Wives that go BBC only - Reality Question

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Hi all,

So we all know that part of the cuckold relationship in reality involves the husband having less sex with his wife and more masturbation instead.

For example I am a wannabe still but my wife is aware of my wishes, we have sex about at least 3-5 times a week. When I want it I get it. Sometimes I am dominant to her even though I am a submissive at heart. I do it because I love her. I shave my everything down front and back to feel submissive and she dominates me too.

Now the question? 3 parts.

For those in the real cuckolding, how much sex were you having before becoming a cuckold and how much now?

What can I expect if my wife finally takes the plunge someday?

I read a lot about wives "retiring" their husbands from penetrative sex, how real is that for those already in the lifestyle?

Thank you.
 
bound2bmine said:
So in my case with my x-wife with her last lover it was sort of a natural progression I got less and less sex. To the point that i was getting basically none. They had an incredible chemistry together that's them in my avatar.
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Wow, that is an amazing picture of your wife.
How did you feel as you were getting less sex while she was cuckolding you? Did you enjoy the denial? What was your mental state?
 
Cuckolddreamer said:
So we all know that part of the cuckold relationship in reality involves the husband having less sex with his wife and more masturbation instead.
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....Well, I didn't know that, if we're talking about voluntary cuckolding, which is what this site seems to focus on. On a true cuckolding basis, I'd say that might be true, at least to some extent, since the wife is primarily cheating on her hubby because the relationship between them is going badly. Actually, voluntary cuckolding enhances the sexual relationship between the husband & wife. If the husband is denied sex with his wife during this activity, its probably because of choice, not because another lover has replaced him.
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We constantly negotiate our shared realities with the people in our lives. You are dominant with your wife because she likes it. Maybe she will deny you sex if she senses that it is part of your fantasy. Hopefully you are talking with her about it but you are always sending signals whether you are aware of them or not. What is not going to happen is that your lives will suddenly head down a predetermined and unalterable path where she is addicted to black dick and you are a celibate sissy. Unless that is where you want it to go. Then maybe it is already happening.
 
whiteshadoe said:
We constantly negotiate our shared realities with the people in our lives. You are dominant with your wife because she likes it. Maybe she will deny you sex if she senses that it is part of your fantasy. Hopefully you are talking with her about it but you are always sending signals whether you are aware of them or not. What is not going to happen is that your lives will suddenly head down a predetermined and unalterable path where she is addicted to black dick and you are a celibate sissy. Unless that is where you want it to go. Then maybe it is already happening.
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Agree with these comments. It's not that 'black and white' as to where you will end up.
When we started swinging me and hubby were having more sex as it really turned us both on, but over last couple of years our sex life has decreased. I get more of my sexual satisfaction from other men but get my love and emotional needs from hubby.
But that's just where we are at this moment. With a bit of a change, and us both working at it, me and hubby would be fucking well again.
Have to say, the opening poster says they're fucking '3-5 times a week', for a married couple I think that's great! Don't spoilt that!
 
whiteshadoe said:
We constantly negotiate our shared realities with the people in our lives. You are dominant with your wife because she likes it. Maybe she will deny you sex if she senses that it is part of your fantasy. Hopefully you are talking with her about it but you are always sending signals whether you are aware of them or not. What is not going to happen is that your lives will suddenly head down a predetermined and unalterable path where she is addicted to black dick and you are a celibate sissy. Unless that is where you want it to go. Then maybe it is already happening.
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Me being a sissy/cuck in chastity would be my ultimate dream while she sleeps with a lover. But that is too deep for her at the moment I believe. We do have a chastity cage but I could not get in correctly.

But I don't want to scare her, we do watch only cuckold porn in the house, and I do show sissys here and there.

I want to enter the lifestyle at a pace that is good for her and allows her to decide how far and how fast. I don't have to be made a sissy, but if she wanted too in the end that would be great too.
 
Boomerncactus said:
I guess it's really how your relationship developed. We started swinging early. Then she would also play alone, as we had an open relationship. She met a gentleman ,whom clicked and became her bull. During that timeframe we had constant communication about our relationship and how she liked switching from submissive to dominant. We started a female led relationship, which in fact we always had if I think about it (most women let us think we are in charge). I have never had a more happy life, seldom arguments more kisses. We still have sex 3-4 times a week, as she is in the prime of her sexuality. She still meets Fuck buddies . Has yet to find a replacement bull , the other moved away, but has meet with some promising prospects.
As far as how are Dynamics have changed, I still and always will remain her number 1 . After 23 years I know all the buttons to push, suck and lick. We still have our cuddle time each morning and talk about her dates or what fantasy she has currently. We still look each other in the eyes and tell each other I live you.
Now to get there took a lot patience, reinforcement of my love and that she is and always will be beautiful to me. Encouraging her to let her social anxiety/ strict upbringing go and to explore her sexuality.

