Experienced White Husbands: How do you deal with *that* Post-Orgasm feeling?

[jimbobin]

i think it is really important for all cuckolds and their partners to get to know what there feelings are, and how they react post orgasm.
By fully understanding this you can ensure that you have a good experience, however I think it also present a wonderful training oppertunity to explore those post-orgasm feelings. you can play with pushing his limits and his submission.

 

[Subby]

It is better to not cum if you want to keep the horny feeling.
I'm usually kept locked and ruined a few days later.

 

[Report]

It’s something I had to adjust to myself. We usually don’t have sex for a day or so after just to get back equilibrium.

This is probably the best advice for people new to the lifestyle. I wouldn't try having an orgasm while the action is going on unless I had quite a bit of experience. Then again the urge to stroke your cock while watching is so great. Maybe that's why cages are pretty popular in this lifestyle.

 

[firedogg81]

I do not cum while watching her. We do reclaim sex where I will have sex with her after her partner has finished. Sometimes the partner is still present. If I do cum before they are finished, I do have a significant decrease in excitement and do get some level of anxiety. I also do have this after the reclaim sex. It lasts for several hours or possibly until the next day, but then I'm back to wishing she would do it again. It's a roller coaster of emotions and you really need to be ready for it. It's also one of the reasons I do it. The excitement, the emotional distress and then the excitement again.

must be so hot

 

[Bellaazz]

I do not cum while watching her. We do reclaim sex where I will have sex with her after her partner has finished. Sometimes the partner is still present. If I do cum before they are finished, I do have a significant decrease in excitement and do get some level of anxiety. I also do have this after the reclaim sex. It lasts for several hours or possibly until the next day, but then I'm back to wishing she would do it again. It's a roller coaster of emotions and you really need to be ready for it. It's also one of the reasons I do it. The excitement, the emotional distress and then the excitement again.

EXACTLY the same here !!!

 

[WillandSusn]

yeah, the buildup is the most fun part. sometimes i can get so wound up and hawt that my legs get weak and i almost feel lightheaded. i'm not so good at edging like i've read about on here. i need to practice that. maybe a cage is the solution! lol

. Yes. Cage does two things. First. It controls your sex. Second. As you are more and more aware of the cage being there , you are more focused on sex and your restricted condition. Difficult at first when your cock still swells against the cage and you need to cum so badly for some men. Other men still cum in the cage so some have the penile insert as well to block the ejaculations

 

[WillandSusn]

This is probably the best advice for people new to the lifestyle. I wouldn't try having an orgasm while the action is going on unless I had quite a bit of experience. Then again the urge to stroke your cock while watching is so great. Maybe that's why cages are pretty popular in this lifestyle.

. Agree. Cage the husbands

 

[BadJoey]

If you can only support your wife fucking other men when you are horny then you probably resent being dominated by her. I think that any man who has a woman that cuckolds them should either accept it and do their best to help and enjoy or walk away. There is nothing wrong with being submissive to a woman but very few people are willing to admit that they are. The last taboo

I submit to my wife totally. I serve her and her lovers however they ask. I am not allowed to cum or even get erections. My wife aborts my erections by smashing my balls.

 

[Little Dinkus]

I've cummed before my wife and her bulls a lot. It hasn't bothered me at all to sit there and still be watching her get pleasured.

I time my cumming, I insist the bull and my wife respect me

 

[Little Dinkus]

no cages, no panties, I always let my equipment swing free,

 

[BadJoey]

Hi everyone. As the husband of this duo, I can attest to cumming way before her bull does. Sometimes i sit and watch till they finish, other times i will kiss her rub her. I have gotten drinks, put down music and gotten her wet for him to fuck again.
My wife is my porn star, she and I love to lay and play and talk after she and him are done. To be honest watching your wife squirt all over another man is a game changer It changs our sex for the better.

