the bull has left to remove it and when trying to get an erection. But without it I would probably ejaculate after minutes and go berserk on them. My wife has had more understanding of my feelings than I had. This is what defines us as males and explains why we are so possessive. She instead accepted to meet her previous bull alone and I did not understand she wanted to spare my suffering. For me, that was one of her several contradictions about her view of the lifestyle.

IMHO
I think our wives can be enigmas when it comes to this but if they are involved their motivations are pure.
By nature, women are very calculating creatures. When it comes to sex and sexual partners they leave little to chance and the being married part is an obstacle our wives do not take lightly.
My wife would never enter into this unless she felt secure about her status in our marriage and alternatively knew she was at liberty to sleep with another man without any fear of consequences.
My wife leans both ways in the department of wanting my affection and what some say is humiliation. My wife longs for my affection in this but she has said she is curious to see how I measure up with a black man in the bedroom and by that she means she will make candid remarks of the obvious size difference between myself and a black man's manhood. She flat out said it just talking so I take her at her word.
My wife gets it can be a slight to my ego but she isn't going to avoid the issue either. She is the type to give a compliment where it is warranted and has given me my due throughout our marriage so it would be almost like pity if she did not speak up if she was impressed.
Your wife is like mine, she understands my emotions more-so than I do at times, hence the talk about being candid. Your wife sounds very in tune with her emotions

 

[WillandSusn]

IMHO
I think our wives can be enigmas when it comes to this but if they are involved their motivations are pure.
By nature, women are very calculating creatures. When it comes to sex and sexual partners they leave little to chance and the being married part is an obstacle our wives do not take lightly.
My wife would never enter into this unless she felt secure about her status in our marriage and alternatively knew she was at liberty to sleep with another man without any fear of consequences.
My wife leans both ways in the department of wanting my affection and what some say is humiliation. My wife longs for my affection in this but she has said she is curious to see how I measure up with a black man in the bedroom and by that she means she will make candid remarks of the obvious size difference between myself and a black man's manhood. She flat out said it just talking so I take her at her word.
My wife gets it can be a slight to my ego but she isn't going to avoid the issue either. She is the type to give a compliment where it is warranted and has given me my due throughout our marriage so it would be almost like pity if she did not speak up if she was impressed.
Your wife is like mine, she understands my emotions more-so than I do at times, hence the talk about being candid. Your wife sounds very in tune with her emotions

Smart women get the husbands approval and acceptance. One way or another. Making us witness these events puts us in compromise. If we let it continue , we are giving our approval. We try hard but we are stimulated and if not caged , we get hard erections which also signal our approval. If we then ejaculate , we have lost the battle of our emotions and she has won. We must accept what we have observed. We are compromised. They do this over and over again until we are submissive and surrender to our fate. And they know what they are doing. Cake and eat it too