Yes she will look at you differently, but it is up to you as how. It would be the same kind of difference if she where to PEG you.
I got along well with her bull and we where fine. Sometimes I would get to tag team ,but most it was just the two of them . She has the choice to spend nights and weekends with him or her dates. As it's her body and life and I do not own her or try to ******* any of my fantasy on her. Yes I do get that twinge of jealousy and often think I cannot satisfy her. But she comes home looks me in the eyes everyday and let's me know I am her husband and her number 1 . Then proceeds to fuck the hell out of me for an hour. Like I said she has a very strong sex drive
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Thank you for that response. It does take time to get there. She has mentioned on a couple of ocasions about this guy that was hitting on her and she explained and I showed that I was ok with it.
Then she mentioned about noticing this guys dick on the train, she spoke about it for a while and that was not her custom to mention she notices things like that.
But beyond those mentions nothing so far. I don't push it since I don't want her to go were she is not confortable. I just hope she does it someday.
 
Ann4BBC said:
Agree with these comments. It's not that 'black and white' as to where you will end up.
When we started swinging me and hubby were having more sex as it really turned us both on, but over last couple of years our sex life has decreased. I get more of my sexual satisfaction from other men but get my love and emotional needs from hubby.
But that's just where we are at this moment. With a bit of a change, and us both working at it, me and hubby would be fucking well again.
Have to say, the opening poster says they're fucking '3-5 times a week', for a married couple I think that's great! Don't spoilt that!
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What you described about your husband and yourself is something I actually would love to have. To give her emotiobal love and her lover the sexual needs. I would not be against giving up my 3-5 times a week sex with her in exchange for handjobs and such if it meant I would get to live the lifestyle with her. I love to fuck but my other fetishes are stronger and I would be willing to sacrifice that if my wife would want. It's just a matter of what she would find enjoyable in her sexual needs. It can't be ****** like it is been said before.
 
Cuckolddreamer said:
Wow, that is an amazing picture of your wife.
How did you feel as you were getting less sex while she was cuckolding you? Did you enjoy the denial? What was your mental state?
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Interesting that you should say mental state. I do think there is a very strong mental dynamics that happen with the cuckold lifestyle.
Did you enjoy the denial? Yes I have to say part of it I did it's like a pain and pleasure thing. To me on of the biggest turn on was the way he got in her head and turned her. How she slowly became his. How she opened up for him some of it obvious in the avatar picture. A very surreal situation.
 
Cuckolddreamer said:
What you described about your husband and yourself is something I actually would love to have. To give her emotiobal love and her lover the sexual needs. I would not be against giving up my 3-5 times a week sex with her in exchange for handjobs and such if it meant I would get to live the lifestyle with her. I love to fuck but my other fetishes are stronger and I would be willing to sacrifice that if my wife would want. It's just a matter of what she would find enjoyable in her sexual needs. It can't be ****** like it is been said before.
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My relationship with my actual GF began at first mostly as a companion and best friend. Companionship was more important than love or even sex. Than we split because she allegedly fucked for fun with a well hung coal black rasta guy. Lateron after knowing about cuckolding and several experiences with other women I tried again with my former GF and with her I was able to enjoy the perfect cuckold relationship. As companions we have an excellent mutual understanding and so it was easy to me to show my cuckold feelings for her. She is African, tall, curvy with big butt and big tits, Latin face features and light skinned (darker than caramel, so as milk coffee). She is much younger than me, she is 29 years old and we met in Africa where I lived for longer periods during many years. Conclusion: we fit very well emotionally together and she is keen to have a stable relationship with a guy who respects her and is a guarantee for financial stability. She is not dominant but has a strong caracter. I treat her well and she is easy going and very accomodating. She is from traditional background but has lived in the party scene with several lovers and fuck buddies.
Sex without (before) cuckolding was good for me because she is extremely gorgeous and sexy and we are experienced lovers and she comes quite strongly and quick.
For me it works very well to combine the fetish and the fuck. At first I blamed her for cheating on me with big black rasta cock in the past, she got afraid, but as she saw I was getting excited she played the game and shortly after I sprayed her tits with a huge cum load. Then I said her how much I loved her, making her compliments kissing and huggling her. Cuckold satisfaction gives me first a blow and then I get extremely loving and caring. Lateron we played cuckold sex, and with time she got a real expert to excite me and make me come on command with a mega orgasm during at least 2 minutes with uncontroled moans and spasms. She is very happy and proud to excite her male and "husband" beyond control and making him come so strong. To come quick the first time for a healthy (even older) guy is not always bad, because in my case I get hard and I mean real hard, in an half an hour time, max. 1 hour. I can last quite long but it is my GF who decide how long I can fuck . When she teases me I come in a 30 second time.
Also very gratifying are the walks along the beach , she is wearing a hot bikini and all the bbc around getting horny and a big rod. Ist not only the fact a sexy woman is around, for this alone they don't move, but they get excited they have a bigger one and could safisfy this sex bomb much better. We get all very horny, my GF gets wet and sometimes we rent a hut or visit a friend living nearby to immediately release the tension. At first at max. 2 minutes, sometime only 30 iseconds. The BBCs were right. My GF is so "cruel" she integrates it in the next session.