Yes truth

 

[VideoZ]

In our case, about to explore our very first "Fuck My Wife with your BBC" experience, I think I'm more concerned about how SHE will feel afterward /next day etc etc... I'm gonna be MORE than "OK" (I know this for certain cuz nobody knows me like I do LOL) but since SHE is the "Good Italian Girl/Good Wife /Good Catholic girl with slut fantasy/Loyal devoted housewife", the after effect or potential issues will all be on her, but I'm gonna be VERY supportive and sensitive to her etc etc, whatever she needs, if anything, cuz she's my world, my "Goddess", my "Mistress", my everything and I love her even MORE for just simply even CONSIDERING doing this, and for discussing it with me ahead of time, etc etc... It's both of us with the fantasy and desire , but only one of us with any potential "feelings" or "ramifications" afterward and I know I've gotta be strong and supportive to her, event after being proven a wimp/lesser man/lesser cock/unsatisfying mate/etc by what will surely be the "Fuck of her lifetime" by the "Bull/Stud" she's always needed and deserved.

But I'm here for you baby, cuz I love you even MORE for doing this, if we do..!!! (she sometimes reads this website also )

 

[uksouthcoast]

With my ex wife, I let her relax and take in the emotion, when we left we went for a coffee and she just released in words her thoughts and emotions and how she felt, and wanting to share her experiencee with her close freind when we got home

 

[Bellaazz]

In our case, about to explore our very first "Fuck My Wife with your BBC" experience, I think I'm more concerned about how SHE will feel afterward /next day etc etc... I'm gonna be MORE than "OK" (I know this for certain cuz nobody knows me like I do LOL) but since SHE is the "Good Italian Girl/Good Wife /Good Catholic girl with slut fantasy/Loyal devoted housewife", the after effect or potential issues will all be on her, but I'm gonna be VERY supportive and sensitive to her etc etc, whatever she needs, if anything, cuz she's my world, my "Goddess", my "Mistress", my everything and I love her even MORE for just simply even CONSIDERING doing this, and for discussing it with me ahead of time, etc etc... It's both of us with the fantasy and desire , but only one of us with any potential "feelings" or "ramifications" afterward and I know I've gotta be strong and supportive to her, event after being proven a wimp/lesser man/lesser cock/unsatisfying mate/etc by what will surely be the "Fuck of her lifetime" by the "Bull/Stud" she's always needed and deserved.

But I'm here for you baby, cuz I love you even MORE for doing this, if we do..!!! (she sometimes reads this website also )

Good luck !!! I hope it goes well. If she is like my wife (goodie two shoes/Good Catholic girl) she will feel guilty right after and especially the next day. It is important to shower her with love, don't go too overboard but she may need you to "re-connect" with her. Let her know you still love her and support her. She may feel slutty and you need to help her reconcile that by showing her how you not only accept that but you LOVE it !!!! Keep us posted !

 

[Report]

Learning to avoid that "turned off" feeling after coming was my biggest problem. I only watched my wife and her long-term boyfriend a few times when they were dating. I dealt with it by masturbating beforehand so that the idea of my wife making love with someone else was that much harder to accept, which eventually made her meetings with him more exciting for me because I had to cope with it "soberly". Without the arousal it's sort of like reversed chastity, or something.

Interesting way to deal with this "problem." This lifestyle without arousal would be my biggest challenge.

 

[Report]

Sometimes the partner is still present.

This must be SO INTENSE. Having sex with your wife while she has the stud's cum in her hair, on her stomach, sloppy seconds, etc would be so erotic. And to do this after watching them!!!!!!!!! Pretty sure I would cum so quickly.

 

[Subby]

She keeps me locked and told me a year or so back that she didn't want me cumming for at least a week after she fucks someone. The reason is that I had a 'wobble' once the day after and got a bit upset seeing them kiss and cuddle after fucking.
So, she told me last week that she wasn't going to unlock me until my birthday on may 8. Well it had already been nearly 3 weeks, so I was nervous but excited. I both love and hate her locking me for long periods. She plays with my locked cock sometimes and insists I thank her when she does.
Now she's announced she is going to fuck a BBC in the next couple of weeks and I asked her what this meant for my scheduled unlocking date. She told me that she can't move my birthday forward and that I'll have to wait for my birthday treat.
The life of a locked sub and cuck is not for everyone lol.

