It`s disillusioning how terms are being used, misused or reinvented. i`m already giving up on that one.
(referring to "hotwife", "cuckold", "bull", "queen of spades", ...)
Words are important, they help define us to others. When you hear 'Doctor' you immediately think of medical professional, but he may have a doctorate in physics! This is why we use the terms in this lifestyle and correct those who call my husband a 'cuck'
Terms we don't use are "Hotwife", "Cuckold", and "Queen of Spades" - However, I do refer to my Black lover as a Bull - he likes it, hubby likes it and I like it - besides, there isn't any other adequate term for the role he plays. I have used 'playmate' a few times as well, but it doesn't have the impact (IMO) that "Bull" has.
Another issue is the term for the woman. Already stated that we don't like 'Hotwife' or 'QoS' - but there must be something that's complementary to 'Bull' If anyone has ideas, I'm quite interested!
Finally, while we're on the topic of the importance of words.... I DETEST the words 'WHORE' and 'SLUT'!!!!
The guy begs his wife, who was quite content with her husband, to go Black. Then he starts calling her a whore or slut - the woman he supposedly loves; the woman who probably bore his children, yet he degrades her like that! Unless, as in all things, the woman likes it, then there isn't any excuse for it!
Okay, will get off my soapbox now.
Love all the recent comments!
Donna