I advice to make cuckold game plays and make experiments and the husband/BF shows what is exciting him. A
 
MacNfries said:
....Well, I didn't know that, if we're talking about voluntary cuckolding, which is what this site seems to focus on. On a true cuckolding basis, I'd say that might be true, at least to some extent, since the wife is primarily cheating on her hubby because the relationship between them is going badly. Actually, voluntary cuckolding enhances the sexual relationship between the husband & wife. If the husband is denied sex with his wife during this activity, its probably because of choice, not because another lover has replaced him.
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Very well stated.. we do this because it enhances our marriage.. we do it together.. If I were 'replacing' my husband as sexual partner I would have to question my marriage..
 
ok_couple49 said:
Very well stated.. we do this because it enhances our marriage.. we do it together.. If I were 'replacing' my husband as sexual partner I would have to question my marriage..
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100% this. My husband and I play to BOTH have fun. Together we're a team doing what we like in our own lives. Nothing replaces him, and our sexual fetishes just happen to run right along the same lines.
 
Cuckolddreamer said:
Hi all,

So we all know that part of the cuckold relationship in reality involves the husband having less sex with his wife and more masturbation instead.

For example I am a wannabe still but my wife is aware of my wishes, we have sex about at least 3-5 times a week. When I want it I get it. Sometimes I am dominant to her even though I am a submissive at heart. I do it because I love her. I shave my everything down front and back to feel submissive and she dominates me too.

Now the question? 3 parts.

For those in the real cuckolding, how much sex were you having before becoming a cuckold and how much now?

What can I expect if my wife finally takes the plunge someday?

I read a lot about wives "retiring" their husbands from penetrative sex, how real is that for those already in the lifestyle?

Thank you.
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Our sex life has not changed much. Still about five times a week. We just talk and tease/humiliate during sex.

I am still gradually getting into the humiliation of my hubby and becomimg more vocal. Was always pretty reserve but cumming out of my shell now. I don't even look at white men anymore.

We will always have penetrative sex. I love sex with black men but I "love" my hubby. We are soul mates and I'm just lucky that he is open minded sexually. He also gets hall passes to be with women but most times prefers to get off watching me. But I do "retire" him for 7-10 days before a scheduled date. The longer you keep him from ejaculation the more you can get him to obey your commands.

Have just recently got him to clean me afterwards. Not brave enough to have him clean bull etc. Yet!!
 
My husband and I started swinging a few years ago. It is fun and we live a very exciting sex life. After that we moved to cuckold marriage.Hubby is now a sissy in training as we both agreed that sissy cuckold husband role will suit him and suit us the best. Now i completely cut him off .
 
Maria2281975 said:
My husband and I started swinging a few years ago. It is fun and we live a very exciting sex life. After that we moved to cuckold marriage.Hubby is now a sissy in training as we both agreed that sissy cuckold husband role will suit him and suit us the best. Now i completely cut him off .
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That is a scary thought to be completely cut off. Very erotic though to be denied. My eventual goal is to be like your husband.
 
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