 

[Taway9341]

I will always wait until our bull cums before I am allowed to cum. It would be incredibly rude and disrespectful to cum before the bull. I would feel shame, embarrassment, and regret-and it would ruin the excitement. Once the bull has cum, I will masturbate until I cum and the feelings I get are incredible. I will feel humiliated, jealous, envious and I become overwhelmed with excitement. Ejaculating after the bull has cum is such a humbling feeling and it reminds me of my place as a submissive cuckold.

 

[WillandSusn]

This must be SO INTENSE. Having sex with your wife while she has the stud's cum in her hair, on her stomach, sloppy seconds, etc would be so erotic. And to do this after watching them!!!!!!!!! Pretty sure I would cum so quickly.

. Yes. But also so very stimulating. Any questions about her slutty behavior are answered. Any questions about her desire for BBC are answered. Her pussy is often so stretched , it feels like some huge cavern to my SWC. And it is so hot and wet. She has had so many orgasms that she is semi delirous and any stud can have her pussy even me. So i sneak my SWC in there and mix my cum with his or the other BBC that may have cum inside her. Later , after its all over , she rarely remembers that I also came inside her and she just goes on about how wonderful the young BBC were. And I just smile and say Yes.

 

[Pegramguy]

At first it was weird and while I enjoyed it, I had a hard time letting go of the deep fear and emotions within me of seeing her enjoy a huge black cock going in and out of her tight white pussy as if it didn't initially belong there. Like the two werent meant to be together because of his size and her petite body and maybe she wouldn't like it.Talking soon afterwards and days later I was able to let those feelings to and just acknowledge them and understand it was just sex and to see it initially one dimensional though that later changed thats just how i dealt with it at first.
Then next was accepting we both liked his massive size inside her and that her pussy would eventually stretch to fit it and seeing him fuck her hard and her liking it was his way of stretching her pussy to better fit his massive cock. She admitted it was the best sex ever, she loved his cock inside her and how good it felt when he exploded his massive load inside her. She loved me but she wants a lot more of him. The next time I felt a little better because I liked him too and new she did on top of the fact I didn't have to feel jealous or inadaquate sexually because I already couldnt compete with his body or girth so I found comfort knowing we found a good guy we both like to fuck her well and while I always felt a little tense afterwards eventually sucking him in front of her and being included helped me cope and find peace and focus during them mating and afterwards by serving them and helping us realize the best possible sexual experience we could have together and find peace with knowing he was just over for sex and would eventually leave us as we were even if he stayed over a weekend. And coming to terms with hearing them talk affectionately with each other and after he lleft discussing with my ex-wife how much she wants him, loves having sex with him and how much she loves me for letting her have this and dealing with hearing her tell me she only wants to have sex with him for awhile and save her pussy for him and wants me to be ok with holding her legs open and fluffing him so he can cum inside her was difficult but that she still loved me but wanted me to help to help us both deal with our feeings and so she knew i understood her feelings toward him and to get more comfortable with him being our alpha when he was around. That was probably the hardest to deal with at first afterwards but eventually we settled in and began getting in line with our roles and positions with her spreading open for him casually in front of me all of the house and me recognizing his super physical stamina and cock fucking my wifes pussy and coming inside her beside me which helped me get used to that and hearing her tell me how good he fucks her and better than her husband and having me tell him to cum inside her and how good they look together. All of that helped deliver us to a peaceful blissful place in our marriage and arrangements with long term and short term bulls. Communication and honest and trust. If she is going to invite someone over or wants something you dont you have to talk about it and eventually find a happy median. Maybe he stays one night at a time instead of the entire weekend or week until everyone is comfortable. If you dont want the bull to come inside her and they both do then acknowledge your feelings and deal with the aftermath that maybe she didnt feel she had a choice in the end and maybe it was the bull too. If she admits her lovers cock and sex is the best and its going to continue support her until it interferes with daily life and give them room to bond and grow and also fuck. My ex went crazy after the first hung black man she had and invited him over all the time and expected me to immediately be ok with them fucking all over but it took time and she didn't think it through all the way. She just fell in love with his massive cock fucking her and that she finally got another man besides me so why shouldn't she show me her husband how much she needed him and didn't understand I hadnt had time to process everything yet before she started having him over and fucking him regularly in front of me.